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If you enjoy your job, what do you do?

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UsernameShmusername2024 · 20/05/2025 07:38

Have struggled for years to really understand what I actually want to do. I've mainly worked in public sector policy type roles and currently am in a reasonably senior role where I manage direct programme delivery and also lead strategic decisions about programme design and aligning with local and national govt policy, etc. This is challenging and it's constantly an uphill battle to get different politicians to agree, to find internal funding to invest in projects, etc.
In some ways it's a great job - we'll paid, flexible, great manager and team, and I believe in our mission. BUT it also has the usual way-too-massive workload, I constantly feel like I'm not good enough for it and lack confidence - this sort of strategy role always involves slowly chipping away at things and it can be very demoralising and just generally hard work!

I'm early 40s so have years of working ahead of me and just can't imagine doing this sort of role forever but have no idea really what I'd be happy doing. If you enjoy your job, what do you do? Would love to get some ideas!

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Bushmillsbabe · 21/05/2025 07:00

AusBoundDD · 20/05/2025 23:59

As a fellow physio this is so lovely to read! DD is following in my footsteps and starting a physiotherapy degree in September, she’s hoping to go into paeds as well so will show her your comment for a bit of pre A-level encouragement (much needed this week🙈)

Good luck to her, we are desperately short of paeds physios in the UK as its not really covered much in the undergraduate degree, so we have to be proactive in seeking out learning opportunities post graduating.

Foostit · 21/05/2025 07:00

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 21/05/2025 00:06

When you say unqualified what do you mean?

@Youstolemygoddamnhouse
It is basically someone who doesn’t have a teaching qualification but is expected to do the job of a teacher for around half of what a qualified teacher is paid! This will become more and more common seeing that teachers are currently leaving the profession in droves and people aren’t exactly queuing up to train.

EggandStress · 21/05/2025 06:58

MartinBishopsbum · 20/05/2025 16:53

Love my job, I work for Citizens Advice

This is my dream job.

Foostit · 21/05/2025 06:55

Labiabella · 20/05/2025 23:20

Both my sister and best friend left teaching in the last two years. It's surprising isn't it how many on this thread are in education and enjoying it.

@Labiabella My thoughts exactly! I taught for 20 years, I did not enjoy it towards the end. The work life balance was non existent. I don’t think I know any teacher who isn’t desperately looking to get out. There’s a group on FB with teachers, a significant proportion of whom have had suicidal thoughts desperately looking to escape teaching. The stories on there are awful! There are just under 175k members! I definitely don’t know any secondary school teacher who loves their job! Once again I’m finding MN appears to be an alternate universe!

LilDeVille · 21/05/2025 06:52

What did you enjoy doing as a kid? Do a grown up version of that.

And do it not-full-time, seems to be key!

Tenofcups · 21/05/2025 06:50

Social worker with 16-18 year olds leaving care, been doing it ten years in the same fantastic team.

Teens are great, although they have been through so many terrible experiences they have so much energy, humour and determination. (Plus makes looking after my own teen a walk in the park).

StuckInPollyannaMode · 21/05/2025 05:01

Marketing and community engagement in the renewables sector. I absolutely love it, work with great people, I’m constantly learning and no two projects are the same. It’s a great industry to be in. I’m agency side, not corporate, so work with a range of clients and my relationship with my business partner is brilliant. I’m super proud of what we’ve achieved.

AusMumhere · 21/05/2025 04:33

Currently on maternity leave but was a case manager for workers compensation

Toddlerteaplease · 21/05/2025 04:31

Paediatric nurse, for 21 years. Still love it!

BadNewsBelle · 21/05/2025 04:12

IBelieveinSomething · 21/05/2025 00:04

i am unsure where you work in NI but GP appointments can’t be pre booked as far as I know. We got to ring at 8.30 to be told an hour later that all appointments are gone. Maybe you are in a better surgery. I think ours are doing their best but impossible to get an appointment.

We can pre-book routine appointments 4 weeks in advance for patients at my surgery as I stated.

