To be absolutely fed up of toddler?

Does he go to a nursery for any days? If not could you start that? Give yourself a break.

Your OH sounds like an absolute dick for what it’s worth. I know you already know that but just adding to it!

Toddlers can be full on and hard work but you should be having fun with him too! Can you get him into nursery part time and go back to work? You sound like you need something outside being a SAHM and there's nothing wrong with that. Your little one might benefit too from more routine and structure.

I would make sure that you leave your partner with his son a couple of nights a week and let him deal with the teeth brushing and bedtime stuff. Take yourself off for a few hours at the weekend too, you need a break and he needs to spend more time with his son!

I think the toddler years are the absolute worst. After that it all gets better. The sheer tedium of it all. DSIS is going through it now later on in life and looks absolutely exhausted.

You are burnt out because parenting a toddler is relentless and your partner is unsupportive and possibly emotionally/verbally abusive.

You need a break and some emotional support. Is there any way you can get either?

how old is the Toddler? Doesn’t help that your dh is useless, but maybe toddler wants and needs more independence now?
You mention he hates highchair and cot etc, might would have just climbed out from between 18-24 Months. So at some point before 2 years he didn’t have sides on cot or straps on chair otherwise he screamed murder

They are like dogs. Need two runs a day. My Ds has only just started to calm down needing to be outside constantly and he’s 5 years

OP toddlers are hard work. It doesn’t sound like you get any sort of a break. Have you thought about a nanny, childminder, nursery. I think most of us would struggle if we were 24/7.

There’s no legal obligation for a parent to see their child so OP may still end up with no help unfortunately

Make sure your contraception is water tight. Don't have any more kids is my advice.

My youngest is 7yo and still wakes us up before 6am. It's bloody exhausting. I hope you can get family to help you.

This sounds really hard. I had my first as a toddler in lockdown with husband fortunately able to work it was just me and a baby all day every day, it was HARD. Being in a remote part of Scotland there was no chance for my babe to even see another face during the day.
I split up the day 8-12, 12-4, 4-8. Each part of the day had a meal, a nap and an activity. One of the parts the activity was housework in which the baby would also take part in depending on age, so wipe windows with a cloth, have a ride in the laundry basket upstairs etc. Another part of the day the a activity was to go outside.
Another part, books and bath. You get the jist
Somehow the days went on and I started to enjoy it, knowing each part of the day had a plan and I just had to get through that bit.
Sounds like your husband just does not get it which is exacerbating everything though.
When I got a weekend job and husband had to look after baby alone for two whole days he soon realised. Anyway you can give him the opportunity to realise also?

Do you want to continue your relationship? It sounds like any love has gone. Can you talk to your parents about what respite they can offer. And yes it sounds like in these circumstances nursery or a childminder using the free childcare hours would be an excellent idea. Small children are wearing and you need to prioritise getting a break for yourself. The more days in a row I did the harder I found it. This is important for your wellbeing and therefore benefits your child too. If you can, take time away from home just like your husband does. Leave the house. If that's impossible then get the break in other ways by finding alternative childcare - ideally do both.

Why don’t you go out, see your friends, have your hair done, your baby has 2 parents, you don’t have to ask to leave the house without him.

Toddlers are hard. You absolutely need more support. In your position I would seriously be considering leaving and getting maintenance from your OH, even if it means no longer being sahm. Nursery would do dc and you both some good.

Toddlers are inherently drawn towards being pains in the arse, but unlike your useless twat of a DP they can't help it.

Are you dependent on your boyfriend for housing? This isn't a relationship, he's a misogynist and a complete failure of a man.
Sort out housing and put in a CMS claim against the deadbeat.

Read: The power of now! (& Relax)

Are you married? Sounds like you need rid of the partner. Are you financially reliant on him ?

I don’t think people realise how hard it is, unless they have done it.

Thats why paternity leave is important - so dads know what it’s like to care for their child alone for weeks on end. It’s no holiday!

I think anyone would go a bit crazy spending 7 days a week caring for a toddler alone.

Why is your DH working 7 days a week?

We have a few toddler groups locally where you can drop your child off for a couple of hours; that might be a good short term solution so you get a break.

Toddlers can be relentless, the real issue is with your partner rather than your child but you know this.

I agree with others he's probably bored, can you afford nursery a few mornings a week? Can your parents come round at nap time or whatever so they're keeping an eye on him but not having to run around after him so you get a break?

I would divorce, at least you would get a break then

I did that when mine were small after my (now) ex stated that every day was a holiday for me. I was away for 2 nights & got home to absolute chaos. He never said or implied anything similar ever again. It really is the only way to deal with men like that until you eventually divorce them.

Having young kids is really really hard so give yourself a break. It’s hard as your OH works 7 days a week and it sound like you are at home so doesn’t sound like either of you get any down time.

Why is he going on holiday and you aren’t? If he can see his friends you need to do the same. Please consider how you can stop enabling his behaviour and readdress down time.

Again, what do you actually DO with him?
Having toys doesn’t equal playing with him.
Going out could just be to the shops, rather than doing things that interest and stimulate him.

Stop focusing on DH for a minute - plenty of mums have no DP involvement with their kids, but don’t end up regretting having them.
What are you doing to make life interesting and fun for your child?

I bet your life would be easier if you booted him out, get your child maintenance and he has to have your DC a few days a week giving you a break.
You aren't a bad person OP you are exhausted and tied to a useless husband.

sorry, it is utterly relentless and hard work in these early years.

for the toddler, you need to join up with other mums of toddlers - go to any local baby groups or stay-and-play or the local park. anything that is out of the house and gives your toddler a chance to get tired out.

for your DH, you need to tell him that you are massively struggling and you need a break. tell him you will be going out next weekend from 11am - 5pm and he will be in charge of the toddler. then go out and get your hair cut and have a nice lunch and chill. DH and toddler may have a tough afternoon but they will survive and they will both learn something.