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To think schools should have a class to teach basic life skills

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beesandstrawberries · 18/05/2025 21:02

We all learned so much in school that we haven’t used in day to day life - I mean when have we ever touched a Bunsen burner since school? But none of us was learned the basics of life and how to navigate it - things like:

  • Showing how to do basic meals, cooking pasta safety, use of kitchen appliances correctly
  • paying bills
  • what a mortgage is, how to deal with contracts and paperwork
  • how to meter readings
  • change a lightbulb, basic tool use in the home
  • how to check fire alarms
  • credit card education
  • managing money, spreadsheets to manage them
  • insurances like life insurance and what ones you need
  • education on abusive relationship signs
  • things like peer pressure
  • how to write formal letters/emails

I think we learn so many things that mean nothing when we leave school. If you teach kids basic life skills from a young age, it would make kids a lot more well rounded and less anxious in the ‘real world’ when it comes to managing money and not getting in debt. Even learning things like the warning signs of abusive relationships to young and impressionable teens as I think if I heard the signs then, I would have know what to look out for to prevent myself from getting in one as an adult.

I remember being in the real world and not knowing how to have good money management and I’m 28 and have no idea how to change a lightbulb. Even education for kids to learn about their bodies, that their outie bellybutton is normal and so are their stretch marks - so they don’t go into adulthood thinking their bodies are imperfect.

Children deserve more than Shakespeare or how to play football in pe. They deserve a kick start to life

OP posts:
WayneEyre · 20/05/2025 08:25

Tagyoureit · 20/05/2025 07:48

Whilst most of these things are down to parents to teach, in hindsight, I would have found a lesson or 2 in money management skills and mortgage stuff etc far more helpful than learning algebra which I've no need for.

But I fully understand that it is not down to schools and teachers to teach us all that we need to know.

But plenty of people do use mathematics in their lives. Engineers. Financial modellers, quantitive analysts. Doctors have to understand the principles, fluid dynamics etc. children need to be exposed to these principles to stand a chance of getting into these roles. Especially those who aren't spoonfed by parents. I wasnt spoonfed into medicine. They do not need to have them bumped in favour of life admin just because you don't use algebra. This argument is so facile and damaging. If accepted in schools, it would cause huge class divides.

taxguru · 20/05/2025 08:15

EBearhug · 20/05/2025 08:02

The Poly converted to a Uni and does nothing like that anymore - all about degrees now (Thanks Blair!).

Polys turned to unis in 1991. That was Thatcher, not Blair.

The Poly I'm taking about did indeed convert to a Uni around that time, but carried on doing "adult" education course for some time, where we worked, we continued sending our trainees for accountancy professional level courses throughout the 90s, even though they weren't degree courses. It was where I went for my own accountancy courses in the 80s - externally examined. They stopped all that in the early 00s when they shut everything else down and started ONLY offering degrees. I remember it well because we had a few trainee accountants at work part way through their studies and had to find alternative courses for them which proved incredibly difficult as the next nearest place (which was a college) that previously did accountancy courses had also stopped doing them and was only offering 16-18 year old courses. Personally, I taught AAT accounting at our local college (that was as high as they went) to classes of a mix of adults and school leavers, which was also cancelled when the college stopped offering anything other than 16-18 year old courses - that was 2002!. It was a very gradual erosion of "adult" education over the 90s and 00s as I said.

EBearhug · 20/05/2025 08:02

The Poly converted to a Uni and does nothing like that anymore - all about degrees now (Thanks Blair!).

Polys turned to unis in 1991. That was Thatcher, not Blair.

Renabrook · 20/05/2025 07:53

Superhansrantowindsor · 20/05/2025 07:38

Schools already cover lots of things mentioned There are only so many hours in a day. I do think it’s rather silly to knock using Bunsen burners etc when we need scientists in the world. Just because most of us never touch one again in our life doesn’t mean they are of no use. I’ve never needed to throw a javelin or workout the circumference of a circle but it’s still important that everyone gets an opportunity to learn.

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And there are lots of parents who think teachers are responsibile for party invitations and even arranging play date ones, it's weird

caringcarer · 20/05/2025 07:51

They already do formal letters on English language. They learn to cook basic dishes if they chose to do Food Technology and abusive relationships and peer pressure in PHSE. Other stuff parents should teach. I taught my kids about mortgage payments and led them through buying their first homes, life insurances and pensions.

Tagyoureit · 20/05/2025 07:48

Whilst most of these things are down to parents to teach, in hindsight, I would have found a lesson or 2 in money management skills and mortgage stuff etc far more helpful than learning algebra which I've no need for.

