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Is this creepy?

30 replies

Katherine9 · 18/05/2025 09:28

Over the past few weeks, a young chap in my local supermarket has been quite friendly when I've gone in but nothing I thought too much about - just the usual "hello", "how are you?", "finished work?" type comments. He asked my name once (Katherine) which I gave. Then a few days ago, I got a friend request from a name I didn't recognise, and ignored it. When this person started liking old posts from years ago and messaging saying 'hi', I responded to say I don't think we've met, to which he replied 'we have'. It started to feel a bit creepy, and then he said he works in my local shop. I haven't replied or done anything with the friend request, and probably won't go into the shop again.

I'm 50 - easily at least twice his age, the biggest I've ever been (officially obese), and aging more like a dried grape than a fine wine, so very much doubt this is an attraction issue. But the weirdest bit is his thinking it was ok to try to add me in the first place, and I'm not sure how he could have found me without my last name.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is a bit creepy?

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Beebumble2 · 18/05/2025 11:54

yes creepy, maybe he’s looking for a mother figure! He could be a romance scammer.

Wishboneswishes · 18/05/2025 11:48

I’d block him and shop somewhere else for a while!

ClaudiaDark · 18/05/2025 11:44

It's more than creepy, it's unprofessional of him. How did he find you on Facebook if he only knows your first name?! I'm worried that he's somehow managed to access your surname. And how is he liking your posts? You might want to lock your settings down

Goditsmemargaret · 18/05/2025 09:32

Yes I think it's quite creepy. I would avoid him both irl and block him online.

As an aside though don't use language like that to describe yourself, there are many ways to be beautiful beyond young and skinny.

LoafofSellotape · 18/05/2025 09:31

I think you've pulled 😂 Just block him on SM if you're not comfortable with contact.