There are also 'urgent' on the day appointments we can offer patients when they ring at 8.30am if they cannot wait for a routine appointment - most days these are f2f where we give a time slot for patients to come down, the odd day it will be a telephone appointment with the GP and they organise a time to see the patient themselves.

As I said, our GPs are trying to go back to the way they operated pre-covid where most appts are f2f with minimal phone calls. There are very few surgeries that operate like this now, so yes I'd agree with you that ours sounds better than most.

YourOchreSloth · 21/05/2025 03:16

I am a Social Work Lead, working in Adult Social Care for local authority. Absolutely love it. I supervise a small team of Social Workers and Adult Social Care Practitioners. I take the lead on Mental Capacity practice for the wider team and attend leadership meetings each week to discuss ways to support practitioners. I had 23 years of frontline practice before this role so I feel like I can share my knowledge and experience with others. Morale in the team is great and it is a happy place to work. My job has certainly not always been this rewarding so I feel very lucky to have found something I love to do.

Momof4wonders · 21/05/2025 02:40

I am a professional organizer.
I absolutely love it, everyday is different and so rewarding!

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 21/05/2025 00:06

CameronCook · 20/05/2025 19:57

Unqualified teacher in a SEN school. Always fun, often dramatic, totally fulfilling, crap pay.

When you say unqualified what do you mean?

TheWiseGoose · 21/05/2025 00:05

Solving complex problems using technology. Everyday is challenging and a learning experience and I work with brainy people who humble me.

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 21/05/2025 00:04

Whatagooddog · 20/05/2025 08:37

Ghostwriter - it can be absolutely fascinating and I work with a huge variety of people. I'm very privileged to do this job really and far too old to change it anyway!

Any famous stories? They should feel privileged to work with you as you’re the one doing all the writing.

IBelieveinSomething · 21/05/2025 00:04

BadNewsBelle · 20/05/2025 22:43

After working in retail for 14yrs and becoming Store Manager (which absolutely broke me dealing with zero support from upper management, extremely short staffed and expected to do 4 job roles at once.- 2 store locations) I left, took 6 months off work and enjoyed summer with my 6yr old and 18 month old. In September 2023 I impulsively applied for my current job - GP Receptionist. I agonised from I submitted my application, through interview and even when I accepted the job if I was doing the right thing. Honestly the best job I have ever had - I love the work, dealing with patients, all of it. Best decision I ever made. Great colleagues, very rewarding and I'm not going home mentally or physically exhausted. I'm in NI and our GPs are very much into getting into the old way of how surgery used to be. So we have pre-bookable in advance appointments for the next 4wks with GPs, Practice Nurses, MH Practioner, Treatment Room. Urgent phone calls and face to faces that open each morning at 8.30am everyday as well as the routine pre-bookable. Our GPs are really great. Sorry was so long, I usually see alot of negative comments regarding GPs and Receptionists (with good reason when I read how some surgeries operate now) and wanted to highlight we aren't all bad ☺️ best job I ever had, honestly.

i am unsure where you work in NI but GP appointments can’t be pre booked as far as I know. We got to ring at 8.30 to be told an hour later that all appointments are gone. Maybe you are in a better surgery. I think ours are doing their best but impossible to get an appointment.

Caligirl80 · 21/05/2025 00:03

UsernameShmusername2024 · 20/05/2025 07:38

Have struggled for years to really understand what I actually want to do. I've mainly worked in public sector policy type roles and currently am in a reasonably senior role where I manage direct programme delivery and also lead strategic decisions about programme design and aligning with local and national govt policy, etc. This is challenging and it's constantly an uphill battle to get different politicians to agree, to find internal funding to invest in projects, etc.
In some ways it's a great job - we'll paid, flexible, great manager and team, and I believe in our mission. BUT it also has the usual way-too-massive workload, I constantly feel like I'm not good enough for it and lack confidence - this sort of strategy role always involves slowly chipping away at things and it can be very demoralising and just generally hard work!

