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Plumber in toilet for ages when I got home

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Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 18:38

Had a boiler service today - was on school run when he wanted to arrive so left the garage key accessible and opened door from garage into house so he could check what he needed. It wasn’t the usual one we have, someone who worked for him, so not sure what message was passed on. Arrived home after drop off and went to offer him a drink, but no sign…until I realised downstairs bathroom was locked. I have a 2 year old so he would definitely have known we were home, and front door is right next to toilet. He came out about 15/ 20 mins later!!!! He immediately shut door behind him and I didn’t dare open it for hours but window had also been left wide open.
I am totally totally ok with being asked to use bathroom, I understand people need to go. But I felt so freaked out to come home, know he was in my house and him not appear for SO long?!! Is that ok?! He hurriedly said he’d needed the bathroom and rushed to garage. I think it’s just the weirdness of never having met him and him walking through my house and being in the house without me having a clue who he was.

would this freak you out?!

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Fancycheese · 21/05/2025 15:45

DeSoleil · 21/05/2025 08:32

I agree. Very unprofessional to be in the toilet that soon so long after starting work. He should have gone at home before starting work. Disgusting to spend so long in someone’s home.

Are you for real?

sausagefingers2 · 21/05/2025 15:41

DeSoleil · 21/05/2025 08:32

I agree. Very unprofessional to be in the toilet that soon so long after starting work. He should have gone at home before starting work. Disgusting to spend so long in someone’s home.

Very unprofessional to have a basic human bodily function. How dare he! Go to the papers!

Gosh some people are thick on here 😂

GlitteryRainbow · 21/05/2025 10:47

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 19:04

lol i thought while writing. HOWEVER I would say - I fully agree with him not walking out with trousers round his ankles. That would’ve been ever so slightly more awkward. However - 20 minutes?!! I don’t get men’s obsession with needing so long on the toilet - I don’t think I’ve ever spent 20 minutes having a poo in my life. 20 minutes when you’re in a strangers house when you know they’re outside?!

As someone with a bowel condition. It takes as long as it takes. I sometimes spend hours on the loo as I don’t dare get up. If you try and speed things up you can burst piles which can then get infected and leave you in a right mess. I wouldn’t be worried about 20 minutes. He was clearly embarrassed so if he could have finished earlier I’m sure he would have. I hope you didn’t say anything about the length of time he took.

StmMary · 21/05/2025 09:22

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 18:38

Had a boiler service today - was on school run when he wanted to arrive so left the garage key accessible and opened door from garage into house so he could check what he needed. It wasn’t the usual one we have, someone who worked for him, so not sure what message was passed on. Arrived home after drop off and went to offer him a drink, but no sign…until I realised downstairs bathroom was locked. I have a 2 year old so he would definitely have known we were home, and front door is right next to toilet. He came out about 15/ 20 mins later!!!! He immediately shut door behind him and I didn’t dare open it for hours but window had also been left wide open.
I am totally totally ok with being asked to use bathroom, I understand people need to go. But I felt so freaked out to come home, know he was in my house and him not appear for SO long?!! Is that ok?! He hurriedly said he’d needed the bathroom and rushed to garage. I think it’s just the weirdness of never having met him and him walking through my house and being in the house without me having a clue who he was.

would this freak you out?!

Hi, he might have bowel problems. Ibs or other things going on.
Is rather him sit in there 20 minutes than cack himself.. Just as you walked in..

Missey85 · 21/05/2025 08:47

ohyesido · 20/05/2025 20:48

Not for men I’m not married to poo in

You mean your a stuck up cow who thinks your above tradies? I hope he sneaks back and takes a huge dump on your porch!

LoafofSellotape · 21/05/2025 08:46

queenofthesuburbs · 19/05/2025 21:07

Well it does appear that their mothers never taught them to "go" before they leave the house.
Without fail, it's the first thing they do at my house!

How do you teach someone to shit on demand?

Missey85 · 21/05/2025 08:42

SwanRivers · 19/05/2025 18:41

You arrived home when he was mid-shit.

Did you expect him to greet you doing the penguin walk with his jeans around his ankles?

