Male staff member in store

It's not small no but not as big as some others I've been to. Only 1 floor and they've put the security gates back at the entrance. So you can go in but have to go through checkout to leave.

Is it a smaller Asda store?.
The small one i sometimes go to to collect a george asda order has done something similar to what you describe.
The larger store a few miles away hasnt done it.

My local Morrisons has a lovely security man i always say hello.

I work in a shop on tills and find quite a few customers really quite rude - as a PP said acting as if you're a robot. I'm not talking about people who might find social interaction difficult , people who continue to talk on their phone or to whoever they're with while slinging their items at you and acting as if it's an inconvenience to be asked something such as ' do you need a bag?'
I wonder why they have chosen to visit a shop rather than order online.
The OP and others may be better suited to shopping at an Amazon shop where everything just automatically scans. Or getting a click and collect delivery. I was going to suggest an online food shop but that would require opening your front door to an unknown person and possibly some verbal interaction.

Just be glad that he's not one of these chuggers who set themselves up in the entrance of supermarkets! Or as a previous poster said,one of these blokes trying to sell AA membership. Several years ago,I had one of these guys pounce on me,and despite telling him that I didn't drive,he still kept trying sell me AA membership! Crazy or what?

Maybe read the existing comments addressing your points or ignore posts that make you yawn.

I am sure that it doesn't fill him with joy either, he is doing his job in customer care, sometimes customers need extra help at the entrance.

Madness!

Poor git doing his job!

She said "It would make a HUGE difference to me if it were a woman!" She has a problem with the fact that he's a man.

Yawn.

Starting a thread about a non-issue leaves people open to others having and expressing an opinion/judgement (or whatever you want to call it).

If someone saying 'hello' on entering a shop is such a big deal, it's a wonder they can cope with life in general.

She thinks 'he's checking her out' when he's there to do his job

OMG, he doesn’t have his eye on you, he is NOT CHECKING YOU OUT. The poor guy is just doing his job. He very likely doesn’t give you a second glance, you’re not Beyoncé! Are you for real?

I feel harassed and like I’m forced to interact with an unknown man for no apparent reason when I just want to get on with my shopping, even when I make a point of looking away, trying to enter the store as far as possible from where he’s standing. It makes me so uncomfortable but I can’t put my finger on why.

Well the way you're acting is likely to cause him to think you're a shoplifter! My DH was a security man at Asda for a while and he said you could spot the dodgy ones by their reaction on seeing security personnel........😂

What a daft assumption to make. He's just 'meeting and greeting.' It's his job. He doesn't want to hear about OPs partner any more than she wants to hear about his.

There is a security element to these roles. It can have a deterrent effect on the casual shoplifter. I'm sorry that it bothers you, OP. Try the brisk smile as you go past. There's no need to engage any more than that, or even al all if you don't want to.

Doesn't his employer have a duty of care to protect him from nutters ?

Re saying thanks on the buses, how do you thank the driver if you have to get out at the middle doors? Do you shout down to him/her or what?

I thank them with a wave when getting out the middle doors, since the driver always looks in the mirror to make sure we are all off before moving off! Well I hope he sees my big wave of thanks anyway....😊

As the OP seems to suspect he's 'after' her, I can't help wondering if she'll take a PP's advice and explain to him that she's got a husband/partner and he needs to stop being creepy. OP, if you do take that advice, please let us know how that goes.

But not only he's a breathing but he's actually saying Hello.

Bastard.

Its a man doing a job said hello he dosent want to rape anyone.
What as the world come to.
I think all men on the planet should be shipped to space along with teachers dog owners plus others.
Then we can all stop being offended at shit that dont really matter.

For some reason I have just remembered the scene in Fawlty Towers "The Kipper and the Corpse" where Miss Tibbs primary objection to being shut in a wardrobe with a corpse was that it was a male corpse.

@ilovesooty 👋👋 you and I often have similar views on threads, but this one is an absolute corker!

That's a leap.

Does it upset most people?

I simply shake my head with a smile and keep walking, no different from acknowledging a greeter.

Reasonable or not, your feelings are important and not to be dismissed casually by anyone else.

You cannot help the fact that this experience is making you feel uncomfortable, it just does. You have had experience of being harassed by men before and have a sense that this man is checking you out’, leading to an obvious sense of anxiety.

Not sure what you can do if you don’t want to change your shopping habits, other than discuss the matter with someone you trust who could help you could reflect on why you feel the way you do and possibly give you strategies for dealing with the anxiety this causes.

I hope you manage to resolve this issue OP or at least find a way to manage it.