Male staff member in store

OP , here’s some gratuitous advice, you need to stay clear of London buses .

There is a bit of a poster campaign atm to encourage people to acknowledge the bus driver by saying hello or thanking them as you get off the bus ( yes I know what’s coming, they are doing a job they get paid no one says Thankyou to me yada yada) I think it’s a really nice thing to do, have noticed it before on rural and country buses and think it helps to reinforce social bonds. Plus bus drivers, like security people and shop workers generally, are often the victims of abuse from the gbp so anything that can counter that negativity is a good thing.

You have too much time on your hands and are choosing to be offended.
This employee, possibly on minimum wage has been told he has to do this, he is probably bored, and tired having to say hello to customers.
Honestly, just acknowledge it and get on with your day. Why you had to say male I don't know, women do it as well.

The people doing the job feel awkward and hate it too! It’s very American and doesn’t sit right with Brits usually. I worked for Gap many years ago and had to do this is was the most hated job. So acknowledge and go on with your shopping.

Not much you can do other than tolerate it, complain (repeatedly if necessary, to management) or boycott

Are you going to Fortnum & Mason?

I've never seen any 'greeter' like this in any supermarket. Are you sure he's not security? I am sure he must be.

You don't have to respond to him. If you want, you can look straight ahead and be very focused on your shopping.

I don't mind as long as they don't agree with comments, or comment themselves. I've been walking behind my adult autistic DD and another random man has tried to call her rude, or comment to the greeter 'that she could have said hello'. If the greeter ignores or shuts it down, great. But I have had to interject that she isn't rude, she's autistic. They haven't been bothered that the 60 year old woman hasn't given a smile and a hello, just the under 25 year old. It isn't easy being a young ND woman.

Blimey that’s a bit of a reach??

He’s literally PAID to talk to OP ( the same as other customers) … because he is a greeter.

Im sure plenty of people ignore him so just do the same? I doubt he would give a shit either way 🤷🏻‍♀️

would you rather he told you to eff off? get a life seriously

For greeters it's literally their job to say hello to everyone that comes into the shop. He isn't waiting around the doorway in the hope OP will come in so he can say hello for goodness sake.

I agree with OP. I hate this sort of thing. The company owners are trying to force you to interact as a strategy to deter shoplifters but women have this happen all the time when men with the intention to harass try to force interaction so it jars. At the end of the day the company is trying to force interaction n this is unwanted by some people.

My first job when I was 15 they made me be a store greeter. This shy little person still in school 😅 I didn't enjoy it much, I doubt they even heard me as I was so quiet

You seriously, seriously think that out of ALL the people who this bloke says hello to on a 8 hour shift, going in and out of a supermarket, he has remembered the OP as "pleasant" and is targetting her? Rather than just doing his job?

Is this what is called main character syndrome? Because - newsflash - the guy probably wouldn't be able to pick out the OP in a line up, out of the thousands of people he says hello to on a shift.

Just walk on by, he isn't going to shout at you for not saying hello, I highly doubt he particularly enjoys it either!

You absolutely don’t have to say hello. It’s not even rude not to. Just don’t.

You’ve made the ‘mistake’ of being pleasant to a man a few times, now he probably thinks you’re interested in him.

You might have to deploy ‘old faithful’ and mention your husband/partner a few times.

What a ridiculous charade we have to participate in, just to avoid having to say, ‘fella - you’re creeping me out. Back off’.

This makes perfect sense to me OP.
Sorry that some folk cannot just step away from their own experience and accept that we're not all the same.

The point is that it might feel like harassment to the OP. I do agree with you that this probably isn't harassment, and the man is doing his job, but it isn't as simple as telling the OP to 'just say hi'. I actually often ignore folk when they try to force interaction with me, but I'm then labelled as rude, when really I'm just not interested/comfortable interacting at that point in time. I feel like forcing interaction is also rude, if someone clearly isn't interested. We're all different and folk should respect that.

Well she acknowledges then that SHE is the one with the problem and that this bloke is doing nothing wrong. And if it makes her feel SO harassed and uncomfortable, then she shops somewhere else.

And gets therapy.

I understand that. I guess the issue is realistically nothing can be done if the store has greeters I doubt they'll change. Might be worth visiting a different store.

I do, and have posted that above. The point is that OP IS struggling with this interaction, and others minimising her feelings because they don't share them won't help her.

If you are very regular at the shop and he's always there when you go in, he will soon learn to just smile your way if you don't acknowledge him, and not speak to you.

I greet my customers when they come in the shop (I'm not in the doorway, but facing it), and I know which customers like a smile and hello, which ones like me to greet them by name, and which prefer not to make any contact at all. Those I might smile and nod at, but I won't speak to.

It's our job. He's not greeting you maliciously.

9 times out of 10, ill take any opportunity to support women who feel harassed by strange men.

This is that 1/10.

Ignore him, say a quick "hey", whatever. But please don't suggest this is harassment, youre diluting the meaning of the term for genuine harassing situations which is why a lot of us will end up not being taken seriously anymore

YAB VERY U

Unsure what relevance it is to being a male 'greeter'. He's not doing you any harm. Speak to him, or don't. Your choice.

It might be an idea for you to brush up on your social skills/manners. It takes zero effort to say hello/good morning/good afternoon etc

The option is there for you to ignore the greeter 🤷🏼‍♀️