Parents hate the Childfree

I’m childfree and don’t think anyone has an issue with this as a choice.
However there are a vocal minority of childfree people online who are horrible about children and parents. I can understand why that may give the childfree a bad rep.

The worst posts on mn calling children names etc are from parents. Even irl I encountered parents moaning more about other kids, or kids present, than childfree people

I think anyone who makes their circumstances their entire personality are draining and annoying to be around. If you are child free and talk about it constantly and how much you hate kids, it’s just like ok cool who are you trying to convince?

If you have kids and can’t breathe out without mentioning their names and motherhood, then it’s also just like wow ok you’re a bit one dimensional?

I think a lot of people lack a sense of self so latch on to these things as their ‘identity’.

But OP’s like this love getting themselves in a twist over the bare minimum and making out it’s a trend

all a bit silly

I’m a parent but have child free friends and 2 child free by choice sister. So no, I don’t hate the child free.

That said, you can feel detached from people who don’t have kids when you’re in the throws of small child rearing, it really takes over your life. I had my kids young and they’re now grown, so at this point I have more in common with my child free friends or those who’s kids are also grown than I do with those who are still wading through parenting tiny people as the majority of people my age seem to be.

No.
I'm an older in life parent.
I was childfree initially by choice. Then it wasn't by choice but by medical issue's.

I love my kids, but I feel equally uncomfortable with the assumption that because I love my own I must exude motherhood to every child and everyone presumes by default of having kids I can babysit everyone else's. Parenting your own is completely different to others.

In my childfree stance years ago, I remember getting so peeved that because I was a woman and older than the student years I was put in the children's department at a store..awnsering questions about kids shoes sizes and Parenting. I was baffled..like how the hell was I meant to know about kids...I'd never been around one!

I’m a parent and I’m not bothered by people either having children or not having children.

Can you see it? I’m so confused! The only post I can see is ‘if only there was a third option’

I wouldn't because I used to say I hated dogs. Now I have two and discovered I am, in fact, a dog person big time. Other dog owners can still be a PITA if they don't manage them well (a bit like other parents really).

It's not a difficult concept.

People "hate" being told what they've got/chosen is bad/less than.

For example. If I say "I hate dogs" to a dog owner, they are likely to get defensive because I've effectively said "I hate what you have chosen for your life" and that gets most people's back up. Especially over a living animal/person that they love dearly.

Secondly, they are going to make the pretty logical assumption that I don't have a dog. "I hate dogs" isn't likely to be a person who has chosen to have dogs.

What a deliberately goady post. Not worthy of a proper response.

I think the idea that 'parents hate the child free' is as insane as the idea that all child free women are bitter and wish they had kids.

Quite frankly, other parents piss me off far more regularly then the child free. I don't even think about people not having kids, why would I? It has zero impact on me. Other parents failing to raise their feral offspring however? My kids have had to share space with these brats over the years so it impacts me much more!

So far the only post …

It’s not for you to dictate what people without children call themselves. I was originally childless not by choice. I wanted children but couldn’t have them. Having had many years to come to terms with that and to embrace the positives of life without children, I now think of myself as childfree.

Who has the time to hate a group of people who have no influence or impact on your life.

Children are like farts, most people only tolerates their own.

My friendship group is mid 40's, some had children other friends are child-free, we're at a stage where we all have more freedom.

On the very thread you’ve got yourself twisted like a pretzel about OP, you say

But people hate lots of things. You can’t police other people’s opinions.

I don't at all! I'm so happy with my kids, they're my world. Im happy for people who don't want kids and sad for those that do but can't. I think it helps that I don't have any money worries and also that I can afford help with cleaning and other housework.

I'd probably tell people I was childfree in either circumstance. If childless I wouldn't want the sympathy.

Nope

Really? I have very good friends I hang out with, and go on holiday with who are child free. The group that goes away together, 2 have kids and 4 do not. It makes no difference to anybody.

Op this issue completely aside, are you happy in life? Partner? Friends? Social life?

because you seem very angry at what appears to be something you have very much blown way out of proportion from a few comments on a thread

and as for Most importantly will you own up to it?. You sound like you’re trying to parent us!!

Sorry, having lived through the past 22 years of being a Mother, still think the correct term is “childless”!!