Should I give my honest to God opinion or just keep quiet?

That's asking you to pick between choices NOT slag off her choices and make completely different suggestions🤦‍♀️

Quite honestly I have never received a wedding invite and critiqued it. I only look for the information how to rsvp and check accommodation options nearby. Then it gets pinned up.

Your sister doesn't want to spend lots on wedding invitations fair enough weddings are expensive enough let alone all the bloody stamps to send the invitations in the first place!

It's really coming across that you don't want observations and opinions that might differ from your own. But, fwiw... people can be very touchy when it comes to their weddings. I'd likely respond with phrases like:
what are you unsure about
which one are you leaning toward
how can I help you best

"Neither are bad choices, maybe this one is a bit more elegant, but what do you think? Then reassure the choice made. Yes, I like that, too! "

You're in a tough spot. Tread with care and know it will all work out.

@Payetsmaybe your sister is asking your opinion but in a more reassurance seeking way than a I want you to tell me your style on this kind of way? Like she maybe just needs a sounding board & the confidence from sharing it with another person rather than being advised to do something completely different. She’s going to be different to you & so you’re probably never going to like personally her choices. But you can make the right noises & validate them. You can advise & guide like checking her ideas work with her overall theme if she has one, or if certain things work with her colour choices etc & point these out to se if they bother or matte to her. Surely you can do that without rubbishing her ideas. You may have a good eye for things but taste is very subjective. If she doesn’t care about it all she’s really quite lucky & sounds like the small stuff isn’t something she’s bothered about. Surely that bodes far better for the overall do, where it’s about the people & the moment & the experience everyone is having, rather than the font used on the invite or the border on the menus. I think you’re being too much of a perfectionist. Maybe take a lead out of her book?!

Those ones with wax seals and ribbons =. If B&M did ‘classy’ wedding invitations.

Really no one is going to care about the invites. They will note the time and the place and then bin them.

I used to think I had. Our relationship started deteriorating when she made snarky, sneering remarks about my wedding plans. I realised she had no idea who I was and, worse, didn't believe me when I tried to explain I'm not the character she had in mind.

Says you.

Posting about your sisters shortcomings on a public forum. Slagging off her choices for all to see and discuss.

How open, honest and sisterly.

I know. Mine was my brother.

All you can do is be yourself and LIKE yourself. Don't compare - even though it's thrown at you, if not by your sister, then I suspect your parent/s might have made you feel inadequate in comparison at some point.

It's taken many many years, but my brother is once again my best friend. We don't see each other often, but it's the fact that whilst he's still rich and successful and lives a life I wouldn't want, nor could understand. We both came from the same place, the same upbringing. Recognise that we are siblings and in spite of fighting like cat and dog, we are pretty much the same.

I hope you find that one day with your sister ❤️ Never doubt you.

Maybe go out of your way to compliment all the design decisions you do like so she begins feeling more confident and less defensive

Wax seal applying

😂

Who does this

It’s just an invite. They mostly go in the bin soon enough. Most of my friends used e invites to save money

Friends often ask me if I can make their invitations special...

I tell them the truth - 'hitched' needs 2 lines otherwise it's not visually pleasing.

I have a sister exactly like this.
She’s made me doubt myself for most of my adult life.
Who does that to their own sister?
And why? Why can’t we just be sisters?

I have a similar relationship with my sister - with the understanding that we have different tastes. If she told me she hated my wedding invites I would laugh and say I don't care because I Iike them and that would be that.

If she them continued to shit on my wedding choices, I would get annoyed tell her to F off because why would I want someone continually rubbishing a choice that's already made.

You have already given your opinion, she has chosen to ignore it. Definitely time to drop it.

Wedding invites are not a life changing decision, it's not like she's about to change the course of her life because she put flowers on her wedding invite.

You said:

"But sister was like “who gives a shit”. I can tell she is getting annoyed."

Don't set yourself up as the arbitor of taste for her wedding then. There are no objective rights or wrongs.

Please join us in celebrating our wonderful day.

Before or after your opinion was given?

I bet she's stressed to fuck now thinking she's got it all wrong.

Self doubt for your big day... Nice.

(but I only want what's best for her)

With every suggestion she probably sees pound signs rolling away from her. I would leave it.

You reckon?

Hmm.

I think you're too self indulged to realise that you've made her doubt her own being and judgement.

It sure sounds like it.
You haven’t been directly asked.
So mind your own business.
In the end, they’ll still be just as married as if you had meddled.
And it’ll be your sister’s wedding - not yours.

Who made you the queen of taste and design?

I'm with your 'I don't give a shit' sister. You sound like my ex SIL. My brother sobbed to me when he left her. He said I'm back. I'm back. I couldn't live that bullshit life any longer.

Your sister doesn't want to adhere to your poncy fake ways. She doesn't care if people ask you about clothes or furniture.
She doesn't want to be anything like you and I bet she's happier for it.

Fuck back off to your brainless mates and let your sister have HER DAY.

That's why I am asking you about example of her telling YOU you have a shit taste.

Trying to figure out if she's ignoring your opinion on her invitations because she thinks you are too fussy and she doesn't care what you think
or she's hurt because she likes them and you are being mean.