Parents hate the Childfree

Tbh I think people who make up scenarios like this get a bit too much joy out of the thought of young children being upset and scared.

Re your "what do childfree ppl do with your weekends" No offence meant to you but i wonder why you havent been asked to prove it by posters abusively asking you to spend loads and loads of time searching for threads and copying and pasting loads of posts over to prove what you are saying. Like @KimberleyClark and i were asked to. Could it be because you are man and its still considered more acceptable for a man to say he doesnt want kids than for a woman to say the same thing

Really looks like misogyny was at play upthread if a man on here isnt being held to the same standard and questioned incessantly like Kimberley and i have been!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So you think a very young child being picked up by a stranger, stormed across the restaurant and dumped on a plate of food is not going to make said child very very upset and scared?

I wonder if the deranged friend has an children!

So @HoppingPavlova has a child come up to her restaurant table trying to take things off it on average once a year

@HoppingPavlova also has an unhinged friend who does things like dump young children on plates of food in the middle of a restaurant, and lob children’s shoes in the pool and @HoppingPavlova is clearly very impressed by this.

what an unfathomable odd character!

She sounds like a drama queen with a penchant for nastiness.

Rubbish. There is absolutely no need to go to that extreme. A quiet word is far more effective, 99% of the time.

Many young children would find being grabbed by a stranger and dumped in a plate of food highly distressing.

The only reason to do this is spite and cruelty.

Exactly. None of the friend's actions (if they are real) are about teaching manners or anything like that. It's about bullying people who are smaller than her

Not true. The restaurant example is a lesson in cause and effect. You let your kid do this, and this is the consequence. It’s not meant to teach the kid anything, it’s a cause/effect for the parents. With the shoes, the same, it’s cause and effect but for both child and parents. That’s something I always instilled in my kids, 99% of what happened if they did something wrong wasn’t a punishment, but a consequence.

sounds like idolises her friend

Nope, don’t idolise her. I very much respect her though for many reasons and her refusal to take one iota of shit from anyone is one reason. Definitely lessons many could learn.

Imagine sitting across the table from a friend telling you she behaves like this and not thinking “I don’t think I ever want to see you again!”

Exactly. None of the friend's actions (if they are real) are about teaching manners or anything like that. It's about bullying people who are smaller than her.

What. A. Twat.

sounds like @HoppingPavlova idolises her friend

Way more than dumping a young child on a plate of food in the middle of a restaurant?

pray tell @HoppingPavlova what bull shit stories has your friend told you?

Why are you still friends with this person?

@Andthenextafterthat because that definitely happened

That. Is. Being. Honest.

I think the problem is it’s ‘only’ been when we have an early 6pm session as that’s the easier time if both meeting in city directly after work as opposed to hanging around for a more normal session time. That’s the time we find kids may be present and this occurs. Never had this at a later time.

should have added most recent story of same friend. Having a bbq, lots of people, some kids who were mainly in pool. Some kid left shoes laying about in ‘walkway’ area. Friend shouted out whoever owned shoes to move them as in way and someone could trip, both up where we/shoes were, then went down to pool and made same announcement. No one moved shoes so they picked them up, went down yard and threw them over back fence. Saw that with own eyes. When leaving parent/child realised no shoes, friend told them where they were and why they had put them there. Heard that with my own ears.

@Andthenextafterthat because that definitely happened

Well, I wasn’t there, was just told so ???? What I will say is that, when I have been out with this friend they have done things way more than that, which I have observed with my own eyes so, based on that, I have no reason to think it’s not true. They take zero shit and will humour no one. Not a bad thing.

I agree. No one would actually be that nasty to a small child. I might give the parents the hairy eyeball, but I would coo over and then redirect the kid.

I admit I get bothered by people who expect me to be as invested in their kids as they are. As a parent I understand they think that their kids are the greatest things ever, especially when they've just had them or they are reaching milestones.
My group of friends have regular girls nights and I struggle when it becomes all about our kids because it's our time to be us. (That probably sounds selfish AF) but I was me before I became mum. I think a lot of that becomes second when you give birth. My youngest hits double digits this year and I am so done with baby stuff, toddler stuff etc.

@Youstolemygoddamnhouse your post is ridiculous because you are lumping millions of people into one of two pots… child free or not child free.

and that’s ridiculous because of course in both of those groups will be people who like or dislike children.

We do not all share one homogeneous thought.

🙄

I don’t divide my friends and people in my life into those who have children and those who don’t. It’s a non-issue for me. I’ve never heard of anyone who does this. I have children and dislike people who have kids if they’re arseholes. This thread is bizarre.

You are making a sweeping generalisation based on two posts on mumsnet.
I remember the To think it's unacceptable to say you don't like children post, because I voted YABU. I am a mother of 4 of varying ages between 28 and 14. I love my own very much, I love my nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews etc and if my own children ever decide to have kids, I'm sure I will love them too but I have no interest in 'other' children. I have very little interest in other people to be fair but I'm just generally unsociable. I probably prefer people who are childfree as there is no expectation that I also have to interact with their children. What annoys me about some childfree people I know, is that they insist that everyone is bothered they are childfree. I don't know about anyone else but I have enough going on in my own life to be bothered or care about whether others have children or not.

Yep.

The only thing the storyteller missed was 'and then everyone clapped' 😂

@HoppingPavlova on average once a year at pricey restaurants you experience children coming up to your table and trying to grab things?

That poster asked you to be honest!