WIBU if I complain about this teacher?

If this is a serious question - which I so hope it is not - then obviously you are being insanely unreasonable.

Your son is a disgrace. He appears to have learned this from you.

You both owe the child and the teacher a huge apology. Your son should be excluded if not arrested for this. And the teacher should be thanked for doing her job and protecting her student in a terrifying situation. There is no grey area, you are completely in the wrong.

Parents like you are the reason we have so many teenage little shits around . Your son was bang out of order and you are trying to defend him.

Go and take a good look at yourself , your parenting and sort your teenagers behaviour out!

fucking ridiculous.

OP and people voting by mistake. Surely no one can possibly believe this woman is anything but deluded at best, raising a murderous thug at worst

My daughter used to be a teacher. Out of control children like your son and parents like you are the reason she no longer is one. A lot of your son’s generation will grow up ignorant and uneducated as there will be no one left to teach them.

If this isn’t a wind up I can see where your son gets his attitude from.

The op

I'm not big or tall, and I can tell you it is fucking terrifying to get in the middle of two 14 year old boys fighting (or one being attacked by the sounds of this incident). But we do it, at risk to our personal safety, to protect the students in our care. I absolutely would push a boy in the chest if he stormed into my office with 3 friends and started to punch a child. I would also scream at him to get out.

Who the hell are the 1% voting YANBU?

OMG @Throwawaymama - take a look at yourself.
Your son has behaved badly - really badly which you acknowledge.
He needs punishment applied by the school and for it to work effectively he needs to feel that you are also behind the school 100%.

What are you even thinking??

A small woman, caught up between 4 arguing teenagers who could potentially fight and she’s separating them to prevent something worse from happening.
And you are focusing on the fact she may or may not have put her hands on your son and CCTV???
Aren’t you mortified?
Aren’t you more concerned about how to correct your son’s behaviour so he stops behaving like a thug???
Aren’t you thinking of ways to apologise to her for the frightening situation she was caught up in?
How do you know that her intervention didn’t stop your son from hurting the other kid more and getting in even worse situation??
Seriously. Think about what you are suggesting here.

No wonder your sun is a violent thug - you are deluded and permissive.
Yabvfu

I see where your son gets it from.

She not only had to physically intervene to break up a fight but then your violent thug of a child turned back into the room again as he was leaving, what could she have thought was going to happen? That he'd make threats, that he'd try to jump the boy again, that he'd hurt her? She must have been terrified and you think the appropriate course of action is to complain? I think we can all see where your scumbag son gets it from.

I hope to god your DS is PEX-d and ends up in a PRU (although I feel for the other kids there, but at least the ratio of adults to children will be more favourable). If my child was the one being attacked, I'd be calling the police and we'd be pressing charges.

Get your arse down to Tesco and get some flowers and chocolates. Apologise to that teacher, who in a split moment had to make a judgement on what your unstable and frankly dangerous child was about to do.

Have you ever thought if she wondered, when he turned away from her, if he was getting a weapon out of his pocket. She probably wanted him in the corridor so he was visible (also where the CCTV is) and she could get help (rather than being trapped in a classroom, potentially with a student with a knife). How terrifying for her.

Maybe you should be trapped in a room with 4 angry men possibly with a concealed weapon and see how you react?

So, let’s get this straight.

1. Your disgusting thug of a son and his 3 idiotic mates went into a room they had no business being in and attacked a younger student.
2. The teacher stops the assault - a lone, female in the middle of 5 teenage boys where you have a situation of 4 on 1
3. Your disgusting thug then turns round to shout more abuse at the victim which made the teacher think he was going to attack again and so pushed him to get him out of the room.

Whilst you sit there saying you don’t agree with what he did - your reaction to blame the teacher and not your child shows the reason for this behaviour. You have completely failed at parenting and should be thoroughly ashamed for raising a despicable bully. The reason he has turned into this is that you deflect and have never taught him right from wrong. I hope he is prosecuted by the other boy and the police.

However, the main thing you need to remember and really let this sink in - you and your lack of parenting are the reason for this situation. If you have any other children, don’t make the same mistake again. Society pays the price for having ineffective parents and the public are in danger as you have failed in your duty of care to raise a decent human being.

The fact that you want to complain blows my mind. You should be apologising to the poor staff member who was probably panicking on what was unfolding and worried she was going to be attacked herself.

Sign yourself up to a parenting course - you need it.

You should be supporting the teacher. Kids are the way they are these days because teachers aren't allowed to have any authority. I'd have told my son he deserved to be pushed away and he owes that teacher an apology for making an already challenging job even more difficult.

Im gobsmacked you have the balls to ask. I'd be mortified if it were my son, you need to take a take a long hard look at yourself

In a few years time the OP will be complaining about a prison guard being mean to her precious little boy.

Yes, teachers can do this to break up a physical fight. I personally wouldn’t but it does come under duty of care.

You described it as he walked back and the man she pushed him away.

I think if he is hurt then maybe you can bring it up but I would say due to way the situation has arisen she has grounds for a self defence

unless she pushed him im The back?

I can see why your bratty child is how he is.

I agree with this and I hope the other parent gets the police involved.

she’s not big or tall and didn’t hurt him

well there you go ! Perfect reasonable force , no harm done. …apart to the poor teacher who is as home now with large glass of wine and questioning her career options

your son will be excluded for this so start looking around for other schools and therapies and first thing tomorrow he needs to hand a written apology to her and the boy

But you sound as though your son and his posse of thugs putting hands on another child is not at all the same thing! The teacher was quite rightly protecting another child. For all she knew your child and his gang had intentions beyond putting hands on another child. Teachers , and children, have been stabbed by out of control children like your son, some have been killed, others seriously injured both physically, mentally and emotionally.

I hope the school throws the book at your child.https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3v9y544wq6oq6o

If I were you I would be focusing your energies on what you will do when your son gets expelled. I feel sorry for the teacher and I hope she is being supported. And I feel sorry for the other boy who thought he was being kept in a safe room and instead a gang of thugs barged in. Shocking.

Hopefully he will be PX.

Nobody wants to have to deal with that shit or shit parenting.

Your son is violent. Focus on getting him help, not whining that a teacher pushed him. He is a violet thug beating a younger child in her care. He went looking for the student, this shows premeditation. I hope he is reported to the police.

What would you have suggested she did? Tea and cuddles?