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Is it healthier to be 2 stone overweight or drink half a bottle of wine a day?

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SodYouIllGoOnMyOwn · 19/05/2025 09:01

Just seeking some views here and it’s a bit controversial so I opted for AIBU. Obviously neither is ideal but from a health perspective, what do you think?

Not unreasonable: Half a bottle of wine is worse.
Unreasonable: 2 stone overweight is worse.

Really interested to hear some views.

Thanks.

OP posts:
Tripadvisor101 · 19/05/2025 11:30

I guess it depends on why someone is overweight. If they breakfast on chicken nuggets, lunch on pie and chips and have sweets and chocolate for tea they'd be unhealthier than the wine person. However if they are overweight as their portion control of reasonably healthy meals is too large then they're probably be healthier than wine person.

Catwoman8 · 19/05/2025 11:29

Being 2 overweight based on what exactly, what BMI dictates? BMI is not always a reliable tool, a physically fit person who works out and lifts weights everyday, eats nutritious clean food and rarely drinks alcohol can easily be 'overweight' on a BMI scale . Clearly in those circumstances, that's far healthier than someone who drinks half a bottle of wine per day.

WitchHag · 19/05/2025 11:29

Give me the extra weight all day, every day.

Half a bottle of wine every single day makes you an alcoholic, it makes your liver process what is essentially poison every single day, constantly.

it probably makes you a bit drunk and therefore very boring, people don’t tend to get drunk and boring when eating cake.

Both obesity and drinking are massive problems, and both often go hand in hand with each other and diabetes, alcohol is chock full of sugar after all.

But at least one of them doesn’t tend to make people act like idiots, or do the wrong thing they wanted to do but under the excuse ‘I’ve had a drink’

jklpouaglds · 19/05/2025 11:28

Ellephanting · 19/05/2025 09:37

There is evidence that red wine is actually good for your health, in moderation.

Many post menopausal women are easily two stone overweight. Evidence shows that after the menopause, carrying extra weight protects against osteoporosis.

I thought that had been completely debunked and alcohol brings no health benefits.

Calliopespa · 19/05/2025 11:26

Tenducks · 19/05/2025 09:09

Not an obvious answer. I’m going to say the overweight is less harmful though. 2st for most women is in the middle of overweight and not at the level where diabetes and joint problems are inevitable.
The alcohol every day is probably more damaging. But then again there will be plenty of posters who point out that’s standard for many on the continent. Two glasses of wine a day for a slim person who is otherwise healthy is not outrageous.
So the wino is less healthy than the plump one IMO.

I came to say the same.

Overweight category actually has better longevity. But that’s provided op doesn’t mean two stone into obese.

But at a certain stage of life the “ merely” overweight category is no big deal - and arguably had health benefits.

ParmaVioletTea · 19/05/2025 11:23

YABU for puttuing the question this way.

Neither is reasonable or healthy. I hope whoever you're talking about has private health insurance. I really don't see why taxpayers should subsidise someone deliberately eating & drinking themselves to death.

Butchyrestingface · 19/05/2025 11:07

@SodYouIllGoOnMyOwn So are you person A and your partner is person B in a relationship where one of you is 2 stone overweight and the other drinks half a bottle of wine a day? And you're both growsing at each other about who is the least healthy?

paradisecircus · 19/05/2025 11:07

I wouldn't be massively stressed about either of those things tbh, but both could escalate to something properly unhealthy so (although they're not easily comparable) I'd put them on a par.

LosingMyPumpkins · 19/05/2025 11:06

Corgi2023 · 19/05/2025 10:05

Well done! It's a real lifestyle change.
I've had a similar situation but now not entirely tea total - perhaps half a bottle of wine a week.
I'm probably about 2 stone overweight now and I would like to be slimmer, but when I was a size 8 I was unhealthy.
Having children really puts things into perspective.

First of all: well done!!

this is a question of nuance, I agree.

Is being a little to moderately overweight likely to adversely affect your health? Probably not (unless there are other factors). especially not medium to short term. And especially not if you’re leading an overall healthy and active life.

And the same goes for a (small) glass of wine a day…

but half a bottle is a different story. And the same goes for being morbidly obese.…

(I would however say - based on what I have observed - that alcoholism will wreck your life much sooner and faster than obesity will. So if this OP was a question of an obese person with an alcohol problem I personally would probably suggest to initially prioritise combatting ones dependency on alcohol. And a lack of alcohol related calories will most likely help with weight related issues as well…)

SoSoLong · 19/05/2025 11:06

I'd say the alcohol is worse, due to its addictive properties. 2 stone overweight is not great, but depending on your height it may not be massive. It's easier to lose weight than to stop drinking once you're addicted.

Canshehavewaferthinham · 19/05/2025 11:03

WhySoManySocks · 19/05/2025 09:04

If you drink half a bottle of wine every day you’ll soon be 2 stone overweight.

This is a bit of a silly statement. Half a bottle of wine is about two large glasses so roughly 500 calories. As long as those 500 calories are not taking you over your daily quota that you need to function you won't be overweight.

SailingYachty · 19/05/2025 11:02

The alcohol. As it’s ingesting a toxin into the body daily, it’s a group 1 carcinogen. I’ve stopped drinking entirely now I’m recovered from cancer.

