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Posting picture on facebook without my consent

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Thickasabrick89 · 18/05/2025 21:20

Maybe I'm blowing this out of proportion i don't know.

I requested at the start of a weekend city break not to post any pictures of me on Facebook.

I mentioned it a few times throughout the trip to my brother not to. I don't give consent.

Tonight i noticed that he had put up a 'facebook' story and i am in a group picture.

I managed to get him to remove it immediately (although had been up for 5 hours).

My mum had explained he asked her first and she said do it as it is a nice family picture and will be up for only 24 hours as a result he put it up.

I'm feeling upset that my wishes were ignored. For reference we are in our 30s not 12 years old.

Whilst i shouldn't really have a reason as to why i don't want my pictures on fb etc. The main reason is for work as my job is sensitive. My profile is locked down, privatised and not used but I can't guarantee the same for close family and friends..

There is more. Such as my mum gaslighting me and saying I'm showing signs of a personality disorder and that i must be ashamed of my family for not wanting my picture up but not sure if relevant. I did offer to get it printed and framed as an alternative so she can see it every day which i felt was a fair compromise but no.

Reading it back it sounds like a stupid minor thing but has totally wound me up.

OP posts:
Tourmalines · 19/05/2025 04:26

Tbrh · 19/05/2025 02:30

Did they tag you? You can change your settings so you have to approve it before it can be posted (I think). Personally I'd deactivate my account saves this kind of bother entirely

Don’t work that way in a story . And it disappears after 24 hours .

Tbrh · 19/05/2025 02:30

Did they tag you? You can change your settings so you have to approve it before it can be posted (I think). Personally I'd deactivate my account saves this kind of bother entirely

Psychoticbreak · 19/05/2025 01:23

While I dont specifically understand your situation entirely you did tell them NOT to post anything and they posted your picture without the consent to do so so you are correct to be angry that your boundary has been crossed 100%.