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For me and my bf not bringing my 9 year old nephew with us to activity park with my daughter of 5 years and our couple friend and their toddler?

31 replies

Biggyteddy · 19/05/2025 16:05

Me and my friend went to an activity farm like with animals activity and food for $25 last weekend since we planned that for 2-3 weeks ago, with our partners and kids. Sooo.. what happend is that my parents where babysitting both of them at the same time (i didn’t know tho about my nephew being there). So when i went to pick up my daughter since we where going that day early i did kinda told my nephew that we all as family could go togheter next time. My mom was also being a lil pushy about it so it become a bit uncomfortable and told her that we all including my sister could go next time. my nephew is a god kid but he can get moody and very rude when he get told no or gets mad. so i didn’t want to prob deal with that while meeting up with our friends and kids. I think my sister got offended since She texted me that i was heartless since our kids play good togheter and that she would have taken my kid with her if it was the opposite. (Wich i doubt). But this time we where meeting with friends so i don’t think it suited to just bring my nephew with us. Idk if this suits but like there is place and time for everyting but it not this time.

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Hankunamatata · 19/05/2025 16:25

I can see both sides.
Probably not best plan to have parents baby sit the night before when your headed for a family day out

DeathStare · 19/05/2025 16:24

I'm really struggling to make sense of your post. But if I've understood correctly you said "we will take you next time" to your nephew, and then didn't, knowing your DD and nephew would both be at your parents together and your DD would probably tell him that you'd been again without him.

If I've understood that correctly then yes you are being unreasonable. If you don't want to take your nephew, don't take him. But don't tell him you'll take him when you've no intention to. That's just mean.

TaupeMember · 19/05/2025 16:23

Just tell her next time, and make sure you stick to it if you said it.

Stickortwigs · 19/05/2025 16:21

I understand and you’re not being unreasonable. You shouldn’t be obliged to take extra children, especially when you’re meeting up with friends.

Trovindia · 19/05/2025 16:21

givemushypeasachance · 19/05/2025 16:19

I'm sorry but I don't understand what happened there with friends/your sister/your parents/your nephew, what you've written is pretty confusing.

Op, her DH and DC were meeting friends and a toddler at a park which costs money. They picked up DC from her parents who also had her nephew there. Her sister is now annoyed that OP didn't take nephew as well.

givemushypeasachance · 19/05/2025 16:19

I'm sorry but I don't understand what happened there with friends/your sister/your parents/your nephew, what you've written is pretty confusing.