Parents hate the Childfree

I don't hate anyone at all....until they're an arsehole to me or my child.

Couldn't care less what other people do with their lives as long as it doesn't harm other people.

I do think hating a whole group of people in general is weird, be that children or childfree people

You don't seem very happy

I don’t think that good parents hate the childfree, it’s those that don’t parent their DC to understand that they coexist in a world/society where their actions have consequences - as in massively disturb or disrupt other people’s lives, that are universally hated.
The number of people who lack the will to parent their children in public spaces, or discipline them, or show them the life skills required to E.g. attend school, keep quiet in certain situations, have the iPad (if you must, although that restaurant visit is an ideal opportunity for children to enhance their table manners) on headphones at a restaurant and not blaring out audio, use cutlery properly Etc. Is on the rise unfortunately.

Don’t flatter yourself. Nobody cares.

I actually think there’s far more hate the other way. If you’re going to cherry pick occasional comments, it came to light on here a while back that tattle life has a childfree thread which is just full of hate towards mums/children/parents on it. They don’t discuss anything else in there apart from rip parents and children to shreds and make nasty comments about mothers bodies.

It’s really common to be childfree now, most of my friends are and they’re very happy, we’ve all made the right decisions for us personally. Honestly barely anyone in real life cares. most just get on with their own lives. There can be bitterness both ways but that’s just people who aren’t happy with their own lives.

Why does this not apply to your OP?

As the parent of two children under five I have absolutely no mental bandwidth to consider whether I have any feelings about people who have chosen not to have children.

Fucking hell 🤣, it’s not even remotely online hate. I’ve heard it all now. People have found kids irritating as fuck since the dawn of day. But the world keeps turning and all is good.
Un-martyr yourself, and if the shit you read online annoys you, don’t read it. Because I’m pretty sure if you take your kids to a park and they are loud, no one will come up to you and say ‘your kids are doing my sodding head in’. All this crap you absorb online is distorting your view of reality.

No one gives a shit.

Being childfree isn't an issue. Having children when they don't actively really want them and then don't invest the time and care needed is the issue, not people who are aware they don't want to do that deciding not to.

I don't care what people people think. I do care what people say. Because strangers on the internet don't only exist on the internet. They're also real life humans out there in the wild. And the more I see rhetoric online about how kids shouldn't be in museums or in restaurants or on planes or wherever, the more I'll feel in real life like me and my kids aren't welcome in those spaces. The more I see people saying kids are annoying, bratty, gross etc., the less comfortable I will feel existing in public spaces where we're entitled to be.

Think about what you're saying. Would you shrug off hateful online rhetoric about women by asking why we care what strangers online think? No, you'd recognise that online hate has real life consequences.

Huh? I’m a parent and I don’t hate child-free people! In fact, as much as I love my kids, I envy their spare income, lack of ties etc. I have lots of friends who are child-free, lots of them by choice. My only real feeling about it is that I feel guilty I don’t have as much time for them as I had before kids. I hope it will change as my kids get older.

Couldn't care less. You're being ridiculous

Too bad though. Children are part of the general public, if you go in public other people will be there.
You can choose to have your own home be childfree but you can’t control the world.

It’s all a bit… fierce 14 year old arguing in dramatic, hyperbolic and complete black and white terms about an issue OP 😂

It's not that you don't have nothing on, but it's a different kind of busy. You will have more windows of free time than someone who is nursing around the clock 24/7, for example. I've lived both, it's different.

With respect k work in a paediatric medical setting, I didn't have kids u til I was 35. I've been child free for a significant portion of my working life.

Working with children is not remotely a window into the world of parenting. Not remotely. I've also been a big sister, I volved aunt, babysat since I was 12, nannied in summer holidays and I can definitely say that having experienced both child free and parenting there is no comparing working with children in these settings or being an involved family member to parenting. So much I didn't understand until I was a parent both in terms of the emotions involved in being a parent and the practicalities that arise that never crossed my mind previously.

I wouldn't claim to understand the experience of being elderly because I also work with elderly people, or the experience of a cancer sufferer because I see them regularly in clinic.

People dislike certain behaviours but most are reasonable enough not to ascribe them to every parent or non parent. Eg, no one likes parents who refuse to manage kids who are creating disruption to others, but also parents don't like non-parents who see ordinary child behaviour (talking a lot, crying sometimes) as being disruptive and needing to be stopped immediately. But most people don't behave like that.

This is interesting as when people don't have dependents we can often assume they are 'free' but they are often busy with lots of commitments whether that is community helping or volunteering or just appointments and activities they enjoy.
I remember being child free and being. Expected to do all the travel or arrange plans around kids and I usually did, but didn't always like the assumption that I had nothing on just because I had no dependents

I don't hate the child free I just find it a bit weird when they say they hate children, like if they were out and about and saw a lost or injured child would they not help? Some of the comments get a bit militant and odd

Yabu

I'm childfree and have never got the sense from any parents that they "hate" me.