WIBU if I complain about this teacher?

If any teacher in my last school said they wanted to report an assault on them to the police the Head told them he'd make sure they never taught anywhere else. That included his own Deputy Head.

We can but hope, @Just1712.

So over 1000 people have told OP she is being unreasonable. There are no updates. Please tell me she has not ignored the advice and gone and complained about the poor teacher, making even more work for the school🙈

Jesus OP. It's pretty clear why your son thinks it's acceptable to behave like this.

I'd be quite content for a large, burly, male PE teacher to have physically knocked my DS on his ass or physically restrained him for what your son did. If there were some bruises to show for it, again, just desserts.

Parents like you are what's wrong with society.

You're okay with your son putting hands on another boy, but not a teacher putting hands on him to stop him hurting someone else?

People wonder why teachers are leaving!!!

I really do not know why teachers do not involve the police. If the school won't do it, then is the teacher not allowed to approach them on her own behalf.

No wonder, they cannot attract good teachers who dedicate their careers to teaching.

Surely, any parent-like this one-who turns up the next day to try and make some sort of complaint-should be given the bum's rush straight out of the door, manhandled, and told never to come back.

From reading this board though, with its shocking stories, I imagine a senior teacher will sit down and try to appease her.

Why do teachers do this? If you did this in the doctors, you would be off the list and quite right. If you verbally abuse a call handler-they cut you off and quite right. But when it comes to teachers-they take the side of the offender.

It really is about time the profession grew a pair of balls and refused to teach violent criminals-because that is what this boy is. A criminal doesn't have to be convicted to be a criminal.

Don't send him to another school-withdraw his marvellous chance at a free education and let his mum apply her great brain to homeschooling him. See how that pans out.

In this particular case, the OP should invest a good suit for when her thuggish son appears in the dock, as I have no doubt he will-it surely will be just be a matter of time.

Hopefully, in his criminal career, he will come up before at least one judge who will send him down for a good long time.

He walked away.. and you said he THEN turned back around, therefore she was exerting reasonable force. She had no idea he wouldn’t kick off again or hurt her or the other students.

Your son is the issue, your son is the one in the wrong. She had every right to get him out of that room and safeguard the children in her care. You are so beyond unreasonable to not understand how terrified those in the room must have felt when you son AND three other boys stormed in. The fact you’re even spending time trying to shift blame on her and not just deal with your son who caused this entire incident is beyond me.

This made my heart start racing just reading it, I can't imagine how terrified you and the other kids must have been. I'm so sorry you had to endure that. It's not something anyone should have to deal with.

You are wrong 1000%! Your child not only started a fight he actively encouraged two friends to join him, sought out a younger child with the intention to attack them, knowingly did so with a senior member of staff present....

If I was the other parent not only would I be expecting the school to come down like a ton of bricks I would be going to the police and expecting assault charges filed, this was a pre meditated and planned attack.

The teacher pushed, see the word, pushed. She did not punch, hit, kick she pushed your child.

That is an act that is used to direct someone, create space or give time. She was probably scared herself with 3 boys in close proximity who have shown no issue with premeditated violence. She was quite right to push him away and protect the child being attacked.

Now rather than being worried about if a teacher placed a hand on your son how about you go and work on not raising a criminal who is going to spend their life in jail for being a violent thug!

Yep. If your first thought is shall i complain about the teacher in this circumstance... THATS the problem right there.

Would be more understanding of this thread was entitled "help, advice needed, how do I deal with my son's shocking behaviours" or something similar.

I would be absolutely horrified if one of my kids tracked down a younger child and violently attacked him. I wouldn't care what the teacher did to stop him that would be completely irrelevant to me. I'd be wondering how I'd failed in my parenting so spectacularly and what I could do to try and rectify the situation.

You are lucky because if my child was attacked in this way I'd be ringing the police straight away.

No, you said in your op that he turned around to say something to the other boy. He was not walking away. I don't blame her for what she did. Poor teachers have so much to deal with these days and parents like you aren't helping

1000% this! ⬆️

But you said he stopped walking away & turned back round to 'say' something else - she probably, understandably, thought he was coming back for more.

And you only have your son's word for any of this, anyway - your son, the violent lout.

You are a complete moron for thinking this is the takeaway from this situation. Stop trying to redirect blame onto the poor teacher instead of the real issue.

Are you joking? This is the reason kids today are like this. Weak parents.

@Throwawaymama

Are you f*ing kidding?? Your son was 100% in the wrong & the teacher did her job (& put herself at risk) by putting herself inbetween the boys.

When your son swung back round to supposedly jusy 'say' something else, after being told to leave, she probably, quite naturally, thought he was coming back in for another pop! She was well within her rights to push him away from her, in order to protect both the other child and herself!!

And your issue that you're focusing on is to question HER putting her hands on your angry, violent son?? Shouldn't you be more worried about the fact that your son didn't 'get into a fight' at all - he deliberately sought out & attacked another child!!! FFS.

I understand what's wrong with some teenagers when there are parents like the OP. Bravo. You have successfully raised an entitled thug.

Your son is going to end up in jail soon if you keep raising him this way.

You’ve got to be fucking kidding? I hope your son is kicked out of that school faster than anything I can imagine. He’s a disgrace and so are you for trying to come up with a complaint here.

Wow. Your son sounds like trouble. Was she meant to sit back and let him batter some poor child while she asked him politely to please stop? If a group of kids came running into my daughter's classroom to attack her I would want an adult to jump in to stop them and I'd be thanking them. You are lucky your son was stopped before he did serious damage (at least I hope he was!)

I hope your son is arrested and you should be looking for a 'lot' of support just now. He might be kicked out of school for this.

FOUR boys burst into the room, not three. The OP’s violent revengeful bully and his back up thugs.

She was not being attacked but your son and his mates did attack and she helped defend him.

he was told to get out and instead of leaving turned to mouth off again. How was the teacher to know he and his friends were not going to attack again?

your son is a bully, getting his friends to help him beat up a younger child and you should be focusing on that, nit the teacher defending a child

if I was that child’s parent I would be reporting it to the police and hoping they arrest your nasty child and I certainly hope the school exclude him

Absolutely.

But I bet she'll be made to.

It's the sort of stuff that makes teachers hand in their notice.

@HangryGooose why should the teacher have to sit down and talk with @Throwawaymama at all after what she's been though at the hands of her violent son?

The teacher did not break a chair over her little darlings head.

He entered the room with an adult who had safeguarding responsibilities with the intent to carryout a violent criminal assault on another younger child.

And had 3 of his mates along to act as backup.

And this was an ongoing pattern of actions by the OPs child.

The teacher managed to break up the planned attack yet the OP should be asking the school about how they plan to manage her violent little darling?

If the OP had put her energy and outrage into managing her son the school would not have had to deal with it for her.