Snickersnack1 · 19/05/2025 11:01

If you’re looking for personal advice, I’d suggest to quit the drinking first.
Then look at the diet.
Just don’t go taking up smoking!!
Use exercise as your ‘replacement’ drug. Find something you like. I’m absolutely astonished to discover that I enjoy swimming. Even though I hated it in school.

tartancarpetslippers · 19/05/2025 10:54

If you have a bad diet, chances are you have Non-Alcoholic Fatty Liver Disease. Why drink 2-3 glasses of wine every night to compound the problem?

BobbyBiscuits · 19/05/2025 10:54

The alcohol is probably worse. Drinking that much nightly would be classed by a doctor as too much. If you were like six stone overweight then I reckon that would be worse, but two stone doesn't put that much pressure on your body I don't think? I'm not sure though?
I'm a underweight person who drinks and I'm definitely not very healthy.

Snickersnack1 · 19/05/2025 10:52

You’re not strictly comparing like with like.
Drinking wine is a behaviour that may or may not (but likely will) lead to adverse outcome.

Being overweight is an adverse outcome that may or may not (but likely has) resulted from a bad diet.

You could have a genetically ‘overweight’ person with a perfect diet who exercises daily and is in top shape.

You could also have a large framed 6ft 5 man who drinks a glass of wine with lunch and another with his dinner without his liver even noticing.

So you should compare alcohol vs diet
or
liver damage vs being overweight.

TravellingLightToday · 19/05/2025 10:52

It can't be a clearcut answer. There are a lot of confounders there.

You could be normal weight with liver disease as a result of drinking 1/2 bottle of wine daily. That clearly would not be okay for your health. You could be normal weight with normal liver function today but continuing to consume alcohol regularly may (almost certainly will) damage your liver in time. A healthy diet otherwise would not be able to counterweight the prolonged effects of alcohol.

Addiction is another issue. The longer you drink, the harder it becomes to come off - as unlikely as 1/2 bottle of wine daily appears to cause addiction, it really does.

Two stone on top of your optimum is quite a bit of extra weight to carry around but some people are in good health with that. Some are not. The quality of the diet also plays a part. You could be overweight but on a healthy maintenance diet i.e. not losing weight, but not putting on extra either. If you are two stone overweight but continue to pile on, that will cause issues in time. Food addiction is also an issue.

Someone2025 · 19/05/2025 10:51

Kuretake · 19/05/2025 09:19

2 stone overweight won't necessarily be a problem at all health wise. I believe slightly overweight people actually live longer than those in the BMI "healthy" range. Depends how tall the person is.

2 stone overweight is not slightly overweight though

LemonTT · 19/05/2025 10:51

Imcomingovertoyourplace · 19/05/2025 09:25

Plenty of European countries drink alcohol daily but in moderation. There’s so many unhealthy things, stress, sugar, lack of sleep!

Do “they” drink daily? And who is they? Only about 10% of French people drink every day. And that might just be one small glass. Although I would hazard a guess the 10% are problem drinkers.

Culturally French people did drink wine with meals a lot but they don’t any more. Because it is not good for you. And as it turns out they could make a better choice.

Problem drinking is seeing it as a difficult choice. If you are setting rules for drinking you have a problem.

Peakcentral · 19/05/2025 10:50

SodYouIllGoOnMyOwn · 19/05/2025 09:08

@TheCurious0rangethat’s interesting. So I wonder if a teetotal person who lives on sausages and bacon would fare better health wise than a person who eats a healthy diet but who drinks?

I would like to know this because I am the person who is teetotal but eats bacon and sausage every day 😂

Justchillinhere · 19/05/2025 10:50

Two stone overweight isn't that bad, drinking wine every night is a problem, comparing oneself to another for justification is a tad ridiculous

tartancarpetslippers · 19/05/2025 10:49

SodYouIllGoOnMyOwn · 19/05/2025 09:15

@Theshallows1167yes that’s true. But generally I am inclined to think that a bad diet is worse than 2-3 glasses of wine a night in an otherwise healthy diet, but thought I would ask what others think.

You can be two stone overweight while eating healthy food. But alcohol is a known carcinogen implicated in over a dozen cancers. And 2-3 glasses of win a night is over the recommended limit, anyway.

endlesscraziness · 19/05/2025 10:48

Look up the obesity paradox. I think 2st heavier is a better option than drinking 1/2 bottle of wine a day. Though when I was doing that because of chronic pain it caused me to love overweight. Combatting the drinking helped with weight loss so it’s a weird comparison

Namechange89427 · 19/05/2025 10:47

Both are very bad and this is not comparing apples to apples. Alcohol however has been declared a group one carcinogen along with asbestos, tobacco, cadmium etc. your risk also depends on other lifestyle factors and genetic disposition.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/05/2025 10:45

MamaLenny · 19/05/2025 10:43

Silly question really but I think the alcohol is worse. I'm not sure just 2 stone overweight is such a huge strain on the body.

2 stone overweight eating a balanced diet is very different from 2 stone overweight eating bacon butties and sausage rolls.
Eating bacon and shit every day is worse.
My Dsis is 2 stone overweight, she can overeat but her diet is extremely healthy.