Parents hate the Childfree

What? Why not?

How on earth does the fact that @x2boys called this a “parenting website”prove your point that all parents hate the child free? Just explain that one to me please ?

you clearly have an agenda proved by the point that you are only responding to the few posts that agree with you and keep referring people to the “second post”. How do you know the second poster isn’t child free ? It’s a bizarre way to make / have an argument

Since you asked - I was child free up until last year and I loved it! I didn’t feel like parents I knew hated me at all. I didn’t feel derogatory comments were made towards me. I often chose not to attend events such as birthday parties because I wouldn’t get a chance to speak to my friends properly and it all felt chaotic. I probably did feel a tinge of jealousy that there was a part of life that I was excluded from but could justify that that was my choice.

Now I have a nearly one year old DC. I have friends in their late 30s -40s who don’t have children. Today I’m going to an event with two of them with my child and next Friday an evening with a group

Only on MN are child free women pitted against women with children.

Back in the real world, no one gives a toss.

I think that, for the vast majority of people, they couldn't care less whether people have children, don't have children, have pets, don't have pets, like to paint water colours, don't like to paint water colours, go scuba diving or don't etc etc etc. Most people like people who are nice to them and don't like people who aren't. It's a simple process. Don't overthink it.

I think the onus is on your to provide examples from other threads rather than just telling people to go and look. You’re the one making the claim, you back it up, here, in this thread.

(“Hate” has become such an adolescent word - means anything from completely despise to “has said something that I don’t like”. Demonstrates a juvenile mindset. I can’t really take it seriously.)

It's bizarre to me that someone would dislike people for not having children when it makes zero difference to their life and is a 100 times better for this completely over populated planet.

Well, OP?

It’s because it’s a strange thing to say that they don’t like children. Children are not one big homogenous group, they are individuals with their own personalities. It’s like saying you don’t like people of a different age or a particular sex for example. Fair enough to say you don’t like children who do or don’t do a particular thing but to say you don’t like children is a bit offensive yes.

What Mumsnet really hates is the cat-free.

I think it’s a case of a vocal minority. Parents who don’t hate childfree people don’t tend to go around mouthing off about it all the time because there’s nothing to say. It will be a small number of parents who apparently do have something against childfree people who just make a lot of noise about it.

So 99 replies on this thread and only 2 posts that were negative about child free people?

Can you look at any more than two posts?

How about the other 98 that call bullshit on your theory? Can you explain why you're ignoring them?

I'm a parent and I don't hate the childfree. My DD has chosen to have no children along with many of her friends. Their choices don't affect me so why should I "hate" them for it?

Bingo.

OP has got about 3% of the many many posts on this thread that suit her narrative.

The rest don't. The rest say that most people don't give a toss. But that's not ok for OP who needs to be the main character. You can't not give a toss about what she does. You must hate her, or be jealous, etc etc. If you shrug your indifference, clearly you're in denial, because OP is so important that she provokes all these emotions.

But she'll still search for the one post in every hundred she can "use" and insist this thread proves hatred of the child free.

Why would people who decides to have children be jealous of those who chose not too? Sure there may be logic in there but no idea what

I don’t hate childfree people. But I do hate it when childfree people (so people who have chosen not to have children by choice), expect a childfree world.

It doesn't matter if they don't like children.

It does matter if they exhibit their not-liking of children by (for instance) stabbing footballs, or yelling at them when they're playing (reasonably) in their own garden, or trying to ban them from restaurants, planes etc.

In each of these cases I'm talking about reasonably behaved children of course - talking, playing, but not screaming and running around innapropriately.

TBH, thinking about it, I see more visceral disgust from some child-free people towards children than I've ever seen from parents towards the child-free.

I think there's some thing going on here - because that's not 'hate' - it's a kind of projection perhaps, putting thoughts into someone's head maybe, but it's not 'hate'

Hate is actively seeking someone out to have a go at them, not thinking about their motives and projecting ones that sound a bit judgemental.

But isn't that exactly what I'm saying? You said you hated dogs... and you didn't have dogs.

So you don’t believe this anymore Op?