Do some doctors just get a kick out of telling you to lose weight?

When I was at school in the 80s and 90s, hardly anyone was fat. Being fat was seen as being a bad thing. At school, I can only remember one or two very overweight children. Now they are rolling out of the classroom one after the other. It's not the doctors' fault that so many people are obese, things are getting worse because it has become acceptable and anyone who disagrees is 'fat-shaming'.

Seriously, the number of times I have heard size 16 women declaring that they are the average size, totally overlooking the fact that the average person is fat/overweight.

There are too many people making too many excuses.

Again, missing the point that OP had already talked about her weight with him.

You can’t moan that he mentioned your weight then go on about his ‘gut’ you’re just as bad

I mean. I have a good friend who is 5’1 and wears a size 24. She’s always complaining that her doctor goes on about her weight but is absolutely blind to the fact that her weight is likely to be causing the health issues that she has. She just prefers to dismiss it as her doctor being a big meanie, rather than accepting she could do something about her weight.

You seem to be missing the fact that she has already told him about her weight loss and that she was continuing with it. So, he didn’t need to bring it up again, not if he’s actually listened to a word she said.

Yes but why would he just spew out the standard line with no indication whatsoever that he'd just heard the OP talking about her weight loss? He clearly just wasn't listening or remotely interested.

LOL, he was just doing his job.

I'd be less irritated by the comment on your weight than by the fact that he clearly hadn't actually listened to a word you'd said. Not much of a GP if he's already forgotten the first part of your 10 minute appointment by the end...!?

So, in my case, not dissimilar situation with my GP. Difference was that when I had said I was trying and why it was hard etc, she had listened to that and we even had a chat about injections and why it's so annoying that she can't give them to me.

I had a car accident where the other driver hit my car door, caused damage to my shoulder which was understandably quite painful. Helpful advice from my GP ‘Losing weight will make it better’ 🙄

Have you been way above a healthy BMI for many years?

It doesn't sound like the GP was judging though? It's a bit strange to expect doctors to not mention weight when its a significant factor in someone's overall health.

They are doing it for your own good.
And is their method working? Things are getting worse, not better.
Everybody knows that eating disorders are usually a psychological thing but medics never address that, they just give simplistic "eat smaller portions" type advice. Or pass on a leaflet, as if people have never in their lives heard dietary advice before.

You'd be surprised, some people would complain that although they'd spoken about their weight the GP hadn't said anything.

Every sodding year during my annual diabetic review, I'm asked the same questions that I've literally answered multiple times previously, i.e. do I smoke, how much do I drink, am I depressed, etc etc - the system doesn't "remember" my answers from previous years, so several minutes of the short consultation are wasted with asking/answering questions where the answer never changes. This is what happens when the computer/systems take over! The doctor/nurse just becomes a data entry clerk, for the benefit of statisticians rather than the health of the patient!

Well you might have become and alcoholic smoker and got depressed about it in a year....

I think I'd rather they asked than just left the info the same for ever...

But in this case it wasn't for OPs 'own good' she has already lost a lot of weight and is on track to teach her target weight by the summer.
And people who are overweight know they are overweight they don't need a doctor to tell them
What they need is support and understanding

I think you are unlucky with your doctor mine has never mentioned my weight. And I am overweight but I know I am and I'm trying to do something about it

0/10 for reading (me that is) Mea culpa

They are doing it for your own good. A very close friend of mine is a practice nurse and she dreads having to bring up the subject of weight, as people are so defensive and are quick to make formal complaints. Obesity seems to be such an acceptable thing now that no-one actually believes that their health will benefit from them losing weight. My friend has been accused of 'body shaming' just for passing a leaflet about the benefits of weight loss to someone who was several kilos overweight.

I bet they don't tell everybody to lose weight.

She was in there for something different and mentioned her weight loss after a comment about how well she looked?

They absolutely do. Our tiny gp delights in telling almost everybody to lose weight.

I think you're being oversensitive tbh, he was stating facts.

Also, his weight is nothing to do with you, you're not his Dr.

But the OP had already said that she had lost weight and was still losing weight and on track towards a normal BMI. He could have ticked his box with that information, surely.

I get that there are boxes to be ticked, but actually listening to the patient would have shown that she was taking steps.

Presumably that helps to secure extra funding due to giving "weight loss advice"???

You are overthinking this. He has to say it because it's in his check list. Loads of work places have this type of procedures.

We have to do yearly health and safety learning about how to sit at a computer desk and set up our monitors and keyboards so we don't get RSI. No one seriously believe we don't know how to do it currently.

I think you are just being defensive because you have a problem with weight yourself.