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Are parents of 'Trans' children aware of the damage of full affirmation?

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Iloverosesandcarnations · 19/05/2025 11:15

All children go through a stage of who am I? Confusion etc.

Am I a boy, a girl, do I fit it etc.

The social contagion of affirmation of 'I'm in the wrong body, so need to change it' it IMO so damaging.

Talking through, understanding that all children go through 'who am I'
rather than initial blind affirmation and ok.lrts change your name, clothing etc tell school rush into changes young BEFORE maturation, is so dangerous.

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PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 19/05/2025 11:31

It's very easy to look at it from an abstract point of view and decide what parents should and shouldn't be doing, it's very different to actually live it.

Iloverosesandcarnations · 19/05/2025 11:26

The reason I mentioned this is having discussed a YP who's having counselling it's very apparent that parents rushing into being keen to support the change in gender caused immense damage.

Eg

Child boy, I think I'm in the wrong body, I don't play like other boys, like the same things etc etc
Parent, ok you can be a girl, you seem very girly, not typically boyish, then follow through.
Child feels they have confirmed they are 'wrong' circle continues and on it goes

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