Parents hate the Childfree

I've never heard or seen anyone hating childfree people. Plenty of hate for children and parents though.

Two threads on a forum with hundreds of threads daily hardly equates to parents hating “the child free”.
Maybe focus on your own life.

because it's discriminatory, disrespectful and exclusionary

She's literally spelled it out for you.

Doesn't impact my life one bit if someone posts something discriminatory, disrespectful and exclusionary about elderly people. But I can still find it not ok and say so. That's what stops society going to shit.

Oh man. You MUST see the irony in this??

I'm not sure about this. There are many things people will not say in real life that they will say online. They are still the same people. Real life holds more consequences so I feel it is hard to know who people really are.

I remember the video of the woman just posting about her day and mentioning they had no children yet. She wasn't even childfree and she got so much hate. It was disgusting.

I think that a lot of younger people say that they don’t want children, but then later in life change their minds.

I am trying to conceive my first at 40. I hadn’t met the right man yet. Now I have and I want to have children with him.

women in their forties are having the most children these days compared to other age groups.

I don’t hate childfree/childless people at all.

It took many painful years for me to become a Mum so I do sometimes wonder if someone is “childfree” if they had experienced similar difficulties and were unable to conceive, or perhaps there was just never the right time. So I quietly empathise but I would never ask outright.

I do think that unless you’ve been a parent it’s difficult to comprehend the emotions involved with being a parent, but that’s fine- because I save my parent chats for my friends who have children. My best friend is childfree and I have no negative feelings towards her in the slightest (apart from slight envy that she gets a lot more sleep than I do 😉)

Instagram isn't real life. What is it with people basing their entire view point from what people post on social media? Just now there's a thread on someone basing what children is like based on social media posts.

Meanwhile in real life, I have close friends who don't have kids, colleagues and other friends who don't have kids, my parents have friends who don't have kids as do my in-laws. No one hates others. I show interest in their lives and they show interest in mine. Believe it or not, we also socialise together!

Social media and Instagram is based on algorithms and becomes an echo chamber based on what your own views are. Whereas in the real world, people just don't care about this sort of stuff.

I'd imagine some parents do hate the childfree. I'd imagine some childfree people hate parents.

I suspect there are plenty of parents who wish they'd never had children but just wouldn't admit to it, so instead bang on about how happy they are with their dc.

I suspect there are plenty of childfree people who wish they had children but wouldn't admit to it so bang on about how happy they are being childfree.

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You mean:

Which is why some parents hate the child free and why some child free hate the parents.

Don't forget you have to apply your "logic" to yourself...

But that comment reads as a childfree person hating the parents which doesn’t prove your point people hate the childfree if anything that comment says the opposite.

What? Do you think we all live on Childfree Island or something?😄

She does what you do though, mention the few negative comments on reposts when the actual comment sections are 99% supportive.

Oh. My. God. Yea
"don't want cat poop in your garden? Loser hater sado!"

You never said some parents either though? It was address to 'parents' with the last sentence being 'will you own up to it' very much giving the impression you were accusing us all.

What a terrible example. That entire account is goady rage bait. Perhaps if she didn't make slagging off parents her entire personality, they might be a bit nicer to her?

Surely the vast majority of people just couldn’t care less about other people’s live choices.

I honestly don’t give it a second thought, if anything being a parent has strengthened my belief that people should have the option be child free by choice without judgement. It’s the same debate that gets brought up between working parents and SAHP, who has it worse, one side hates the other side more. If you’re secure in your decision, why should it matter to anyone else.

Honestly, no one would be disagreeing with you if you’d said “some parents hate childfree people”. It’s your blanket “parents hate the childfree” that people are disagreeing with.

But I also don’t think Instagram comments are a reasonable way to judge this. There are horrible comments under a lot of posts by all sorts of people and about all sorts of things. Some people are just arseholes who will say something nasty to a childfree poster, and then go and call a poster with 5 children a disgusting breeder filling the world with horrible rugrats or whatever.
People find someone they don’t like, and then just pick anything to criticise them with. If they don’t like a childfree person it’s “thank god you don’t pass your genes on!” But if they do have children it’s “I feel sorry for your children having you as a mother”.

Of girls both childrfree and not.

there’s no hatred from any of us. Just different lives. Adulting is hard and everyone has their own issues.

MN isn’t real life and a lot of people are harsher here than they would be in real life. There’s a lot of “pile ons” too sometimes but I haven’t seen anything that suggested parents hate the child free from the range of different posts I’ve seen on here. Ofc that’s my personal opion

sorry post cut in half as child pressed my phone - that doesn’t mean I hate the child free though !

I don't hate the child free but I'm maybe a bit jealous. DH and I have very little in the way of support and in the 15 years we have been parents, we have only had three nights away to ourselves as a couple. DHs sisters are both child free and they go off together on holidays a few times a year (currently on a plane to Greece as we speak).

However, it's not forever, youngest is starting high school soon so the hardest years in terms of childcare and less 'freedom' so to speak are mostly behind us. Once the kids are older we plan to never take another holiday in the school holidays again!