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Vaccination against cervical cancer/HPV

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nooshoo · 19/05/2025 09:32

This vaccination protects against a sexually transmitted virus which can lead to cancer and other problems. Does anyone know why is it recommended as standard for children from 11 years, is it because there is perceived realistic risk of sexual contact occuring from this age?

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Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 12:10

50Pennies · 19/05/2025 12:09

Tres provocative. Just in case you really think like this, you are selfish beyond belief. Hope it's a troll.

I’m not a troll and my gp was the one who mentioned herd immunity to us to reassure us

KidsDr · 19/05/2025 12:09

No, it's not that it's understood that a majority of 12 year olds are sexually active. Just that a significant minority are or soon will be. If you waited to give the vaccine until a tipping point where a majority where sexually active then it would be ineffective for up to 50% of the children being given it. If you give the vaccine at an age where maybe 1% are sexually active, then it has a chance to be effective for 99%. So you don't wait until a majority are sexually active...

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 12:09

Bunny44 · 19/05/2025 12:07

The smear test checks for HPV these days which is what causes cervical cancer. If all young people are vaccinated against HPV they wouldn't need to do them.

Most of us over 35 will not have been vaccinated therefore still need to test.

You seem to not like the program but it saves lives.

Approx 8% of cervical cancers are non hpv related and they now unfortunately go undetected till it’s harder to treat as smears only check for hpv they don’t look at the cells unless you’re hpv positive

50Pennies · 19/05/2025 12:09

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:49

What do you mean ? I doubt I would be aware or they would be aware if they did have it ? I only know I’m negative from smear tests and unless it caused an issue they don’t routinely test for it ? All their peers have the vaccine so I assume they are very protected by herd immunity ?

Tres provocative. Just in case you really think like this, you are selfish beyond belief. Hope it's a troll.

Bunny44 · 19/05/2025 12:07

nooshoo · 19/05/2025 10:15

There is no reduced need for smear tests. Women need to continue having smear tests. I am just pointing this out because I don't want people to not have smear tests because of misinformation. Have smear tests!

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The smear test checks for HPV these days which is what causes cervical cancer. If all young people are vaccinated against HPV they wouldn't need to do them.

Most of us over 35 will not have been vaccinated therefore still need to test.

You seem to not like the program but it saves lives.

50Pennies · 19/05/2025 12:04

Another76543 · 19/05/2025 12:01

@nooshoo in the UK, children aren’t given in at 11. They are offered it in year 8, when they are 12 or 13.

^this Maybe Op thought 13 doesn't sounds a salacious as 11?

But something tells me perhaps op didn't post entirely in good faith😇

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 12:04

FedupofArsenalgame · 19/05/2025 11:56

Brother has passed his 5 years clear thankfully, I'm at year 3 but fingers crossed. Thx

Thank goodness - I am sorry you are being confronted in this post by what must be very distressing/triggering posts involving people deciding not to protect their children. Not only did you have to endure the terrible treatments you needed to use, but you have that constant "what if" worry...and the check ups and being on high alert for symptoms etc. I hope other people listen when you tell them about your experience and take steps to protect their kids.

MrsEverest · 19/05/2025 12:01

nooshoo · 19/05/2025 09:52

Is it perceived that most children are sexually active from 11? Genuine question!

I find it difficult to believe this is a genuine question.

Surely a few moments thought would lead one to reason that the age needs to be set low enough to catch children before sexual activity begins. This will naturally be at least a couple of years before a reasonable number of young people become sexually active. At no point is anyone suggesting that most children are having sex at 11.

Where I live it is offered at 12 or 13. Again, this does not mean anyone thinks it is ok to have sex at that age, or that anyone thinks the majority of children are doing so.

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 12:01

My first response was simply in reply to someone asking if the schools check with children whose parents didn’t consent to see if they wanted to consent for themselves so I didn’t need to add more information about my personal situation at that point I only
added that when asked more about it

Another76543 · 19/05/2025 12:01

@nooshoo in the UK, children aren’t given in at 11. They are offered it in year 8, when they are 12 or 13.

Lemonade2011 · 19/05/2025 12:01

My son was 13 when he had his, the schedule starts at s1 in Scotland so when the kids move to secondary school so most children here will be 12. My son didn’t get it in the first round as he didn’t know what it was and freaked out a bit.

ironic given I’m a vaccinator - younger kids not his age group. But we sat down and had a good chat about it, what it’s for/why it’s given etc and he decided he would have it. He then got it in the next round of vaccines and just recently got the second one. You don’t always need to have it at 11/12 but not sure what difference it makes as long as they are protected if that’s their/your choice.

