To be absolutely fed up of toddler?

It’s his child! Do you think it’s fair on the little one to have an exhausted fucked off mother? He needs to realise what she’s going through because otherwise nothing will change.

If she wasn’t dealing with him, and just had herself and the toddler to consider life would be easier. She would be allowed to send him to nursery and have a job and a life of her own. Sometimes staying with a useless person is far worse than doing it alone.

No idea why people say this. If he's not interested in looking after the child now he certainly won't do ut if you diverce

This would be so unfair on the child.

You’re burnt out and justifiably so, I’d concentrate on making your DH step up or shipping him out, getting your DC into nursery.

He useless as a parent.

Can you leave him? Even if he is still providing no childcare you'll be happier without the irritation of seeing him live his life exactly how he wants and telling you what to do. And that way you can choose to work and have your toddler attend nursery. Plus if OH does want to see him he can't demand you be there as well.

One Saturday morning, you need to hand over DC to your OH, and just walk out the door. Take your headphones, or a book, or a coffee and go for a walk or lay in the sun somewhere. Don't ask, just do.

In the beginning my DH was very much like this until i forced him to get involved. Some men are raised to think that its all our job to look after the kids. When i explained to him that you either help out and give me a break sometimes, or i lose all respect for you and make you take 50/50 custody and you see me 0% of the time, he started taking charge.

Do you rely on him financially? IF not then what are you actually losing other than a grown man to look after

Get rid of the ‘father’. He’s your problem not your little one. As someone who understands exactly how you feel regarding your little one, the world changed once i removed that problem from my life. look at getting him into nursery even if it’s just a few hours a day, is he old enough for the free 15hrs yet? . It will all seem even harder to start with but 3-6 months down line you will be smashing it! Take back control of your life for you and the little one!

Shed the 15 stone of dead weight and you'll feel better.

He's a useless, controlling, selfish lump. What good is he really? I'd split from him personally.

Toddlers are almost always a-holes. What you have here is a distinct partner problem. You need relationship counselling asap and if he won't engage or take you seriously, then I don't see what else you can do other than leave and claim maintenance and get a study agreement drawn up.

Unless he engages, this won't get better. You will grow more bitter, resentful and unhappy and be a poor parent to your child. Your child deserves at least one parents happy to be with him, and that can be you if get away from his useless excuse of a father.

How many months is he? People use toddler for such an age range but if he’s only just turned one that would be different advice to a 3 year old

Are you married, OP?

It doesn't sound like your marriage/relationship is going to last so maybe it's time for you to go back to work and put your child in daycare and get your ducks lined up for splitting up.

Why is he working 7 days a week? Could that change?

Failing that, I agree with the posters who have said to hand over the child and bugger off for a couple of days. See how he likes it.

You’re exhausted. So take an enforced break

Plan for your future, are you dependent on this boyfriend for money or housing?

It's never a good idea to not be in employment and depending on some man, especially being legally single.

Once you secure a job and housing, the man can choose whether or not the child attends nursery during his own contact time. (Which will presumably continue to be zero percent)

Toddler needs to go to nursery. Most of us would be exhausted caring for a toddler 24/7, they are intense and relentless.

Go back to work full-time asap.
Toddler goes in nursery.
Don't have another child with that waster.

It is normal to be tired, frustrated and fed up with your toddler at times, but it's not normal to claim "I hate him" and "I regret that I had him".

My oldest one was full-on as a baby/toddler, always screaming, running and generally hyperactive and it was exhausting to look after him. I did 90% of childcare. DH changed an odd nappy and put him to bed from time to time. Mealtimes were a battle every time. I had very little sleep at that time, and I also worked as a freelancer, so it was very tough. I lost over 2 stone without trying, as frequently I didn't have time to cook or eat my lunch and usually spent whole day going for walks, as DS slept well in a pram/stroller. Mine didn't really like sleeping in their cots either, so we co-slept until they were 3-4 y.o. You have to reprogramme your mind - not everything goes with little kids the way it's described in the books/online. You have to find a way to muddle through and cope and stop fighting with the child and adjust your techniques to your child, especially as you don't get much help. So feed him, put him in a stroller when you know he will be sleepy and go for a long walk. Grab a coffee/lunch/ice-cream and sit down on a bench with a book. Enjoy little moments, because they grow so fast and - trust me - you will miss this time when they grow up.

For me, the real game-changer was a childminder I employed when DS was 18 months old. He went there 3x/week for 4 hours. Why don't you try this and start some freelancing/part-time work until your toddler goes to school? If your DH doesn't help with childcare, but you have the money, that's the best solution to keep your sanity.

Why does your partner work 7 days a week? That is ridiculous, does he ever see or spend time with you both?

How old is your toddler? Does he go to nursery? If not, can you put him in nursery and go back to work if that might be easier?

I'm a SAHM to a toddler. It's hard but I personally love it. I like getting out and about most days otherwise it's a looong day at home. Soft play, swimming, messy play class, toddler group, role play center, library, long walks in the pram to local parks, play dates etc

Well she does everything anyway, at least she won't have to deal with the husband everyday.

He's a father, what has he signed up for? It's 2025, most fathers have a hands on role.

It may be time to start handing over the reins as soon as he gets home from work. Book yourself that haircut. You should get equal time to socialise.

How would you feel about getting a job and little one going to nursery a few days a week?

Toddler sounds normal, and you would be able to cope better if you had breaks and me time. Then you would have more energy and patience for normal toddler behaviour.
give up on high chair - we did at 1 for all our children. And got a little ikea table and chairs.

this is a DH DP problem not a DC problem. He needs to help out or you need to get rid of him

What do you mean he goes on holiday ?

Child in nursery, you back at work.
And OH does not need to work 7 days. That is ridiculous.