I'm early 40s so have years of working ahead of me and just can't imagine doing this sort of role forever but have no idea really what I'd be happy doing. If you enjoy your job, what do you do? Would love to get some ideas!

Take a personality test (the proper ones) to see what kind of person you are in terms of your viewpoints and what you enjoy and don't enjoy - that can be quite illuminating. Also what sort of projects/tasks you have enjoyed - and also not enjoyed - in the past and why. Also consider the type of work environment you like (outdoors? Office? Different locations etc?). Do you like working with others? If so what kind of people? Do you prefer to work by yourself? If it's a split decision then why? Do you like to travel?

There are so many variables here - and the fact is that learning what other people like doesn't really help you to figure out what YOU like. Presumably you have hobbies and things you enjoy and look forward to when you are not working? Also ask yourself what you'd do for work if money were no object and you could just pick...obviously leave the "I'd like to be an Avenger" out of it - it has to be a job that people can actually do) Then consider what you'd need to be able to do to try to do that.

For my own part: I decided that if money were no object (and at the time I had none) I'd want to be a lawyer in the US who worked on important cases that made a difference - and I'd also like to have a proper student experience in the US. Again: I had no money to do this, but I figured out how...and I did it. Did it take a while? Sure. Is it a route that I'd suggest others doing? Who knows - I was lucky to meet kind poeple, I was lucky to be someone people wanted to spend time with, and I was lucky to have the moxie to just go for what I wanted to do and not be overly upset or give up when things took a bit longer or were seemingly impossible. But yup, ended up as an international trial lawyer and I LOVE my profession and I've had the best career...better than any law movies. But that was the product of a lot of thinking, a lot of considering what I wanted in life, a lot of studying and sacrifice (I worked multiple jobs - including gross ones - to be able to afford to pay my way - it was totally worth it.

So...get a better understanding of yourself and the things you like and why you lilke them. Go from there.

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 21/05/2025 00:02

GintyM · 20/05/2025 23:48

CEO of a charity, first employee over a decade ago and have grown, shaped and delivered to meet local needs

Do you get bonuses?

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 21/05/2025 00:01

yeesh · 20/05/2025 23:49

Adult social services, it’s different every day. Love it

I bet you see A LOT!

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 21/05/2025 00:01

DancingFerret · 20/05/2025 23:41

Air traffic controller. I love the job, but occasionally it can impact on my social life because it involves shift work.

Ahh sounds interesting. Can I ask how you got the job? Like any qualifications you needed? Never met anyone that is one before.

AusBoundDD · 20/05/2025 23:59

Bushmillsbabe · 20/05/2025 22:50

Paediatric physio, working with children with complex needs. I love the variety, the teamwork but most of all I love getting to know the children and families. Been in same area for 11 years now and its crazy seeing children I treated as babies now preparing for secondary school - their needs are often lifelong, they 'join' our team as babies and stay with us until 18/19 years old. We get to know their siblings, parents, grandparents, go through highs and lows with them. I have sadly been to some of their funerals, but being invited shows the mutual respect the families and teams hold for each other.

As a fellow physio this is so lovely to read! DD is following in my footsteps and starting a physiotherapy degree in September, she’s hoping to go into paeds as well so will show her your comment for a bit of pre A-level encouragement (much needed this week🙈)

yeesh · 20/05/2025 23:49

Adult social services, it’s different every day. Love it

GintyM · 20/05/2025 23:48

CEO of a charity, first employee over a decade ago and have grown, shaped and delivered to meet local needs

DancingFerret · 20/05/2025 23:41

Air traffic controller. I love the job, but occasionally it can impact on my social life because it involves shift work.

WildJustice · 20/05/2025 23:30

School Secretary in a Primary School.
I love the variety and randomness of the job. My children are in the school too so they might pop in to say hi during the day. I love being able to help fellow Mum's when they are in a bit of a panic or if they are worried a out their child settling etc. I love the school environment, and have lots if little visitors come throughout the day to borrow bits and bobs and have a chat.
There is nothing I would rather do at the minute and would probably still do it if I won the lotto.

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