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Grab. Ugh.

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CorkBottlePink · 19/05/2025 20:27

AIBU to really dislike the way that 'grab' has become an acceptable verb, when it's an actually quite an aggressive action.

Today, I've heard
"Gonna grab a coffee"
"Grabbin me bag"
"Just stopped to grab some food".

Ugh.

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ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 19/05/2025 22:05

MissMashed · 19/05/2025 21:47

Agree with all the irritating phrases and words mentioned here.

Also, when people talk about food prep, they ‘chuck’ or ‘stick’ ingredients in the slow cooker. As opposed to putting them in.

Don’t forget ‘bung’, in that context, too.

verycloakanddaggers · 19/05/2025 22:04

GreenCandleWax · 19/05/2025 20:43

Awful but so is "gotten".😔

Gotten is a standard term, being disparaging about that usually comes from either ignorance or snobbery.

homeismyhaven · 19/05/2025 22:04

vintagedove · 19/05/2025 21:31

I don’t get this. I’m not from the UK, but why is it that you can replace bought with brought? Or should of? It truly hurts my head. It’s just wrong.

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bought is past tense of buy

brought is past tense of bring

they are not the same thing and can’t be used interchangeably b it sound so similar so get mixed up all the time

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 22:02

Ah, okay but it sounds absolutely ridiculous.

TortolaParadise · 19/05/2025 22:00

I don't mind ;grab'. I love 'knock yourself out'. I detest when these words - horrendous, traumatising, triggering, horrific & shocking are used to describe mundane occurrences.

Arcticlife · 19/05/2025 21:54

Can I add "rolls around" with regards to time. For example "So then Monday rolls around and Denis still hadn't taken the bins in".

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/05/2025 21:52

'Grab' doesn't bother me, but a few of the examples on here annoy me.

'Unalived' makes me scream inside my head. What a stupid (fake) word.

And 'it's giving' ... Woman has pretty feminine dress... 'It's giving 1950s.' Man has a cool 1980s haircut and suit ... 'it's giving David Bowie.' ARGH! Angry

'Team work makes the dream work!' URGH!

'Blue sky thinking.' EWWW!

'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!' ARGH!

DyslexicPoster · 19/05/2025 21:51

It's times like this I'm glad I'm dyslexic.

I know what it means so I can't get upset. Also I'm not from the socio economic group background that speaks queen's English. I'm more Cat Slater than the Queen.

OP you'd be horrified by my enunciation and regional slang 😅

MissMashed · 19/05/2025 21:47

Agree with all the irritating phrases and words mentioned here.

Also, when people talk about food prep, they ‘chuck’ or ‘stick’ ingredients in the slow cooker. As opposed to putting them in.

Shitmonger · 19/05/2025 21:45

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 21:32

I've seen something on Instagram which is blowing my mind. There are people on there who instead of saying somebody was killed are saying that they were "unalived" 😤I mean it's not even an actual word...

It not being a word is the point. Since it’s not an actual word it won’t get you banned from TikTok the way that saying “killed” might.

Instagram is American and doesn’t have the same censorship as TikTok but I think it’s habit for some now.

godmum56 · 19/05/2025 21:43

CorkBottlePink · 19/05/2025 20:36

Obviously it's not literally deep.

Add misuse of "literally" to the list!

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I mind "literally"

vintagedove · 19/05/2025 21:37

steff13 · 19/05/2025 21:36

It's because the words killed, murdered, etc are banned and are likely to get the post taken down.

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Ah of course. It does sound stupid though.

vintagedove · 19/05/2025 21:36

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 21:32

I've seen something on Instagram which is blowing my mind. There are people on there who instead of saying somebody was killed are saying that they were "unalived" 😤I mean it's not even an actual word...

Snowflakes is a real word though?

steff13 · 19/05/2025 21:36

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 21:32

I've seen something on Instagram which is blowing my mind. There are people on there who instead of saying somebody was killed are saying that they were "unalived" 😤I mean it's not even an actual word...

It's because the words killed, murdered, etc are banned and are likely to get the post taken down.

TomatoSandwiches · 19/05/2025 21:36

vintagedove · 19/05/2025 21:31

Picky bits?

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Naturally 😇

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 21:32

I've seen something on Instagram which is blowing my mind. There are people on there who instead of saying somebody was killed are saying that they were "unalived" 😤I mean it's not even an actual word...

vintagedove · 19/05/2025 21:31

TomatoSandwiches · 19/05/2025 21:27

Unfortunately I saw this post after I decided to nip down the road, pop in the shop and grab some bits for tomorrow.

Apologies.

Picky bits?

vintagedove · 19/05/2025 21:31

ZiggyZowie · 19/05/2025 21:24

When people say " I brought a new top "

No you didn't

You bought a new top

I don’t get this. I’m not from the UK, but why is it that you can replace bought with brought? Or should of? It truly hurts my head. It’s just wrong.

TomatoSandwiches · 19/05/2025 21:27

Unfortunately I saw this post after I decided to nip down the road, pop in the shop and grab some bits for tomorrow.

Apologies.

ZiggyZowie · 19/05/2025 21:24

When people say " I brought a new top "

No you didn't

You bought a new top

riverislanjeans · 19/05/2025 21:17

MellowPinkDeer · 19/05/2025 20:39

It’s not as hideous as ‘can I get’ Ergh.

I always say this 😂

My mum says ‘I’ll take the salmon’ for example. I really hate that

ZiggyZowie · 19/05/2025 21:16

I'm gonna grab a lipstick to add a pop of colour and get some bits at the shop

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 19/05/2025 21:14

I hate ‘you can just go ahead and…’ when people are talking about the next step, especially when they use it for every single instruction. Go ahead and this, go ahead and that. 🤯

MoominMai · 19/05/2025 21:11

CorkBottlePink · 19/05/2025 21:05

"I hate when..." can also be added to the list.

"I hate it when..." is perfectly acceptable.

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Yeah you’ve lost me me now…😬

WhatASmashingBlouseYouHaveOn · 19/05/2025 21:09

Here's a new one, work email related.

The person writes "please receive this invitation to meeting......" or "please receive these documents regarding....."

I mean, honestly 🙄