WIBU if I complain about this teacher?

I am a teacher and I broke up a fight today.

It was a big lad holding and thumping a smaller boy in the year below. It caused chaos on the corridor and stampede. As the closest member staff, I pushed through the kids, shouted at the fighting boys and put my body between them, firmly holding back the bigger boy, until a male colleague was able to put him in a half elbow lock and march him off. I am 5'2 and weigh 10 stone. Both boys were bigger than me. It was frightening but we have to safeguard and protect. It was all on CCTV.

The smaller boy was kept separate until he could be slowly reintegrated. The larger boy once the footage was viewed was suspended. His parents were very upset when shown the footage and passed on their apologies to me.

Your son took a bunch of mates and barged into a room and were intimidating to a female member of staff and a younger pupil. Wise up, he was a thug and you should be ashamed of him.

Agreed. He's asked for any sanction he gets. His behaviour is indefensible.

Thank God that teacher wasn't hurt.
I hope SHE escalates this. Unless this is a reverse you are actually crazy.

You're taking the piss, surely?

Your son went to gang-bash a younger student and you're complaining that a teacher put herself in harm's way to protect the other boy?

Your son will end up in prison or dead, if he keeps doing that. Deal with his behaviour first.

I’m sure you can air your grievances at the expulsion or fixed term suspension meeting that is going to happen as a result of your ds going into a calm situation and initiating a fight

yabu . Really hope the school through the book at your son

I am actually gobsmacked a parent is complaining a female teacher stopped her male child from beating up a younger child.

I simply can’t imagine a situation where my son acted in that way and I responded by giving even a single second of time to consider how he might’ve felt in being pushed by a smaller, female teacher who was protecting his victim. Far be it to engender any sympathy, I rather think it would act as a red flag to a bull that he was even attempting to paint himself as a victim in any way, shape or form.

Are you ignoring that she ‘screamed’ at him too? I mean, the poor little lamb shouldn’t be subject to such shocking and abusive behaviour. Should she have been reminding him gently that 'we use kind hands', or something?

FGS get a grip. You should be mortified at his behaviour, not trying to get a teacher in trouble for having to deal with your violent son.

Your son has done an excellent job of distracting your from his own actions.

Truly terrific manipulation, if I was him I'd feel pretty pleased with myself

And still you are blinded! Lady, get your shit together and read all the comments above. You are deluded.

The teacher was brave and stopped him harming another child. If anyone is to blame, it's you! You created this monster and clearly even now, hell think yh I did do that but really the teacher is in the wrong. People like you should not have kids. I was a teacher and kids like yours often were the way they were because of shit parenting. Granted this isn't the case all of the time, but with your post and follow up am am certain in your case it is because of that.

He beat another child unprovoked with a gang. I hope karma comes back and gets him. Wonder who you'll blame them.

I’ve never seen 100 % votes before.

Omg

This is why the secondary schools are full of little shits. This is why some children are too frightened to go.

Your son knows exactly how to manipulate you doesn’t he? He’s lying to your face.

You should be supporting the school AGAINST your son here. He was in the wrong. Step up and parent. Don’t come out with the ‘he’s my son and I’ll fight his corner’. He doesn’t need his corner fighting. He was out of order. Stop minimising what he’s done. Aren’t you ashamed? Didn’t you bring up up to behave better than this?

JFC. I’d say I was surprised but my own kids went through state secondary and there were loads of parents just like you.

He wasn’t walking away, he even told you he turned back towards her.

She didn't though, this is what YOU said:
- but as he turned round again to say something to the other boy she has pushed him away from her

Your son and 3 mates went to attack a child in front of a teacher. A younger child, and 4 of them. The teacher put herself at personal risk of harm to prevent them and must have been absolutely terrified. Then your son turns back AGAIN. For all she knew, his next plan was to harm her, that was an entirely reasonable assumption on her part. You want to complain? You should be on your knees thanking her for preventing it from becoming a more serious crime.

Your son needs to be removed immediately from the school yo a PRU. He'll be lucky if the younger boy doesn't go to the police over this assault You should be preventing contact with these "mates" and focusing on how to move your child from the path he is on, because it has decent odds of him ending up n prison or dead if you leave him to continue.

The way your son is going, one day it's not going to be a small female teacher getting in the middle of his fights. It's going to be another young man who can throw a punch or carries a knife. Maybe focus on that.

I've done the restraint and reasonable force training and from the description given in the original post, the teacher acted absolutely within the bounds of it. Without any question or doubt.

Oh, and then I left teaching forever despite getting outstanding results in a core subject and being much needed in a rapidly depleting and demoralised workforce, because I didn't ever want to be the teacher in the middle of four teenage boys trying to attack another, put myself in danger and then have a parent like the OP complain about my actions. I am so much happier out of that job and so glad I got out before I was in this poor woman's shoes.

Why are you lying? Your op, YOUR op, literally says he turned back around to start on the younger boy again. YOU said that. So he wasnt walking away.

how else other that forcibly did you want the female teacher to put herself in the middle of an older child who sought out a younger child to beat up? With his mates no less. Heroically put herself in the middle would be a more appropriate word.

your child is a thug and you are a passive parent. Parent better.

Omg no! You need to focus on sorting your own corner out AKA your son. He was completely out of order. I read a post before on mumsnet from a wife of a teacher whose life was wrecked by such a complaint. Go and buy the teacher a bunch of flowers and apologise for her having to stop your son attack another pupil. You will have nothing but more bother with your son if you make a complaint as he will see it as a win!

F-ing hell - this kind of parenting is why we have so many problems in schools!! The teacher is not at fault in any way. You need to focus your attention on why your son is such a bully, why on earth he thinks it's ok to behave in such a disgusting way and how YOU are going to sort it out - this is your responsibility as his parent! Stop trying to put blame on anyone else in this situation.

It's rare to see a 100% vote for YABU.

Your son will end up in jail and you will only have yourself to blame. She should 't put her hands on him? Yes she should, she has a duty of care for all children not only yours! Yourbson and three others started punching the poor boy, what was she supposed to do, appalud them? If it was your son being punched you would have thought the same, she should have left them punching him? You are insane! I really hope your son gets the experience of a jail cell, maybe this will wake him up as you for sure won't!

Take some responsibility for your thuggish and dangerous child rather than trying to deflect the blame elsewhere!

She did your son a favour by pulling him away from the other boy! If she’d have done nothing you would be pulling your face that he’s getting in trouble with the Police.
She protected the other boy from being seriously hurt and also prevented your son from getting in to big trouble. She used reasonable force in a very stressful situation.

Is this a joke?

Your little darling and his 3 mates were in school and tracked another child into a room with a teacher?

And in front of the female teacher he carried out an attack on the other child?

And had to be physically blocked from the attack by the female teacher?

And came back at the female teacher and the child for another go?

And you think your little darling should not have been blocked in his attack?

Do the school a big favour throw a strop and pull your little darling out asap.🙄

He is 14 try thinking about how much prison time could attach to his little adventure because that where he will end up.

Ha, yes.

Waste your time in complaining about hands being put on your precious diddles. Instead of addressing the real problem - the disgusting behaviour of the thick, aggressive thug you've raised.

The very fact you're even asking this questions is indicative of where the problems have begun.