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:59

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:58

But you understand that if everyone thought the way that you do that no one would get vaccinated, right? You did not disclose this history when you said your child didn't get the vaccine. You also did not state whether you child has other illnesses that made a reaction to the vaccine more likely etc etc. The chances of having that kind of reaction are very very small. Far smaller than the risks of getting and suffering through the many cancers that the HPV vaccine can prevent. It's also going to be very important to explain to your child that they are not vaccinated and, given they have long term illnesses, they are even more vulnerable to contracting the types of illnesses that the HPV vaccine is intended to prevent. They will also need to know that they could contract the virus without knowing, and pass it on without knowing - so they will need to practice safe sex - and, sadly, even avoid intimate contact like kissing etc unless they and their chosen partners take regular tests to see whether they have HPV or not.

Of course I will make them fully aware that they aren’t vaccinated and to be as safe as they can be .

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:58

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:52

My child is severely disabled since having the vaccine on high rate for both components and needs a lot of care. Was fine before and developed severe Pots and ME immediately after. I don’t care about ‘what’s ifs’ and other scenarios about possible hpv related issues I care about making sure it doesn’t happen to my other children . My gp actually said to us that herd immunity is for families like us

But you understand that if everyone thought the way that you do that no one would get vaccinated, right? You did not disclose this history when you said your child didn't get the vaccine. You also did not state whether you child has other illnesses that made a reaction to the vaccine more likely etc etc. The chances of having that kind of reaction are very very small. Far smaller than the risks of getting and suffering through the many cancers that the HPV vaccine can prevent. It's also going to be very important to explain to your child that they are not vaccinated and, given they have long term illnesses, they are even more vulnerable to contracting the types of illnesses that the HPV vaccine is intended to prevent. They will also need to know that they could contract the virus without knowing, and pass it on without knowing - so they will need to practice safe sex - and, sadly, even avoid intimate contact like kissing etc unless they and their chosen partners take regular tests to see whether they have HPV or not.

50Pennies · 19/05/2025 11:56

HauntedBungalow · 19/05/2025 09:56

Literally no one has said this. Apart from you, just there.

It's done at 11 because it needs to be done before becoming sexually active, and mostly children are not sexually active at 11.

Edited

Hello @nooshoo, is English your first language? It seems you don't understand the meaning of before?

before
Preposition, adverb, or conjunction (it depends on how it's used in a sentence)

Before means earlier than or in front of.

“I brush my teeth before breakfast.”
→ I brush my teeth earlier than when I eat breakfast.

“B comes before C in the alphabet.”
→ B comes earlier in the order.

"She arrived before lunch."
→ Earlier than lunch.

"Doctors recommend getting the HPV vaccine before becoming sexually active to ensure maximum protection against the virus."
→ You get the vaccine earlier than when you might be exposed to the virus (for example, by having intimate or sexual contact).

HTH 👋

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 19/05/2025 11:56

@nooshoo - the problem with your argument is you’ve taken that it can be given from aged 11 to mean it is. It can be - particularly if that fits in with when children are having other jabs, but in the UK it’s routinely given in year 8 or 9 (year 8 is 12-13 and year 9 13-14). It is still given at an age it’s most likely children won’t be sexually active yet, but by 14 years you are often not far off for many.

The age of 11 is when it’s safe and appropriate to give. I don’t know why it’s not just rolled into the younger jab schedule and get it out of the way, presume it works better in older children.

FedupofArsenalgame · 19/05/2025 11:56

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:41

Oh gosh I am so very sorry you both have suffered those awful cancers! How terrible! I am so glad that my niece/nephews are young enough to be able to benefit from this vaccine - it's amazing that they can now be protected against such a long list of awful awful cancer - and not only that but their future partners/spouses can be too - so they won't have to go through the hell not only of suffering those cancers themselves but of having to look after a loved one who is suffering with them. I hope you are free and clear of cancer and are living your best life - sending you hugs.

Brother has passed his 5 years clear thankfully, I'm at year 3 but fingers crossed. Thx

INeedAnotherName · 19/05/2025 11:56

nooshoo · 19/05/2025 10:31

Okay so I have to love you and leave you now. The posters making various bonkers claims have not been able to link any sources and are unlikely to so I will hide the thread.

Thanks to the tiny minority who posted helpful things.

Good luck to you all!