But I fully understand that it is not down to schools and teachers to teach us all that we need to know.

taxguru · 20/05/2025 07:42

@RamblingEclectic

I also think we need to encourage on-going, adult education rather than treating primary and secondary schools as the only places people can learn. My local college and adult learning programmes used to run DIY courses and courses on these types of finances, but then austerity meant funding for these types of courses disappeared and they've sadly gone to the wayside.

Fully agree. The 90s and 00s were a terrible time for the dismantling of our World leading adult education system. As you rightly say, there used to be loads of options for adults wanting to learn, whether formal qualifications such as GCSE and A levels, or professional qualifications, such as AAT accounting, or DIY, flower arranging, languages, car maintenance, ski-ing, etc etc., via evening classes. They were done in several places in our small city and nearby towns, at the polytechnic, a few local colleges, even village halls. We used to get a pamphlet through the door which was a directory of all the courses, the locations, durations, costs, etc.

All gone.

All our colleges shut down except one which turned itself into a 16-18 only and does no adult education at all. The Poly converted to a Uni and does nothing like that anymore - all about degrees now (Thanks Blair!). We still have one of the colleges standing empty, as it's never been used since.

But that wasn't "Austerity" - it had all gone before then, like I say, the 90s and 00s when public funding was removed from adult education and channeled into universities instead.

Superhansrantowindsor · 20/05/2025 07:38

Schools already cover lots of things mentioned There are only so many hours in a day. I do think it’s rather silly to knock using Bunsen burners etc when we need scientists in the world. Just because most of us never touch one again in our life doesn’t mean they are of no use. I’ve never needed to throw a javelin or workout the circumference of a circle but it’s still important that everyone gets an opportunity to learn.

taxguru · 20/05/2025 07:36

Tbrh · 20/05/2025 03:23

Well the people who are good parents might not want the curriculum crammed with unessential items that decent parents should and are doing anyway. I'd be pissed off about this. I want my child to thrive so they can get a good job in the future. I don't want the education system dummed down to the lowest common denominator (which is already starting to happen by the way). Learning isn't always about the content, you are learning how to learn. English versus chemistry are using different parts of your brain, and teaching you different ways to think. Not to mention many if the examples you give are obsolete due to technology, Google, YouTube and the like

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Yes, I agree, IN THEORY with all that. But your child who thrives and gets a good job and lives a fulfilling life through interests etc is paying for the huge numbers of other kids let down by their parents, let down by the education system, who lives a life of unemployment and/or crime, subsidised by taxpayers. That's the point I'm trying to make, that it's a societal problem that so many children aren't leaving school competent to live an adult life. Blaming people is pointless, we should be trying to reduce it happening and dealing with it when it happens.

taxguru · 20/05/2025 07:33

Walkden · 20/05/2025 05:52

It wouldn't suprise me to see someone get caught out by interest only mortgages needing a capital repayment and then turning around and blaming teachers for not covering in school.....

We've had decades of endowment holders claiming compo for claiming they weren't told the risks of endowments! (When most definitely were).

Also lots of "Waspi" women claiming they weren't told about the pension age being raised (when most definitely were).

The big question is whether such people are just completely unaware and lacking in any kind of intelligence to check things out for themselves or keep themselves up to date, or whether they're deliberately trying it on with sad compo faces.

taxguru · 20/05/2025 07:30

GoldLash · 20/05/2025 03:31

We all figure these things out as and when we need to

Trouble is that more and more people won't/can't and that cause societal problems such as long term unemployment, crime, etc that everyone else is paying for.

Walkden · 20/05/2025 05:52

It wouldn't suprise me to see someone get caught out by interest only mortgages needing a capital repayment and then turning around and blaming teachers for not covering in school.....

Renabrook · 20/05/2025 04:55

Wouldnt it be simpler for the the teachers to annouce next year we will be running a class called 'things we need to teach as parents are too lazy too' parents would be down the school so fast crying how dare they dont they know how hard done by lazy parents are and how the schools need to do everything

Tbrh · 20/05/2025 04:53

ThatLimeCat · 20/05/2025 04:00

There are all parental responsibilities. We did have some basic life skills taught when I was at school 10 years ago, e.g., how to write a job application, cooking classes, basics of mechanics. But it was mostly extra curricular stuff that teachers agreed to do in their free time.

Funnily enough, as I read this I remember there was a class in the last year school for the kids that weren't doing all of the exam subjects (or maybe it was an option you could select) which was a life skills type class where they learnt how to write CVs etc. It probably was to prepare them for the real world and for getting a job, unlike the other children who were going on to do more education. I'm probably old, but woodwork, metalwork, cooking, sewing and languages were all classes you took in the first couple of years of school age 13/14/15, which as far as I can tell have now been dropped for more digital technology subjects. So schools definitely are not just doing Shakespeare and keeping up with the times. My little nephew is learnring coding and he's only 13.

