DH called me a vile, nasty piece of work

Then focus on what matters- teaching DS not to name call. Teach him what is ok to say and what is not, if everything he says is wrong he won’t learn how to respectfully disagree.

Your DH shouldn’t be doing it either, not much you can do about that other than try and get him to stop or leave him.

Are you the parent of the boy here? No. The OP is and that is her decision. You make your own parenting decisions and if that involves letting your teenage son do whatever he wants then that’s up to you. That said, the OP making her son go out really isn’t the issue- it’s the husband’s treatment of her and the impact that’s having. Interesting you’re not bothered about that but just want to have a go at the OP

If he is watching anti-woman stuff on Tiktok then 100% guaranteed there will be worse showing up and he will eventually get worse towards you also, and therefore so will your son. Your son is mimicking but it's you husband that is the problem.

You were just being a responsible parent trying to get your kid outside and that isn't the, or any, issue.

This reads like prequel to some nacracistic parent thread on here where the op describes how their mother constantly talked over their father, and demanded that the whole house hold follow her ideas and activity for the day no matter what, even when nobody wanted to, and one was on crutches. For no reason other than it's what she decided she wanted to happen. 😂

I completely disagree, if the kid has started copying any negative phrases, that's not ok

Yes, and physios will also tell you that if you try to do too much movement you will re-injure yourself. That is common sense too but you seem to not understand that more isn’t always better.

Ffs. You make it sound like his mother was waterboarding him. The vibrations, think of the vibrations! Look, she took her two kids to the local park on a beautiful sunny Sunday in May. They were there for maybe an hour and everyone got some nice vitamin D and even a fucking slushie - whoopee! On a different thread in an alternate universe, she would be called the bitch from hell for not encouraging healthy family activities. I'll bet £50 quid that no children were harmed or irreparably traumatised during this little outing. Now please get a grip.

Isn't speaking over each other, as in over lapping, just a normal part of human interaction?

It all depends on the movements prescribed for physio. You can do too much or too little movement.

I think the key issue is being overlooked: your husband obviously doesn't like you very much if at all.

I don't think that I would want to stay in a relationship with someone who said what your husband has said to you.

I don't even know you'd deal with your son if this is the way your husband speaks to you.

My advice to OP is to listen to her DS who is nothing like her DH.

I haven’t focussed on the ‘irrelevant point as to whether it was healthy or not to get him outside” I have responded to the earlier posters who focussed on this irrelevant point stating unequivocally that it was essential to his health to go to the park by expressing the counter point that this is not necessarily true given a ligament injury.

Threads don’t always stick to just what the OP asks. Here the OP says it is “triggering” to hear her DS say things similar to her DH, the two examples were “stop talking over me” and “it’s your way again”. Both of these are common expressions and not a worrying way to speak to someone when having a disagreement.

the “vile piece of work” is horrendous, but the DS has never said anything like this, the DH did. Name calling is never ok. And OP should not be conflating her DS to her DH or accusing her DS of acting like her DH.

As mentioned upthread, if the intention had been for him not to move around, they would have supplied a wheelchair, not crutches.

It’s common sense. Any physio will tell you that it’s important to move around - that’s why they’ve given him crutches. If they wanted him to be immobile they would have provided a wheelchair. Doesn’t matter whether he’s the child or not - OP has a duty to protect him, and that includes from the effects of forced immobility, such as blood clots and a myriad of other complications. Why do you think those undergoing joint replacement surgery are out of bed the following day, weight bearing and moving around ?

Just to tack on to the end:

Clearly it isn’t a one-time thing, if both your DH and DS are making remarks about how it has to be your way.

Yes, and?

Does that waive the right to any form of autonomy for the son?

I have a teenage son, and I wouldn’t force him (on crutches!) to accompany us to a park if he wasn’t feeling like it.

You can’t dictate to people how they spend their time, then get ratty when they’re not wanting to play happy families just because you think it’d be “nice”.

I agree with other posters you seem determined to criticise OP when she is reaching out for advice. You’ve focussed on the frankly irrelevant point about whether it was healthy or not to get him outside - you don’t know enough about his injury, she is the parent in this situation, not you l. What she was actually asking about was the relationship side of things and the way she was spoken to.

Presumably the DS is going to school 5days a week on crutches. He doesn’t need to leave the house 7 days a week.

Did he say it as a joke and you didn't like it. Play him at his own game. Call him an old man who don't like to go anywhere or a hermit.

That’s not the gotcha you think it is.
You can’t parent teenagers like you’re a dictator.

I am calling it how I see it. I am in the DS corner. Everyone is forgetting about him. He is not a piece of luggage and at 13 he should have enough autonomy to decide to skip an outing to a park when all he can do is sit there.

I don’t think the OP/DH’s marriage is the real issue, the most important issue is we have a teenager who cannot even express a preference counter to what OP wants without it starting an argument between his parents. This is piss poor parenting on both OP and her DH.

She is the parent 🙄

She said that a teenager may not have got their behaviour from home when it was obvious that the child was emulating the dad.

People with ADHD tend to have impulses like lets go do such and such RIGHT NOW and then they will fixate on it to the point they don’t listen to those who would rather not go or would rather do something else. They then get upset when they’ve chivvied everyone to go right now if there is any mutinous muttering and are hyper-sensitive to criticism. Hence a mere “only doing this because you want to” can kick off an almighty row.