Parents hate the Childfree

I have children myself. Some of my friends do, some don't and some professional acquaintances I don't know whether they do or not. As PP have said, most people who are happy with their own choices/circumstances don't feel resentful towards people who have made different ones.

Yeah I agree it’s not always a completely neat division. Personally I wouldn’t call myself childfree though if I had wanted children, that’s not the meaning as I understand it. OP can answer for herself, but I assume what she had in mind in this thread was people who didn’t want children and therefore didn’t have them.

I always think this, everyone in the world has been childfree for x years, it's not like people become aliens once they have children although of course priorities etc change.

The only person I dislike (hate is a strong word) in real life who is childfree is someone who constantly harps on about how awful my life must be with a child. I consciously don't talk about him to her (unless she asks) and as she's at a shared hobby we have he is never there, but honestly it's constant. Other than that it doesn't cross my mind really, on here I'd say the vitriol and spitefulness often goes both ways pretty equally!

Ps all my childfree friends are well adjusted grounded people who are too patient with me being a mess. They’re competent, positive, lovely and amazing. I don’t think anyone could hate any of them!!!

And yet your thread title is “parents hate the childfree”

dramatic much?

As long as they have some empathy and accept that children exist in the world and can be out and about in public then there’s no problem.

I absolutely don't hate my child free friends.

I think in some ways I need to be a bit more conscious of not boring them, because the parts of my brain that used to have time for adult conversation, solo travel, an extensive and spontaneous social life etc, are now given over to the business of raising children so I don't have as much to talk to them about from my life that they might be interested in. I still want to hear everything that's going on in theirs, though, and I think I live vicariously through them a little bit!

I'm probably less conscientious with other parents about falling into endless chat about our respective children because I assume they're in the same headspace as I am.
I'm less likely to message a child free friend to see if they fancy popping to the park or soft play on a Sunday afternoon, as I assume that would be their idea of hell, but I still want to see them for coffee, drinks, dinner etc whenever I can; it's just that I don't have that much solo time so it's less frequent.

Jesus. On mn in the last day there’s been do people really not love kids and now this, also dog people think everyone love their dogs and other posts that are basically all saying the same. Apparently everyone hates everyone. Where is funny, fun mn gone? Where are the missing fridges gone?! Never wanted to flounce before but my god it’s like the site is now just everyone saying everyone else hates them.

I don’t know many people who are child-free (post having babies age). The ones who are all have pretty compelling reasons not to have children and those reasons don’t apply to me. Why would anyone hate child-free people? I don’t really get it. All of us have been child-free adults unless we had a baby under18.

Surely it’s choice (or sometimes they wanted kids but couldn’t) why would parents hate them?

surely we can all see that we can get along together with a bit of respect and understanding? Eg not having children in the garden before a reasonable hour, 9am or so because your neighbours are sleeping, having quiet indoor activities for early mornings if you have early risers, then the flip side is to turn music and no loud talking after 10pm in gardens especially weeknights with school the next day. Teaching kids not to scream is good first step in neighbourhood harmony, I’m not talking about 6 month old babies, no reason why 5 year olds should be screeching, my neighbours took the kids in if they got too loud, kids soon learned to play nicely, 6&8 now

I don’t care at all - doesn’t effect me. My brother & his girlfriend are childfree by

choice I’m happy for them.

No shits given here. People can be dlcks or not with or without children

I’m a patent and I respect childfree people far more that I do shit parents. There are so many bad parents out there, and what makes it worse is that they keep on having more children.
I never ask anyone if they have children, it’s none of my business.
Most people are not interested in other people’s children or animals.

Exactly. OP has very selective hearing to things that only suit her narrative.

I don't hate people who don't want to have children. I literally don't care what other people choose to do, beyond wanting everyone to feel empowered to make the choices that are right for them.

I do have a problem with people who talk or post online about how they hate children / children are annoying / children shouldn't be allowed in certain spaces etc., because it's discriminatory, disrespectful and exclusionary. Most child free people don't do this. The ones who do are arseholes and I think it's ok to tell them that.

Some child free people think that having others be respectful of their choice not to have kids means that people also have to be respectful of their discriminatory rhetoric about kids. That is not the case; I can respect someone's choice not to have children and still be critical of the way they talk about them.

I would go so far as no one really cares what the Op does or doesn’t do

Some of my favourite people in the world are child free, in my life they are either friends who wanted kids but it never happened who love spending time with my children and doing things considered typically family activities with us. They also are people who never had any intention of having children so are the people I see for non kid friendly socializing, coffee in a nicer coffee shop, cocktails at night sports activities, I've never thought to categories as parents or not really.

There have been friendships that fell away when my kids were tiny and I just genuinely had no time or space for for certain things aside from work and family but even then these things were just friendship drifts. I often see people say 'im so sad friend x has dropped me since I had kids or I'm so sad friend y isn't as available since having babies ' and I think it's unnecessarily dramatic rather than accepting some friendships are for a reason or a season rather than a lifetime

Can you give some examples where you have felt people have hated you OP because you are childfree.

In RL

To add - now that my children are pretty much grown, I'd rather be friends with someone childfree than someone with younger children. I want someone with the same freedom and not to have to deal with someone else's kids. However, I do sometimes find that childfree people still have a lot more freedom than I do even now, and they don't always seems to understand that I'm not quite that free (actually, that applies to the single ones, not the partnered ones).

Most people don't care what others do.

Oh don’t be so silly and hyperbolic OP 😂

What? That wasn't hate, just misplaced smugness.