Should I give my honest to God opinion or just keep quiet?

But you’ve literally just said she was getting annoyed with your ‘honest to God’ opinion. Maybe she’s tired of it.

Her choice. Only comment on the positive things that she does for the wedding, and offer to help in any way - you might end up helping thread macaroni bracelets for wedding favours but look on the bright side.
Your sister is getting married!!
Smile, laugh, play Bridesmaids and A Few Best Men and bring snacks to share while you are helping/crafting with sister.

@Payets

I personally think there is a ‘fashion’ shift from pretentious and over styled to more thrift, charity shop, use again, recycle as the world becomes more eco conscious/attempts to stop waste. I think substance should win every time - and having a wedding that is about family, love, fun, happiness is FAR more important than arguing over an invite.

To me, your sister’s choice is the choice I’d go for. 100%. It’s not got unnecessary fuss and that means that effort can go on more important things.

So much twiddle, fuss and plastic ends up as landfill essentially.

It's just not your style, that's all. Classy isn't just cream and gold. I wish more weddings were simple and colourful like that which your sister plans. Who really gives a monkeys about the colour of napkins or swirly invite writing etc.

You're coming across here like Mrs Bucket. The invitations you describe as being in 'good taste' to me do sound dated, staid and fussy. That's obviously not your sister's style. I'm with tour sister: it's an invitation, who gives a shit?

"Making shit choices" is continuing to drink when pregnant. Or gambling away the food money for the week.

Not choosing a perfectly fine, but not your taste, wedding invitation.

Why did you share it then?

For every person who says to you - I like your style you are classy there will be two others rolling their eyes and going wtf. Wax seal?? There is nice, there is pretentious and there is wtaf!

My wedding had no invites - just texts, fake flowers apart from my bouquet that I didn’t ask for but my wonderful friend made as my wedding present.

I married a wonderful kind man - that was the important bit

I don't like the invitation similar to the one your sister likes @Payets. However, it's no worse than ribbons or wax seals which have nothing to do with wedding invitations.

Wedding invitations are plain white, heavy card, A5 size and card like. The invitation is printed in black, in accepted and traditional format.

Our DC are being invited to weddings. Invitations remain as above.

Me & her not her & I

These look quite dated and hand made (but not in a good way) OP.

You were being asked "Which of these designs do you like".
Not "What style of invitation do you recommend?"

I'm sure someone with your attention to detail can tell the difference.

Personally, the ones you have posted just look like every typical wedding invite. Your siaters choice has more personality and more fun.
Its only invites anyway, noone actually cares.

I think you are telling some porkie pies.

Detail orientated my arse. Look how many typos are in your OP.
😂

I mean, the invitation your sister shared is pretty horrible but I am not sure you are the arbiter of good taste that you think you are. I thought the wax seals were rolled up condoms when I first looked at them. And that font is very overdone for weddings now.

Perhaps someone else could help your sister instead?

She’s being honest with you and saying “back off”
you’re not listening l!

You sound quite full of yourself

It did make me laugh when in your 2nd para you said you were detail oriented then proceeded with a sentence that made no grammatical sense.

Maybe not so detail oriented as you think

The flower border invitation is warm, colourful, fun and welcoming.

Your invitations are cold, sterile, clinical and not welcoming. As for the blob of wax - just pretentious fuckery.

Well I like it. It’s nice and friendly and cheerful. Wax seals and all that stuff is very 1999 (I know, because I got married in 1999 and had wax seals). Let her crack on and enjoy. It looks like it’s going to be a lot of fun.

Wow people are really going to go on and on about the fact a woman dare say something positive about herself. Among my circle of friends people value my input re style and taste. That is just a fact.

But she has already chosen what she wants and instead of encouraging her and supporting her choices you think you know better and put her down. You don’t know better OP. You simply have different taste and are a little too critical.
You write about yourself using positive terminology and that’s fine. But you write about your sister negatively and it isn’t fine to be derogatory about her and her choices just because her style is different to yours.

So yes, please do change the habit of a life time and stop thinking and talking about her ‘shit choices’. Be kinder and less bossy and less know it all about design. Design is personal. A wedding is the time for her to express herself through her own choices, encouraged by you.

If someone always has someone else to ‘help’ them, they may find it difficult to make their own decisions and express themselves. Plus it can really knock someone's confidence to constantly criticise whether it be constructively or not. What your sister has come up with was perfect to her - she knows it’s for her wedding and was truly happy with the result. Leave her be, and be happy for her. Who cares about the invitation! Ultimately the only important thing on her wedding day is getting married - the rest doesn’t matter.

Your posts comes across as you having superior tastes, when really they're just different. While I wouldn't choose that border, there's nothing inherently wrong with it - it's colourful and cheerful. It's her and her partner's day, not yours.

I hope you read these comments that you asked for OP and think on about your attitude to your sister - and probably your friends. You may or may not have a style that some people admire but you clearly think it’s very important that you do - it might just be that you have kind friends and a kind sister who humour you and tell you what you clearly need to hear.
You could’ve posted the naffest style possible and you’d have got the same comments - it’s not important, it’s not your responsibility and it’s not supportive of your sister.
I hope you recognise this now and show some encouragement to your sis who seems more stylish than you with her less pretentious, more fun, more honest, more relaxed approach.

Perhaps you could learn from her, chill out and enjoy life a bit instead of trying to impose your ideas on her and get random strangers on the internet to back you up about it.

A shit choice for a wedding is doing something that is offensive or will cause discomfort to guests. Save your comments for that.

Anything else is the choice of the couple getting married. And they should have the wedding they want. Unless they are proposing an actual shit choice - see my first sentence.

I get it op. I am
cload and honest with my friends. I would expect them to tell me
if my make up looked bad or my outfit was weird.

you are asking a lot of people who consider honesty or disagreement as confrontation so are to afraid to hear/receive it themselves without offence

if I sent the invite you shared to any of my friends they’d say No and tell me it was childish and then ask what I was going for

I think ask your sister what vibe she wants. But also ask if she genuinely wants your input or is asking out of habit. Does she want a flower border or a bright vibe then you can get what she is going for.

I hope you dont end up sniggering about your sisters choices and taste. I wonder how old you both are, Im sure you will look back one day and realise how unimportant all this nonsense is, my great niece has a new business designing and printing really expensive and fancy invitations, I think , what a waste of time and money, to impress whom? I love things to look nice, but its far from the most important thing in life, people spend more time planning their wedding than they do planning their life together, I hope your sister is spending time doing the latter, because the invitations will be forgotten in hours, more important things to consider for the future. I hope one day you look back and laugh at what you today think is really important! Sounds like you have a lovely relationship, keep it that way, you are different but love each other, dont risk that.