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Username06 · 19/05/2025 19:45

I am a lifelong yo-yo dieter, if truth be told I definitely have some issues with food, I've been on/off a diet since my teens, basically I'm either on a diet losing weight or eating like food is going to become non-existant hence the constant yo-yoing.
I've always gone to slimming groups, always lose the weight and think I've changed my life around and then end up back at square one.

So i have decided now to try a calorie deficit in order to eat the things I still love in moderation and try to learn to eat healthy with occasional treats and lose weight. I have also started jogging a couple times a week as I'd like to be able to exercise and then have a treat without putting on the weight again when i reach my goal. At present I have a stone to lose to get back to a healthy BMI.

Here's the issue, in a month I've lost a couple of pounds despite feeling starving everyday and bloody exercising! I lose weight much faster following slimming world, what is going on, do calorie deficits just not work on some people, feeling so disheartened 😔

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ClareVoiance · 27/05/2025 13:34

Can't Lose Weight - Dr. Julie Coffey might be worth a read, @Username06 .

Username06 · 26/05/2025 22:01

ClareVoiance · 22/05/2025 21:09

@soupyspoon , If you ate 2000 calories a day, all of it cake, you'd probably feel ill.

OP has probably long gone.

I am still here!
Have listened to the advice and will make some changes this week, will update in a few weeks if anybody is interested :)

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NatFatPrat · 26/05/2025 17:59

TheShiningCarpet · 20/05/2025 13:59

once you know your TDEE you can calculate how many calories to aim for once you cut 500 to lose weight or add 500 to gain weight

Edited

Thanks for explaining what TDEE stands for. 🙂

soupyspoon · 22/05/2025 21:14

ClareVoiance · 22/05/2025 21:09

@soupyspoon , If you ate 2000 calories a day, all of it cake, you'd probably feel ill.

OP has probably long gone.

True on both counts!

ClareVoiance · 22/05/2025 21:09

@soupyspoon , If you ate 2000 calories a day, all of it cake, you'd probably feel ill.

OP has probably long gone.

soupyspoon · 22/05/2025 20:54

ClareVoiance · 22/05/2025 20:50

@soupyspoon , not all calories are equal. There is more to it than cutting calories.

They're not equal if measured in a lab. For the average human body, you tweak and trial and error your way to finding the calorie balance and there isnt much more than that.

You might get hungry on 2000k worth of cake all day. You wont get hungry on 2000k of protein/veg. But if your requirements are 1600, either way, you're going to put on weight.

Its denial to want to believe otherwise.

ClareVoiance · 22/05/2025 20:50

@soupyspoon , not all calories are equal. There is more to it than cutting calories.

soupyspoon · 22/05/2025 20:27

Jacarandill · 22/05/2025 20:06

I think I’ve explained it quite clearly, but I’m beginning to think you’re never going to get it.

Im not the one that doesnt get it

You eat more than you need you put on weight
You eat what you need, you stay the same
You eat less than you need, you lose weight

That is how the body functions.

You can wrap it up in any language you want, you can say you eat badly, well, healthily, fasting, SW, WW, HBD, cambridge diet, Newcastle diet, eat what you want diet, no diet, eating to put on weight diet

Either way, you are eating either more, or less or the same calories as you require to put on, lose or stay the same, depending on what you want.

You dont need to physically count them for that to happen. Its happening. Right now inside your body.

Jacarandill · 22/05/2025 20:06

soupyspoon · 22/05/2025 18:50

You're not saying anything different. You clearly eat your maintenance calories. Assuming you are not gaining or losing

What are you arguing about?

What do you mean another solution. You are eating the calories you need, no more, no less. That is the solution

I think I’ve explained it quite clearly, but I’m beginning to think you’re never going to get it.

soupyspoon · 22/05/2025 18:50

Jacarandill · 22/05/2025 09:19

There is.

  • Build more muscle so you burn calories more efficiently and increase your TDEE
  • Eat whole foods, high in protein and fat, low in carbs
  • Eat filling, proper meals of the above so you don’t need to snack
  • Balance your blood sugar and hormones so your metabolism works well
  • Replace stress-inducing activity like jogging and HIIT with daily, consistent resistance training and Pilates

I’m mid-40s, peri-menopausal, have had 3DC and I’m the same weight and dress size (6) I’ve always been, toned, have a flat stomach, am never hungry and can eat what I want without particularly thinking about it. I love food and never go without.

So yes, there absolutely is another solution. It’s just that people don’t want to hear it.

You're not saying anything different. You clearly eat your maintenance calories. Assuming you are not gaining or losing

What are you arguing about?

