DH called me a vile, nasty piece of work

You have no issue with your husband sitting all weekend in the dark gaming?!?……I would loose all respect for an adult male who did this, pathetic

You find it unbelievable that a child would copy their dad's language and attitude?

I can’t believe how many people are saying that a teen with an injury who has been sitting around festering should have been allowed to stay home if they wanted to - it’s incredibly difficult for adults, let alone teens, to recognise sometimes the need to stretch and get some fresh air and ensure they get blood moving post recovery. I don’t know if there’s more to the story but it sounds to me like a caring mother trying to do right by a teen who stubbornly likes to stay indoors and a man who pretended to agree with her and then flipped it. People love to criticise 😔.

I would never tolerate the way your husband spoke to you, game over for me.

Bizarre that people can't see that a teen sitting in house on crutches should go out , be in a different environment, get fresh air, walk around a bit, rather than sitting on a phone, gaming all week. You and your dh were absolutely right to get him out. I dont know if op talks over people, can see she'd be tempted to given the way her dh frequently talks to her. Sounds like a v stressful atmosphere op.

I hope there isn’t a drip feed that he’s actually 19 😂

If this thread was about a DH and teen DS gaming all weekend the replies would mostly be “get them outside, it’s unhealthy” “the DH is opting out of family life” etc
rather than these replies

your son is learning how to treat women from his dad & it isn’t a good example

If your ds was a young child I would agree he must have heard it from your dh. As he's a teen, however, I wouldn't automatically assume that

That depends if they actually want to surely? There’s nothing stopping you going yourself or with the youngest. There’s your balance, two stay at home doing what they want to do and you two go out and do what you want to do.

I really don't think it's overbearing or whatever to insist a teen gets out of the house for an hour.

Teenagers are children and still need you to parent them and make decisions that are in their best interest.

YANBU - your husband is emotionally abusive and is also encouraging the kids to turn against you which isn’t acceptable.

This is dangerous to his recovery. You weee right to try to get him out.

Yanbu. I would seriously be reconsidering my relationship if my husband spoke to me like this, and if his behaviour was constant enough that my teenage son was parroting back this misogynistic bullshit back at me. No chance. This is so disrespectful

With kindness that’s not answering the question. Did you suggest or insist and overrule everyone else? Was it your way again?

That's what happens. Boys see their dads as role models and they learn how to treat women from them.

Your husband sounds very disrespectful, so your son treats you in a disrespectful manner.

Being married to an asshole who undermines you in front of the kids leading to the kids disrespecting you meaning living with three people who have no respect for you wouldn't trigger you?

So what ? It’s their weekend, just because they are doing something you don’t consider valuable, doesn’t mean it’s not valuable to them.

It always amazes me how many posters insist teens should be allowed to sit in their rooms gaming day and night, and never be made to go outside or do anything they don't want to do. Then everyone wonders why we have a mental health crisis amongst our teens 🤦‍♀️
Has it not occurred to some mumsnetters that we sometimes have to act in our teenagers best interests because they don't always make the right choices?

OP you were absolutely correct in insisting he got out of the house. And you need a calm conversation with your dh about not criticising you or calling you names in front of the kids, because it's disrespectful, bad role modelling, and makes kids feel insecure.

This is my take. Many teens given a chance would wallow on the sofa and not go out. @StripeyBalloon I don't think you did anything wrong taking home to park. Fresh air, different perspective etc
Your dh was wrong to call you names. He is an adult with teen kids. He should do better than to learn his stupidity/misogyny from tik tok. It sounds like you two need a come to Jesus's talk

Do you like each other?

I’m not being facetious - but do you actually get on the vast majority of the time, enjoy spending time together, have a laugh, chat about stuff, all that kind of thing? Do you enjoy each other’s company?

So often on here I see posts on here where it’s clear that neither couple actually likes the other really any more but because they are married or have kids or whatever they don’t seem to actually realise that’s what it is

This is only one side of the story. Forcing a child out to watch other children play when he can't does seem mean. Maybe DH and DS say it's always your way because it always is and you don't consider what other people want.
The other example was don't talk over me. That sounds like you frequently talk over people, which is also poor behaviour on your part.