Haha 😂 😂 😂 what is it with uptight ladies on this page and freaking out that tradies use the toilet

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 08:35

DeSoleil · 21/05/2025 08:32

I agree. Very unprofessional to be in the toilet that soon so long after starting work. He should have gone at home before starting work. Disgusting to spend so long in someone’s home.

You think he actually engineered it, shouldn’t leave home before a poo?

Like he knows the exact timing of his bowel movements? And should work around them?

Oh the joy of regular and reliable shits….

DeSoleil · 21/05/2025 08:32

AJLOAL · 19/05/2025 20:59

I wouldn't be happy about this at all. I'd complain to his boss. It doesn't take 20 mins to have a poo. And don't leave someone to enter your house when you're not there. Re-arrange or ask the to wait until you're home from the school run.

I agree. Very unprofessional to be in the toilet that soon so long after starting work. He should have gone at home before starting work. Disgusting to spend so long in someone’s home.

OneAmusedShark · 21/05/2025 08:30

Not accusing anyone, but I bet the poo trolls are loving this thread!

🤣

Meanttobeworking · 21/05/2025 08:02

You left a key for him so he could let himself in so there’s no point in being freaked out he was in your house. I know that you didn’t intend for him to be in your bathroom but using the toilet is not really unreasonable is it?

ohyesido · 21/05/2025 07:52

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles exactly none, hence why none are going to poo in my manor

Seeyousoonboo · 21/05/2025 07:46

SwanRivers · 19/05/2025 18:59

The obsession with tradesmen's bowels remains oddly strong.

It's the same angst as weddings and baby showers on MN whilst in RL nobody gives a shit, pardon the pun!

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/05/2025 07:40

@ohyesido
'I don’t want strange men I’m not married to...'

How many strange men are you married to?

itbemay1 · 21/05/2025 07:33

What?

jessr1990 · 21/05/2025 07:17

Not weird for you, but probably hugely embarrassing for him I'd imagine.

Maybe he has IBS or a stomach issue. Maybe he just really badly needed a poo. I'd hate if that happened to me whilst at a job.

If he hadn't done the job because he'd gone somewhere else to use the toilet that wouldn't be great. He did what he had to do imo.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/05/2025 06:51

Poor chap, he saw an opportunities to use the toilet and he didn’t finish on time.

Tradesmen often end up stomach problems from withholding for hours on site. 💩

Supergirl1958 · 21/05/2025 06:40

Airspice · 20/05/2025 18:26

How on earth does it take 20 minutes to do a poo?!

Do you live with a man? Or have you ever lived with men?

It’s really not that uncommon. My fiancé has IBS but often spends in excess of 30-40 minutes in the loo unless I need it desperately also.

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 06:39

GenderFluid90 · 20/05/2025 21:28

I love reading these insane threads with a nice cup of coffee and a biscuit

Ginger nuts? Or something more decadent?

Supergirl1958 · 21/05/2025 06:38

UnctuousUnicorns · 19/05/2025 18:57

Another day, another tradie using my toilet gripe on MN...

I feel like I’ve seen them a lot. I feel like this is absolutely nothing. It was first thing, he was clearly emptying his bowels. Maybe he has IBS, maybe a dodgy curry. Either way it’s better than poo all over, or an unserviced boiler

MereNoelle · 20/05/2025 21:44

ohyesido · 20/05/2025 21:41

Must everything be explained in minute detail or can we assume some things go without saying?

Ok, I’ll assume you’ll let your kids shit in your toilet

ohyesido · 20/05/2025 21:41

Must everything be explained in minute detail or can we assume some things go without saying?

GenderFluid90 · 20/05/2025 21:28

I love reading these insane threads with a nice cup of coffee and a biscuit

GenderFluid90 · 20/05/2025 21:26

ohyesido · 20/05/2025 20:48

Not for men I’m not married to poo in

OK hun 🤣

ohyesido · 20/05/2025 21:04

MereNoelle · 20/05/2025 20:56

The poster said that she doesn’t want anyone she’s not married to shitting in her toilet, I’m going to assume she’s not married to the ‘fruits of her loin’!

Christ on a bike.

my son regularly comes round and immediately goes into the bathroom to download: something about mum’s toilet I guess

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