What do you mean another solution. You are eating the calories you need, no more, no less. That is the solution

ClareVoiance · 22/05/2025 13:01

But evidently for many people (on these threads) the ‘maintenance’ calories is simply too low to be sustainable. They’re hungry and miserable. They then fall off the wagon and put the weight back on and more.
Why do you think so many people lose and regain the same weight over and over again?

The trap of 'Calorie counting', 'My diet starts tomorrow' or 'I musn't eat this' etc is miserable and leads to a sense of deprivation. Having a healthy relationship with food IMO is more likely to free you to not making food, or the lack of it, a focus.

Jacarandill · 22/05/2025 11:55

Everanewbie · 22/05/2025 11:04

I agree, but everything that you mention above are still ways to equalise calories in v calories out. It is just a different mindset. You've just highlighted ways to increase your calorie expenditure and reduce your calorie intake.

But crucially, you don’t have to focus on reducing calories. I have no idea idea how many calories I eat in a day - probably quite a lot. But then I guess my body has also learnt to burn quite a lot, which means I can eat what I want to eat without worrying about measuring the milk in my bloody tea.

People can try it or not try it, I don’t mind 🤷‍♀️

Everanewbie · 22/05/2025 11:04

Jacarandill · 22/05/2025 09:19

There is.

  • Build more muscle so you burn calories more efficiently and increase your TDEE
  • Eat whole foods, high in protein and fat, low in carbs
  • Eat filling, proper meals of the above so you don’t need to snack
  • Balance your blood sugar and hormones so your metabolism works well
  • Replace stress-inducing activity like jogging and HIIT with daily, consistent resistance training and Pilates

I’m mid-40s, peri-menopausal, have had 3DC and I’m the same weight and dress size (6) I’ve always been, toned, have a flat stomach, am never hungry and can eat what I want without particularly thinking about it. I love food and never go without.

So yes, there absolutely is another solution. It’s just that people don’t want to hear it.

I agree, but everything that you mention above are still ways to equalise calories in v calories out. It is just a different mindset. You've just highlighted ways to increase your calorie expenditure and reduce your calorie intake.

Jacarandill · 22/05/2025 09:19

soupyspoon · 21/05/2025 23:12

Because they eat more than they need.

The reality is, for most of us maintenance calories are quite low, particularly once you get older.

There isnt any other solution.

There is.

  • Build more muscle so you burn calories more efficiently and increase your TDEE
  • Eat whole foods, high in protein and fat, low in carbs
  • Eat filling, proper meals of the above so you don’t need to snack
  • Balance your blood sugar and hormones so your metabolism works well
  • Replace stress-inducing activity like jogging and HIIT with daily, consistent resistance training and Pilates

I’m mid-40s, peri-menopausal, have had 3DC and I’m the same weight and dress size (6) I’ve always been, toned, have a flat stomach, am never hungry and can eat what I want without particularly thinking about it. I love food and never go without.

So yes, there absolutely is another solution. It’s just that people don’t want to hear it.

soupyspoon · 21/05/2025 23:12

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 23:09

But evidently for many people (on these threads) the ‘maintenance’ calories is simply too low to be sustainable. They’re hungry and miserable. They then fall off the wagon and put the weight back on and more.

Why do you think so many people lose and regain the same weight over and over again?

Because they eat more than they need.

The reality is, for most of us maintenance calories are quite low, particularly once you get older.

There isnt any other solution.

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 23:09

soupyspoon · 21/05/2025 22:48

Who said anything about a low calorie intake? You have to eat less than you expend to lose weight, theres no ifs or buts about it.

You could eat a little bit less than you expend and lose weight very slowly, you could eat quite a lot less than you expend and lose weight faster.

Once you have lost the weight you then need to eat at a maintenance level. If you dont sustain this, whether by counting the calories or not (or pretending they dont exist) you'll put on weight (or lose it obviously if you eat too little)

But evidently for many people (on these threads) the ‘maintenance’ calories is simply too low to be sustainable. They’re hungry and miserable. They then fall off the wagon and put the weight back on and more.

Why do you think so many people lose and regain the same weight over and over again?

soupyspoon · 21/05/2025 22:48

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 19:56

Did you read my post?

Scientifically it might work. But in reality it rarely ‘works’.

Yes, it might work at first. My point is it doesn’t ‘work’ long term, because it’s not sustainable to keep eating such low calorie intake. As a long-term way of eating it’s a pile of bollocks.

And you only have to see all the yo-yo dieters on these threads to prove that I’m right.

Who said anything about a low calorie intake? You have to eat less than you expend to lose weight, theres no ifs or buts about it.

You could eat a little bit less than you expend and lose weight very slowly, you could eat quite a lot less than you expend and lose weight faster.

Once you have lost the weight you then need to eat at a maintenance level. If you dont sustain this, whether by counting the calories or not (or pretending they dont exist) you'll put on weight (or lose it obviously if you eat too little)

User37482 · 21/05/2025 20:40

Are your muscles sore? I always gain a few pounds when I restart exercise after a hiatus. It’s just water weight.