The posters making various bonkers claims

What claims by posters were bonkers? None.
I noticed most of your posts were bonkers though 👀

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:55

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:54

So you are relying on other people being responsible to make up for the fact that you aren't??? Wow.
Read the list of cancers again: it's not just cervical. the vaccine prevents against many many types of cancer. And just because you have had negative smear tests does not for one minute mean that they won't snog/have sex with someone who failed to get the vaccine. Your history of sexual contact has absolutely nothing to do with what your child may get up to (or may be forced to endure - god forbid). Plus, not all countries have the HPV vaccine - so if your child goes off on holiday abroad and has intimate contact with a hottie on a beach (as many young people like to do), or meets an exchange student in the UK at university (as may young people do) they won't be protected by herd immunity at all. Yikes. Sounds like you haven't put much thought at all into the repercussions of failing to protect your child from this awful virus.

It’s a choice not a legal requirement and we have the backing of our gp

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:54

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:49

What do you mean ? I doubt I would be aware or they would be aware if they did have it ? I only know I’m negative from smear tests and unless it caused an issue they don’t routinely test for it ? All their peers have the vaccine so I assume they are very protected by herd immunity ?

So you are relying on other people being responsible to make up for the fact that you aren't??? Wow.
Read the list of cancers again: it's not just cervical. the vaccine prevents against many many types of cancer. And just because you have had negative smear tests does not for one minute mean that they won't snog/have sex with someone who failed to get the vaccine. Your history of sexual contact has absolutely nothing to do with what your child may get up to (or may be forced to endure - god forbid). Plus, not all countries have the HPV vaccine - so if your child goes off on holiday abroad and has intimate contact with a hottie on a beach (as many young people like to do), or meets an exchange student in the UK at university (as may young people do) they won't be protected by herd immunity at all. Yikes. Sounds like you haven't put much thought at all into the repercussions of failing to protect your child from this awful virus.

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:52

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:50

"very unwell"? Have you seen what happens when someone gets anal or cervical cancer??? Clearly your child was fine. And clearly the doctors gave you some information on WHY the vaccine may have caused a reaction: there are different manufacturers, and also things one can do if, for example, the child is allergic to the liquid the vaccine is in. Either way it's far better to feel grotty for a few days than to end up having to have your anus removed and have to poop out of a hole in your side for the rest of your (sadly quite likely severely shortened) life. Or to get cervical cancer and lose your ability to have kids/suffer from rounds of radiation/chemo and whatever other awful interventions are required. It's a shame you decided that it was better to expose your child to a list of awful cancers than to figure out a way for them to get the vaccine and perhaps feel a bit gross, but also get treatment for feeling gross - Doctors are only too happy to figure out alternatives and ways of managing reactions to vaccines.

My child is severely disabled since having the vaccine on high rate for both components and needs a lot of care. Was fine before and developed severe Pots and ME immediately after. I don’t care about ‘what’s ifs’ and other scenarios about possible hpv related issues I care about making sure it doesn’t happen to my other children . My gp actually said to us that herd immunity is for families like us

MatildaMovesMountains · 19/05/2025 11:51

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:49

What do you mean ? I doubt I would be aware or they would be aware if they did have it ? I only know I’m negative from smear tests and unless it caused an issue they don’t routinely test for it ? All their peers have the vaccine so I assume they are very protected by herd immunity ?

What if lots of other parents make the same irresponsible choice you've made? Why are you assuming you can freeload on people doing the right thing?

Caligirl80 · 19/05/2025 11:50

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:45

My eldest got very unwell immediately after the vaccine so we decided not to have it for the other dc. They are fully vaccinated for everything else except Covid and it’s just the hpv one too that we didn’t do

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"very unwell"? Have you seen what happens when someone gets anal or cervical cancer??? Clearly your child was fine. And clearly the doctors gave you some information on WHY the vaccine may have caused a reaction: there are different manufacturers, and also things one can do if, for example, the child is allergic to the liquid the vaccine is in. Either way it's far better to feel grotty for a few days than to end up having to have your anus removed and have to poop out of a hole in your side for the rest of your (sadly quite likely severely shortened) life. Or to get cervical cancer and lose your ability to have kids/suffer from rounds of radiation/chemo and whatever other awful interventions are required. It's a shame you decided that it was better to expose your child to a list of awful cancers than to figure out a way for them to get the vaccine and perhaps feel a bit gross, but also get treatment for feeling gross - Doctors are only too happy to figure out alternatives and ways of managing reactions to vaccines.

Notanideafornow · 19/05/2025 11:49

MatildaMovesMountains · 19/05/2025 11:46

So when they contract HPV you will ... what? What will you do?

What do you mean ? I doubt I would be aware or they would be aware if they did have it ? I only know I’m negative from smear tests and unless it caused an issue they don’t routinely test for it ? All their peers have the vaccine so I assume they are very protected by herd immunity ?