Male staff member in store

Come and shop at my local Asda, you will be greeted by beggars as you enter and leave the store! Sometimes they will even accompany you when you return your trolley and go to your car

We have the same but it’s someone sat outside our local big supermarket asking us to buy the big issue and saying something else but she’s not English so don’t know what she is saying. It’s really really annoying and she asks as you walk in and as you walk out. It pisses most people off.

The greeter wouldn’t really bother me that’s just their job, they probably find it just as annoying.

Rather than blaming someone for literally just doing his job, maybe get some help with your emotional state.
While it’s never nice to feel intimidated by a specific gender it’s only you who is impacted by your past experiences.

In the nicest possible way, you need to chill.

Read the OP's post at 10.57. It's because he's male that she objects.

Jesus, get a grip. Another human being says “hello” and you take to the internet to register your disgust?! Maybe read your original post again and reflect on how fortunate you are that you have the privilege in being so concerned over something so banal. I’m intrigued that you specifically identify the person as “male”…. How is that relevant?

If you don’t want to or are not able to interact with him by saying Hi/Bye then just don’t? I’m sure they won’t care in the slightest. Put ear pods in and just get on with your shop.

but what is weird is that your problem is that it’s a man, and you wouldn’t feel differently if it was a woman. This man isn’t hitting on you, it’s his job and he’s not there by choice.

Now I'm imagining being checked out by a very fit doorwoman and wondering if this might change my preferences. Demi Moore, Lucy Liu, Buffy the Vampire Slayer...

Nope.

It's a meet and greet job.

The OP said (at 10.57) that she would feel totally differently if it was a woman, so it's not to do with being busy, just because it's a man. She seems suspicious of his motives. 🙄

It's his job.

The store has some idea of putting a human face. Post-pandemic and with the rise of AI, not a bad thing.

I doubt it's a well-paid job.

Should the poor guy be leafleting for work and turning up on Ring doorbell footage to be harassed by neighbourhood watch?

More women in security would be great though.

I came on here to say I agree with you it would annoy me but its interesting your post says male member of staff on the door and not just member of staff on the door. Is it because its a man its irritating you? It sounds like its a greeter and their job. Whilst it may be slightly annoying if you frequent daily and it happens daily its their job and perhaps they don't particularly want to stand and say hello and goodbye to every single customer but we all have bills to pay. Could just be a genuinely friendly person who enjoys their job. Either way I wouldn't think too much into it but as its clearly very irritating for you try a different shop if possible?

Wow what a miserable person oyu are OP to find this annoying. Too much in a hurry to say hello? What a busy bee you are.

How awful for you. It must be terribly traumatic or irritating when another human interacts with you. I'm going for a lie down.

The reason they have them is surely security, the amount of theft going on, I'm sure having someone like that would reduce the amount going on.
Basically a friendly face version of the usual quiet watchful security

Your life must be really miserable OP if you view someone giving you a basic greeting as harassment. What’s so hard about saying hello & goodbye? You sound awfully rude and insular - how depressing.

OMG I would be delighted if I saw Troy outside my local Tesco!!!!

Poor bloke.

I would say good morning to him even if I was in a bad mood because its a simple thing for me to do compared to him having to do that job. Its a thankless task so its probably nice for him when customers do actually smile and say hello... its the least I can do..

My local M&S has started doing this - the other day I was greeted by two different members of staff at different times, while I was browsing near the front of the store, one male, one female. It made no sense as I hadn't just arrived and both spoke diffidently without trying to catch my eye so I didn't realise they were speaking to me at first and I only responded after having passed them.

I suppose it's about improving customer service, having someone to ask things of and also that they have fewer staff on tills now.

However, I'm not bothered by having to greet / respond to someone. We're all human and it's nice to be treated as such.

You might have a point here..

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Shop lifting in food retail is such a huge issue, I'd imagine if they've invested in the hours to use a door greeter then that's even more so the case.

I'm antisocial and wouldn't overly like this OP so get that, but equally I would likely just ignore if it was constant and I was in a rush, or simply shop elsewhere and write to them to let them know why, if it bothered me that much (whilst bearing in mind that this person is simply doing their job, so simply from the angle that it made shopping unenjoyable)

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It would not bother me, at all. I'd assume they are keeping a watch out for known shoplifters. I would just return their greeting and carry on. I would not find it intrusive.

What I don't like is stores (Tesco used to do this and may still do this) that encourage their till assistants to actively engage with customers over and above just saying "Good morning", "Thank you" or whatever.

While I'm busy packing a week's shopping I don't want a shop assistant who isn't known to me asking, "Do you have anything nice planned for the weekend?"

I have sometimes felt like saying, "Well, actually I'll be burying a horse."

We used to be served occasionally by a till assistant who would remark on our purchases. I didn't mind her saying how pretty the bunch of flowers I had chosen was. But she once said, "That's a lot of bananas." So the little devil that sits on my shoulder made me reply, "Yes, we've got a pet monkey." "Oh, that's nice..." she replies.

I think it’s fair to say that you have some issues OP.

Which is why I don't judge people. Hence my "we're all different" comment.

OP get over yourself.

They have them do this as it is proven that eye contact and acknowledgement of people as they enter decreases shoplifting.

There are actually irritating people things in this world. This isn’t one of them.