AgingLikeGazpacho · 20/05/2025 04:46

At my school a lot of these were covered either directly or indirectly via PSHE, maths, IT and English. A lot of kids simply don't concentrate even if you tell them why they're being taught x/y/z.

Compound interest (for e.g.) is part of the GCSE maths curriculum and during lessons we were told that's how credit cards/debt accrues. I didn't do IT at GCSE but we all were taught basic excel functions. Some kids would moan that they don't like algebra or that what we were building in Excel was a waste of time - be honest OP, were you that type of student?

I do think cooking and nutrition would be a good add since these are skills that aren't necessarily passed down well in families and some families have generations worth of terrible eating habits.

At some point in our adult lives we have to take responsibility for our own deficiencies though - we can't just blame schools or our parents when we have the Internet at our fingertips

ThatLimeCat · 20/05/2025 04:00

There are all parental responsibilities. We did have some basic life skills taught when I was at school 10 years ago, e.g., how to write a job application, cooking classes, basics of mechanics. But it was mostly extra curricular stuff that teachers agreed to do in their free time.

GoldLash · 20/05/2025 03:31

We all figure these things out as and when we need to

Tbrh · 20/05/2025 03:23

taxguru · 19/05/2025 19:40

@Youstolemygoddamnhouse

What do you think needs to happen to the parents that aren’t teaching their kids basic life skills?

What can you do to them? There are no laws which say parents have to teach kids how to manage normal "life skills". We'd clog up the courts if such a law was brought in, and then presumably the punishment/sanction would be taking kids away in extreme cases which is something we can't afford as it would be foster care, adoption, etc.

Far cheaper just to find ways of "teaching" them outside of the family and the obvious place is schools, at least for the ones who regularly attend. Either by "tweaking" the national curriculum to include a bit more "life skill" within each subject, or reducing the breadth of curriculum in some subjects to make room for a new subject entirely, or making better use of "dead time", or more after school clubs/societies?

It just all seems a bit disjointed that we put so much effort into, say, rote learning of historical dates and the periodic table, yet don't teach how to, say, change a fuse, wire a plug or how to change a light bulb (i.e. different fixings, different sizes, etc) that could either be taught in Physics as part of electrics or tech lessons.

Well the people who are good parents might not want the curriculum crammed with unessential items that decent parents should and are doing anyway. I'd be pissed off about this. I want my child to thrive so they can get a good job in the future. I don't want the education system dummed down to the lowest common denominator (which is already starting to happen by the way). Learning isn't always about the content, you are learning how to learn. English versus chemistry are using different parts of your brain, and teaching you different ways to think. Not to mention many if the examples you give are obsolete due to technology, Google, YouTube and the like

Bourbanbiscuit · 19/05/2025 21:48

We did, 1970's, was called Practical Living.
Everything from wiring plug, writing cheques, even couple of driving lessons.

BeautifulTulips · 19/05/2025 21:12

Or you could parent … and let schools teach the already overcrowded curriculum

ZemblanityZen · 19/05/2025 20:58

YouTube is your friend of you've any intellectual curiosity at all. Much better to learn it as you need it rather than "study" it in school.

Anyway, it's a complete waste of time for those who already have support at home. Since time and resources are limited, would you suggest an academic stream for supported pupils and a basic skills stream for others?

CantHoldMeDown · 19/05/2025 20:42

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YearlySubscriptionRenewal · 19/05/2025 20:30

On another thread, a poster wants people reported to social services, for suggesting to leave a child home alone for a week. When she says child.. it's a 17 year old boy 😂

Some kids have no hope at home.

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 19/05/2025 20:27

WayneEyre · 19/05/2025 20:17

That's your job as a a manager. Definitely not for teachers to go through the vagaries of employment etiquette beyond what they already do. If you're working with junior staff it's expected that you'll need to train them. When I started as a part timer there was a rule in place that you had to call in sick yourself, unless it was an emergency. That's part of work training. Not school.

Well not my job as I’m not the manager. But my point was parents should be teaching their kids this.When I was in sixth girl was 16-18, we were told to phone in sick ourselves instead of parents, to learn a sense of independence. Like it’s not hard is it. Most my friends had jobs at that age and at 17 were driving. So no this is Not the schools problem. I mean if you’re old enough to get a job you can answer a phone. We live in a world where we constantly mollycoddle children.

Fairyliz · 19/05/2025 20:24

Blimey op were you orphaned as a baby and bought up by wolves in the forest?
Didn't your parents teach you most of these things?