Would you be annoyed if a relative bought a house 3 doors down from you without telling you?

Not the purpose of the thread but don't you get the decision in principle on the mortgage before viewing properties, or is that something that's gone out the window since I last bought?

In your situation I would mention I was buying the house after exchange. Sales can still fall through at that stage but less likely to than before exchange. And I'd only mention it as a heads up for a relative that I liked OK. You really don't see people often even if they live really close, unless you have something in common like school run to the same school.

I live about 15 minutes walk from my sister's house, so quite a few roads away but still near, we both really like it and I wouldn't mind if it was much closer. But my NDN has your situation with an aunt she's fallen out with four doors down. They just ignore each other's existence and I don't think they even bump into each other randomly in the Co-op.

I would be annoyed they didn't tell me and I do think that's strange, unless it's a distant relative you don't have much contact with?
But if it's a relative I loved I would not be upset that they had moved a few doors down, could even be nice, Unless they are always interfering.

So you're the relative who's just moved in then OP?

Would not care one bit. Doubt any relative would care if I moved next to them. Some very odd comments on here 👀

Well at least they won't be wanting any help moving in will they?? In.fact if you know when, I'd be away for a few nights!!

On viewing.

I would love it, but then I love my family so being close together would be fab for me

Have you made sound investment choices in the past? That they want to emulate? It must be a compliment surely? Maybe they didn't tell you because they fear rejection? Or thought it would be a wonderful surprise? I'm going with my first thought. You've made a mint buying and selling houses in the past and they want in on the action.

We bought our house (semi) three years ago, nipped round to introduce ourselves to the neighbours and get the spare set of keys back they'd no longer need (previous owner elderly, they kept an eye on her as she had dementia) and my cousin who I'd not seen for years answered the door! We love it, plots are big so we're not under eachothers feet, but we know we've got family next door should we need them.
I appreciate this is an ideal scenario, just grateful we get on! Had it have been any other cousin bar a select few, we'd have been gutted 😂

this happened to my friend (maybe you are indeed she!) . her SIL moved in a few doors down. SIL and my friend’s husband (SIL’s bro) don’t even get on!! like not at all.
why would she move there?? people are so weird.

Yep. This. Weird. And would just depend. So, do you like them? Is it good?

Maybe they were going with the ‘surprise!’ Approach. Did they defo know you lived there?!

if it was my mom or mother in law i would love it! kids would love it. lots of free food too haha

I live within a 2 min walk of sister, 2 brothers, 2 nieces, nephew and 6 great nieces and nephews.5 mins from another sister and daughter. None of whom live in same house! They all seem to know what I am doing before I have even done it😂. I don't mind, never a dull moment.

I bought a house on the same street as my sister 😂
We'd originally found something else we wanted to buy but we missed out. Then this one came up, luckily my sister loved the idea and she viewed it with me.
A year later our dad died (mum died 6 years before him) so now we literally have each other and our kids and its nice we are so close x

It’s weird isn’t it, I don’t think you need ask permission, as it were, but not to say anything is also bit odd. I should think they should be flattered. I would be, if friends or relatives moved in a couple of doors from me. So I don’t quite understand people’s negative reactions. Perhaps just haven’t got a very good imagination. None of my relations are at all like me so it is a bit of bizarre thought.

Ahh okay!
No reason for it to be an issue then, but I would mention soon rather than later, just out of kinda courtesy?
Apart from my immediate neighbour whose drive is next to mine I rarely see anyone in my road!

So what IF a relative bought a house, 3 doors down WITHOUT telling you .
Why GET annoyed - what WILL be annoyed get you ?
> DON`T get annoyed, get BETTER - Direct competition.

Get the flower box boxes

Start the planting ...
Let the battle commence

We lived next door to my husbands brother and sister in law for 16 years . It was great and we had lots of Christmas dinners together ( up to 15 people) and also parties . I moved after my husband died . I get on well with my whole family so it wouldn’t bother me if any of them move into our street .

Depends
Like is this relative someone you are close to ?
If yes , that’s so weird !
If no then , I wouldn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think you might be overthinking this, OP. It’s just a nice common courtesy that I’m sure will be appreciated. It’s just a bit odd if you have a close friend or relative moving three doors down and they don’t mention it. If you’re certain you’ll be moving in, tell them when you’ve had the offer accepted.
what do you worry could go wrong? You’re not asking permission.

Honestly mumsnetters are, generally, very irritable and quick to offense. I am shocked by their horrible advice r and would never ask their opinion on anything …. Depending on how close you are you could mention it casually. It really depends on your eelationshop. My cousins are like siblings but I also have distant cousins I barely know but I probably would mention it to them.

I’d expect to be told… it’s courtesy surely!

Cousin/aunty wouldn’t bother me as you could still be polite but not live in each others pockets. Mother or mother in law.. I’d move!

Yes, I think that’s the way I’d go if I were you.

Haha! Same - especially the MIL..