Should I give my honest to God opinion or just keep quiet?

They really are awful but leave her to it,she obviously likes them.

I wouldn't say I was belittling them. I just think spending a lot of money on something that will get thrown away seems an unnecessary expense.

I actually like the OP's suggestion, but I think the money is far better spent on the hospitality at the wedding itself.

No not really. None of them have started a thread pointlessly being judgemental about their sister over something very trivial.

Stay out of it leave every decision to her and don't offer any opinions, suggestions, options or help with anything.

If it's a shit show it'll be her shit show. If it's a triumph, it'll be her triumph.

Tbh all the people belittling printed invitations and wax etc are being as judgmental and rude and overbearing as the op, just with different taste.

This. I would do my wedding very differently now.

Good for your sister OP. I hope she has something lovely planned for the hundreds of pounds she is saving by not cluttering up other peoples mantelpieces with pretentious, dust gathering, wax sealed, be ribboned, perfumed wedding invitations.

I would look at her invitation and think yeah! sounds like a fun wedding, whereas an over the top tasteful invitation makes me wonder what has been shaved from the budget to pay for them and hope it hasn’t been the quality of the wine or the vegetarian option ( oh, the vegetarians will be fine with a red onion tartlet, they love them, always see them tucking into them at weddings).

I think that’s a nice border ?? Modern fresh

I didn’t have ribbons and wax seals as I felt that was dated

everyone has different tastes

I thought you were going to say she’s getting married and picked frilly pyjamas or a sluty basque as her outfit and looks awful in them

this is only the invites which do not matter at all they just need all the info correct and in detail

@Payets

You just say

'TBH I don't like any of them much but you and I have very different tastes so go for the one you like the best. If you want me to have a look at some alternatives, let me know - I am sensing you want a bright floral border - I can have a look on google later, if you want me to.'

I like the flower border one, it's fun and bright.

Also the last few weddings I have attnded have been email invites only, no one really gives a shit abot formal wedding invitations any more. Spend the money saved in more cake and/or booze.

I’m with your sister, who gives a shit. It would be different if she asked for your opinion or help, but she hasn’t so don’t think about this again.

‘So very like Maple Grove!’ 😀

wax seal and ribbons! Some people dont care about wedding invitations. I couldnt have cared less. I would rather spend money on the actual wedding then fannying around with wedding invitations and it seems your sister is the same. You made a suggestion and she said no. I dont understand the obsession with 'brutal honesty'. You have already been honest. You dont need to go back and be brutal about it. You dont like it and you suggested an alternative. Shes not stupid. She understood she just wants to go her own way. You seem way too invested (despite saying otherwise) on what you sister should do for her own wedding. I have been invited to lots of wedding and the only invitation I can remember is the one that was a magnet as it is still on my fridge. I also thought 'why would you spend money on a wedding invitation magnet'. But hey, not my wedding, not my magnet monkeys.

Wax sealing and ribbons sounds OTT to me OP. If those invites are representative of your sister then I don't see any problem.

I'm getting Mrs Elton vibes from OP.

"I do not profess to be an expert in the field of fashion (though my friends say I have quite the eye) but I can tell you, there is a shocking lack of satin!"

I still write handwritten letters and I want one of those personalised embossers. Quite naff, but IDGAF.

Looking on Papier, Zazzle etc there's loads of flower border wedding ivites and I think they look lovely.

I think people are being overly harsh.on OP here.

You sound ridiculous, sorry.

I imagine it’s a lot of stress to organise a wedding.

Best to be supportive of her choices, unless it’s something that might affect the celebrations, in which case gently and constructively ask if she’s considered it.

The design of invitations is pretty irrelevant. As long as they give all the necessary information clearly. Most will go in the bin after the wedding. Little point in spending time, effort and money if she’s not bothered.

For what it’s worth, I rather like the one you’ve shared. Fun, retro and maximalist. If I received that invite, I’d get the impression the hosts were planning a joyful, relaxed and fun day.

Completely missing the point but I love a wax seal. I bought my own from the gift shop of a castle we visited and I like to use it at every opportunity. Family birthday card? Wax seal. Reply to a speeding ticket? Wax seal.

This is probably the right approach op.

The vibe I'm getting from your sister's taste is happy, vibrant, and fuss-free; whereas yours is prissy, try-hard, greige, siszilla. I know which wedding I'd rather attend. Leave her be.

I wouldn’t worry about the invitations. If she was making a terrible choice on her dress then yes speak up, but invitations whether cheap and tacky or luxurious and classy all end up in the bin anyway so if she’s getting annoyed just say nothing more about it.

Sounds like she’s over your kind of brutal
sisterly honesty! Leave her be, it sounds like your way or the highway.

This is a monumental waste of time, energy, and resources. Literally none of your guests will care about this. If you want to make sure your guests have a great time, spend the money on a band or an extra couple of bottles of wine. This is just the rubbish that gets swept away at the end of the night.