Should I give my honest to God opinion or just keep quiet?

Don't you just have different tastes and for your sister's wedding it is what she likes? If she is a bit vague about logistics I would help her (if she wants it) with the bigger things she needs to actually have a wedding, rather than worrying about the invitation style.

What is awful to you is beautiful to her and you aren’t the authority on all things beautiful.

You're wrong and you have overstepped. Why are you making her feel bad about her wedding choices. This isn’t very sisterly.

Stay out of it. It’s only invites. It doesn’t matter.

I think you're making your sister insecure by having branded yourself as a "style expert". Let her have her personnality and respect her taste even if it's far away from yours. You do sound a bit condescending with a superiority complex.

She asked you which design you liked, you answered, she doesn't want you to go on about it and you've dropped it.

All sounds fair enough to me.

I too have a relationship with my sister where we are honest with each other. Only we'll call a twat a twat. And that's what we love and appreciate about each other. I think we all need someone in our lives who can say to us well that's bloody stupid and then you both burst out laughing.

Just forget about the invites now, go dress shopping with her and have fun together.

dh and I were booked into a hotel like that on an island. It had been described as a charming and homely B and B. We had imagined things like a scrubbed wooden kitchen table that had seen much kneading of local bread dough etc.

But no, it was stencilling gone wild. It was really awkward as when the lady showed us the room, throwing back the door with a flourish, you could see her waiting for the compliments. It was all I could do not to visibly gag!

I agree and think your invitations are a bit old fashioned looking, compared to your sisters.

OP I don't think the ones you like are as tasteful as you think. That font is so ubiquitous, it is absolutely everywhere, I bet you want an easel with a welcome sign on it too? and sage green bridesmaids like every other wedding for the lady 5 years?
As for the wax seal, well that is beyond naff. Really.
I think your sister's choice is different, refreshing and more modern. It's her day AND her fiance's day. It's not your wedding to plan.

I love it 😂I must be a cheapo low effort person! Woohoo

Honestly I’d just leave her do whatever she wants. It’s her day and you are very different people x

I think the border is nice.

You’re a kinder soul than me then! I get really irritated by the ones that have bits fall out of the envelope. We got one with Swarovski crystals when one of our Dc was a baby. I think they were supposed to tumble forth from the envelope like so many little suggestions of the happy couple’s sparkling future. Or something.

I’m sure the frantic scrabble to scoop up the crawling baby and hoover them up before they caused choking was not the intended effect.

I suppose I think there’s no ‘right’ when it comes to individual taste. One person’s ’restrained and classic’ is another person’s ’beige boringness’; one person’s ’eclectic and colourful’ is another person’s ‘tacky’.

Though you’ve just reminded me of a friend of a friend who prided herself on her interiors nous back in the 90s — she bought a house when it was very rare for our circle (all students living in houseshares) and stencilled every single surface. To the point where, after you left her places, your retinas still projected stencils onto random walls for a while. She used to give everyone stencil kits as wedding and housewarming presents!

They are only wedding invites! I don't think I have ever received an invite and thought they were nice/awful!

I saw the border before reading the post and thought "oh that's pretty", but then I'm an old hippy!
What's the saying - something like "be kind, without being dishonest - and be honest without being unkind". I'm paraphrasing, I'm sure the original doesn't sound that clumsy, but you can't go wrong if you keep that in mind, I think.

My best friend had her invitations ordered from a printers, they’re pretty parchment, and nicely done, mine were from WHS Smiths, off the rack range. I like mine too, but they are handwritten in a gold pen.

Mine were friendlier on the budget, and I took probably 15 minutes choosing them, she took weeks, they were hideously expensive, and lots of angst choosing them, and getting them printed.

I didn’t have a massive budget for them, and also wasn’t really bothered, as long as they looked nice, which they did.

The word narcissistic gets bandied around a lot, but maybe it applies to your behaviour? OK some of your friends like your taste and say so quite often, but not this time, and you aren’t the central character here.

Indeed. Allow her?

@Payets you aren't the boss of her 😂

You say you have a wonderful relationship with your sister. Are you sure she doesn't just tolerate you? If you were my sister, i'd find you insufferable. It's her life and her (shit) choices as you so beautifully put it.

Does she ever tell you that you look hideous? Or is that just a one-way street given that you are so classy and she's just low-effort.

If my sister spoke like this about me, she wouldn't be coming anywhere near my wedding, or my life for that matter

Well … I’m not so sure. I have a family member who tries to style everyone’s everything!

It took me a while to see they weren’t just domineering, but I did start to as they learned to adapt their eye to bring the other person’s ideas to fruition. In the end they have had some fantastic ideas - and are always full of energy and happy to be on hand if flowers wilt, hems come down etc. Some people it just matters to to get things “ right.”

Without knowing op, I’m going to give her the benefit of the doubt. But it isn’t fair to steamroll her DSis.

NB Op : do NOT get involved if it’s just so you can circulate on the day pointing out your input!!

Unfortunately, it's her choice although, yes, the invite you attached is hideous! But if I received it as an invite I wouldn't care less.

Could you suggest downloading Canva? I made all of my wedding invites from there and just printed them myself, whereas my friend for her wedding did the whole ribbon and wax seal and paid 100s for them. When I was getting married and trying to plan it all it does get stressful when everyone's putting their two cents in about food, colours etc. I snapped a few times at my parents lol.

I get you have that type of relationship where you can say anything but maybe she's just feeling a little sensitive right now.

It’s her wedding. Don’t be so nasty.

It's her wedding. Leave her alone! She knows your taste and knows you'll help and advise but she's not asking you to. Take the hint.

I really like it.... I'm a floral person..... and I've seen MUCH worse....

Should you "allow" her to make 'shit' choices? She doesn't need your permission to choose what she has! You have different tastes but that doesn't mean yours is 'better' than hers. Be nice and stop sneering and interfering.

I can't remember what my own wedding invitations looked like nevermind anyone else's. They will most likely end up in the bin anyway. Your post reads " I have taste and my sister doesnt so she should listen to what I want eventhough it's her wedding".

People with good taste don't usually backtrack and change their mind instantly about liking something as soon as someone else calls it naff.

You sound totally delusional and up yourself.