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To be absolutely fed up of toddler?

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fedupmomm · 19/05/2025 09:56

I am so fed up of my toddler, I don’t know what else to do.

OH works 7 days a week and does not help me with anything apart from give me money.

Toddler will not eat unless he has something to play with.
Screams constantly all the time when in the high chair.

Refuses to sleep in his cot.
Brushing his teeth is a big battle.

I am just so fed up.
I don’t have any time for myself at all, the last time I went to the hair dressers was in 2023.

OH is just awful and says because I am a mother this is what I signed up for.

Because he has never looked after DC on his own he really does not know or understand how hard it is.

I regret having him so bad and I hate feeling like this.

I don’t have depression I am just fed up, I am tired, I am frustrated from the lack of help and support from OH.

Because I feel like this OH says “Wow you have a beautiful son and you feel like this?”
He just dosent understand.

His life has stayed the same, he works, he see’s his friends, he goes out, he goes on holiday.

Since DC was 8 months old I have asked him to do more, but to no avail.

I just don’t know what to do anymore.
My parents live close and they do see me but I don’t want to ask them for help as they have their own problems with health.

AIBU to feel like this?

OP posts:
Gettingbysomehow · 19/05/2025 10:03

I remember my mother in the same situation years ago shrieking ......if the children are so fucking wonderful then you look after them and just leaving the house for 24 hours.
We never knew where she went.
It was absolute chaos and bedlam and he never said anythingike that again.
You should try it.

Restingpotato · 19/05/2025 10:03

The bit that would drive me crazy is the lack of support and help from partner. Do you even see each other? Do you get time together in the evening?
how old is your toddler? Can you start getting more structure to the day? Find a stay and play group where they can be slightly entertained and you can get a little adult interaction. Teeth may be a struggle for a while, I used a sticker chart with some success (the promise of soft play after a certain number of stickers).
are they old enough to be out of a high chair?we’d given up on the high chair by about 20 months with my son and he’ll happily eat sitting on a chair or booster seat. Wasn’t a fan of being contained! Maybe they have high energy and low sleep needs. A tough combination for a parent especially one with no support

fedupmomm · 19/05/2025 10:03

We go out everyday, we have a nursery full of toys, have toys in the garden.

Yes OH is the problem because the dosent do anything to help me.
All he does is tell me what to do and criticise me.

OP posts:
Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2025 09:59

What do you do with him? He sounds really bored!

Eenameenadeeka · 19/05/2025 09:59

Sounds like the partner is the problem, not the toddler. He should be doing some of the parenting so that you can also get a break here and there.

converseandjeans · 19/05/2025 09:58

Does he go to nursery? It sounds like he needs more routine & something to keep him busy.

I wouldn’t believe DH has to work 24/7 - it sounds like he is avoiding childcare responsibilities.