DH called me a vile, nasty piece of work

How does saying she wouldn't automatically assume something equal that she thinks it's unbelievable?

Eh, NO you shouldn't have "just let it slide"...so don't 2nd guess yourself on that point.

Well that’s what she said, she has ADHD.

If someone said they have cancer, do you ask them if it’s been diagnosed?

You need couples counselling by the sounds of it to dig a bit deeper
We’re only getting a snapshot on here

If it was up to a child they'd sit in their rooms all day. Parents have a responsibility to ensure their children get fresh air and exercise.

Next you'll be saying, "Does your child want vegetables?"

Well I agree the word is overused. But this instant (being married to an asshole who undermines you constantly and sets a precedent for your kids to the same) is a much better use of the word than the usual bullshit you see on twitter/Instagram

My husband would only need to speak to me like this once and his bags would be packed and he would be out the door.

he doesn’t like you never mind love you. He doesn’t respect you and he’s passing that on to your children. This would be the end of me and I wouldn’t fuck about with it.

Hello OP's husband.

I spent a good deal of my childhood in plaster casts and on crutches because of congenital disability. Pain or not, it’s not good to sit around the house if you don’t have to, and if the child has crutches there’s no reason they can’t get out and about in the fresh air. I spent lots of time sitting on the sidelines watching other children play and many times they would try to include me as much as possible. It’s not cruel, it’s not unfair, it’s life and it teaches a life lesson that many parents seem frightened to confer on their kids - empathy.

Yeah that’s crap but it isn’t triggering. Too much overuse of this word unless there is an actual reason only the OP can answer.

Your husband hates you and wonky you know if what he is saying about you is true. He shouldn’t be saying it in earshot of the children though.

MN spectacularly missing the point once again.

Of course OP is within her rights to get the 13 year old out of the house for fresh air, change of scenery and to let her other child play. It’s not good for teens to fester indoors and she is still his parent and needs to encourage him to do stuff that’s better for his mental health and recovery. Sitting at home on a phone all day won’t help him.

Also, your DH is an arse and he shouldn’t be speaking to you like that and neither should your child. You were trying to do the best for them and your DH called you a vile nasty piece of work for that?! What an actual prick.

God, your husband sounds like a gaslighting, controlling wanker and your son will end up the same if you don't do something.

It’s absolutely gross of your husband to talk to you like that, especially in front of your children

The mra sadsacks are out in force I see. It's like catnip to the losers. 😂

Incredible you're having to justify this point again and again. Injury or not, it is not healthy to let your teen stuck inside for days and days, even if that's what they want to do. Our job as a parent is to enforce healthy habits and attitudes, even if our kids don't want to. OP isn't pushing her own agenda but doing the right thing for her kids. (Pushing her own agenda would be to force the whole family to go clothes shopping for her in a woman only shop while everyone has to sit there and wait, for example.)
DH was horrible to you (seem like he's been so often in the past) and having your teenage son do the same is a massive wake up call to tell your DH to stop and do better, and to correct your son so he doesn't treat women and girls with such contempt.

Your partner is abusive and your child is learning to be.

Leave the partner and make it clear to your son that you left him because of the way he spoke to you. That women don't stay with abusive men and he shouldn't emulate his father or he'll end up alone too.

Don't miss and hit the wall. You are responsible for how your son grows up. You've seen him changing. Fix it before it's too late.

So your husband is an abusive shit that mischaracterizes you responding to him as “talking over him.” He also verbally abuses you and then screams at you when you try to stand up for yourself or call him out on the lies he tells about you?

Leave him. Forget not liking you, it sounds like he hates you. You shouldn’t live like that, you deserve better.

I can't believe that this is what you pick on in this whole post. I have been on crutches twice and it's absolutely important for your mental and physical wellbeing to not just sit on the sofa all day. She wasn't making him hop a marathon or go climbing, OP just wanted him to get outside, sit on a goddamn bench and have an ice cream or something.

And even if that's true, how does it justify being called a "vile, horrible woman" in front of their kids?!

I would be absolutely horrified if my DH spoke to me like that. Let's not normalise verbal abuse.

It seems like a load of posters are determined to have a go at you for some reason and gloss over what your husband and son said to you. I can’t see what’s remotely unreasonable of you to want your son to go to the park for a bit and even if that was terribly damaging, unfair or whatever, it doesn’t excuse their language. I would also be concerned about the attitudes my son was picking up and there’s no way your husband should be speaking to you like that either in front of the children or when you’re alone. If he disagrees with you on something he needs to speak reasonably with you about it away from the kids. Put that boundary down and insist on it so you can both model healthy, respectful relationships

Actually I don't think you should let it slide

You don't need another misogynist in the family

She wanted her son to go outside and gets called a vile woman and you agree with this? She’s just parenting her child!

no need to be so dramatic 😂

And clearly it's never too early to be shown a leg injury shouldn't be enough to be stuck in a house for months.