Should I give my honest to God opinion or just keep quiet?

why are you even bothered?

I couldn’t Imagine being that bothered about someone else’s invitations.

Start focusing on you and your life it will make you happier x

It's your opinion they're shit choices not hers

Offer to help, if it's rebuffed accept her decision and stay in your lane. It is her wedding and your opinion is just that. An opinion

They aren't shit choices. That's just your opinion. And the wax seal place setting yoy have shown are very over used and common imo.

Personal taste and style is just that, You said yours and hers are very different. I like the flower borders example you posted as being hideous, but to me is refreshing and a bit retro.

Focus on the areas where she most wants your input, like you mentioned the wedding dress.

Are you kidding me?! Your sister is right with her Who gives a sh** attitude with this.
people receive it and they go “oh our wedding invite for such and such has arrived. Lovely.” Check the calendar. “Oh good, we can make it.” Writes it in the calendar. Sticks the invite on the pinboard or on the fridge. And after the event most likely chucks it in the recycling bin.

I always give an 🙄 when I see overly fancy invitations I can honestly say I prefer your sister's version. To me, the OTT expenditure on wedding stationary is poor taste.

that is hilarious.....very Hyacinth.

Despite me being a computer graphic designer my DD decided to use an invitation using clip art straight off the internet. Just leave her.

People have told you that they THINK you have good taste. You THINK your sister’s taste is not as good as yours. These are just opinions, not facts.

You posted on Mumsnet because you wanted peoples opinions and you’ve got them, lots of them. But whether you realise it or not your replies to some people are quite sharp and condescending.

My suggestion would be when your sister shows you something that you think is awful, offer her an alternative and if she still likes what she has chosen then let her off. It’s her day.

She will definitely save money with her choices too!!

when I got married I didn’t really care about the invites or table decorations etc - just kept it simple and spent the money on food and booze.

Gosh! Sorry and all that but your style and taste is not needed. It's her Choice! you're coming over as I know best! and controlling.

Her wedding, her choice. And quite frankly anybody who spends their time commenting on the invites isn’t really the sort of person who should get one in the first place.

Ok, I'm out. (p3)
If my sister were to spend £40k on a wedding, I'd be brutally honest (hate that expression btw) and ask if she was effing mad.
Our worlds are obviously very different.

It's her wedding, let her just do it how she wants to.

I didn't want to mention it before, but sod it.
I have a top with the same pattern as that border design.
Maybe I need someone with class and good taste to take me clothes shopping 😂

Keep quiet and support your sister - don’t meddle it will cause upset - weddings whip up all sorts of emotions!

I like the flower border in the OP. The thing about taste is that it's a matter of opinion isn't it - there's no such thing as objectively good or 'shit' taste. The sister isn't making a 'shit choice' by choosing a border that she likes, and which is very bright and cheery. It's fine to offer a tactful view if directly asked but you have to (1) read the room - ie if it's clear she really likes something then don't say it's awful as she may choose it and (2) back off at once if she doesn't agree.

I don't think it matters. It's like the least important bit. People just need to rsvp. Just makes she's got that on....

OMFG WTF is wrong with you thinking her personal wedding taste is something that requires brutal honesty?

Big picture.. she's excited and wants you to be excited FOR her for what SHE wants. She doesn't want ir need your brutal honesty.

Bigger picture- it's an invitation, who gives a shit what it looks like as long as it does the job and tells people where to be and at what time.

This isn't buying a house where honesty and details matter.

You might think you have a great relationship because you value brutal honesty so highly, but I bet she feels like you're pissing on her parade because it just isn't warranted here.

Does she go away from talking to you feeling happy or sad?

If she doesn't want a fussy wedding, up to her. I roll my eyes when I see some of the OTT invitations and some of the bridezillas demands.

My sister had a traditional white wedding, church, big reception, all the trimmings. I had a few people in a registry office with a pub drink afterwards. She kept sending me info on fancy cakes, dresses, cars, photographers, you name it. I declined politely and had it the way we wanted and she accepted it. She admitted she just wanted to organise her dream wedding a 2nd time but understood it wasn't our sort of thing!

She did surprise me on the day with a bouquet of my favourite flowers to hold. I didn't want to bother, but I knew it was meant kindly, her idea of a treat, not trying to impose her will.

We have very different tastes, but I have never felt one was of superior value to the other and she's never given the impression she thinks that either. She might say "not my style, but it really suits you". I think we enjoy our differences as much as our similarities.

You’re probably the reason why! 😅

Ha ha!

You’re right, people take it all too seriously.
I used to be listed in Debrett’s annual People of Today.
For ‘recreations’, I replaced the ubiquitous (and so boring) ‘golf’, ‘gardening’, and ‘reading’ with increasingly absurd submissions like ‘playing with fire’, ‘the company of intelligent women’, and ‘distorting the fabric of reality’.
They always printed it.
Until that is they stopped the book altogether.🙄

It's HER wedding.

Her wedding her decision.You wait until you have children and they are planning weddings , home improvements.So many times thier partners have told me thier ideas and I haven't liked them, told the so then had to do some serious back peddling over the following days so I dont appear to be some dreadful controlling MIL.
There is a. art in learning as when give your option and I suggest nicely that you learn it.Everyonr taste is different and it's important fo respect those difference and embrace them.It would be boring if we were all tge same
Fortunately my DIL like me I have appologised and just sign the cheques when required to.