Sundaymorningcalla · 21/05/2025 20:38

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 19:56

Did you read my post?

Scientifically it might work. But in reality it rarely ‘works’.

Yes, it might work at first. My point is it doesn’t ‘work’ long term, because it’s not sustainable to keep eating such low calorie intake. As a long-term way of eating it’s a pile of bollocks.

And you only have to see all the yo-yo dieters on these threads to prove that I’m right.

You don't need to be in a calories deficit sustainably.

You're in a calorie deficit whilst losing weight, when you reach your optimum or target weight, you eat your maintenance calories, or an average of your maintenance calories.

If you want a static weight you have to commit to the life style change and have a rough idea of what you're consuming in terms of calories day to day. If you don't, you tend to over consume ergo weight goes back on.

It's a lifestyle you adopt and is 100% sustainable if committed to, just like anything else.

An extreme example but if you stop smoking to reduce the risk of getting lung cancer and 0 cigarettes is the optimum number, but you choose to have a cheeky one every now and again, you're not committed to the digits, your risk of cancer increases. The principles are identical and read across.

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 19:56

soupyspoon · 21/05/2025 18:21

A calorie deficit works. Whether you count them or not.

The only way to lose weight is to consume less than you expend.

You cant eat more than you expend and lose weight. You cant eat the same as what you expend and lose weight.

Did you read my post?

Scientifically it might work. But in reality it rarely ‘works’.

Yes, it might work at first. My point is it doesn’t ‘work’ long term, because it’s not sustainable to keep eating such low calorie intake. As a long-term way of eating it’s a pile of bollocks.

And you only have to see all the yo-yo dieters on these threads to prove that I’m right.

soupyspoon · 21/05/2025 18:21

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 09:35

The clue is in the phrase ‘when I’m dieting…’

For a method of weight loss to be called ‘successful’ it has to be sustainable.

Obviously if you consistently eat fewer calories than you burn you will lose weight.

The reason this often doesn’t work is not because they’re not counting accurately. It’s because you have to reduce your calories so low in order to lose weight your life becomes miserable and obsessive, so as soon as you reach your target weight you think ‘hoorah’ and creep back up to a higher calorie intake. Your body (which now has a slower metabolism) then thinks great, let’s store some of this for next time she decides to starve us. So you put on weight again (and more). And so it goes on.

THAT is why calorie counting doesn’t work.

A calorie deficit works. Whether you count them or not.

The only way to lose weight is to consume less than you expend.

You cant eat more than you expend and lose weight. You cant eat the same as what you expend and lose weight.

ClareVoiance · 21/05/2025 13:26

Quite. I think part of the problem is that people think they're eating about 2000 calories a day, when they're actually eating far more.

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 11:33

Zanatdy · 21/05/2025 10:09

It does work as you loose weight. No diet means you never gain weight again. I am content being a yo-yo dieter, when you’re short and can’t eat 3 meals a day without gaining it’s just life. When my clothes feel tight, I know I can loose half a stone in 5-6wks. I’ll probably keep it off in the summer, and gain in winter. But counting calories does reduce weight if in enough deficit. No-one is saying it’s forever unless you count daily and keep at maintenance level.

Um. I hate to break it to you, but most people don’t want to constantly have to diet. And many of us eat three meals a day, are 5’4” AND don’t calorie count 😱

It’s called a healthy, sustainable way of life. No apps required.

ClareVoiance · 21/05/2025 11:05

when you’re short and can’t eat 3 meals a day without gaining
Why can't you?

Zanatdy · 21/05/2025 10:09

Jacarandill · 21/05/2025 09:35

The clue is in the phrase ‘when I’m dieting…’

For a method of weight loss to be called ‘successful’ it has to be sustainable.

Obviously if you consistently eat fewer calories than you burn you will lose weight.

The reason this often doesn’t work is not because they’re not counting accurately. It’s because you have to reduce your calories so low in order to lose weight your life becomes miserable and obsessive, so as soon as you reach your target weight you think ‘hoorah’ and creep back up to a higher calorie intake. Your body (which now has a slower metabolism) then thinks great, let’s store some of this for next time she decides to starve us. So you put on weight again (and more). And so it goes on.

THAT is why calorie counting doesn’t work.

It does work as you loose weight. No diet means you never gain weight again. I am content being a yo-yo dieter, when you’re short and can’t eat 3 meals a day without gaining it’s just life. When my clothes feel tight, I know I can loose half a stone in 5-6wks. I’ll probably keep it off in the summer, and gain in winter. But counting calories does reduce weight if in enough deficit. No-one is saying it’s forever unless you count daily and keep at maintenance level.

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