(TW SA) Husband Said He Could Make Me Homeless

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TheCoralMoose · 18/05/2025 00:56

Ok. I have been married 23 years he is much older.

He has always been controlling but got much worse the last 9 years.

The other day he produced a daft sex toy a dildo thing inside a plastic cactus.
He stuck it up me said enjoy it i couldnt. He got angry and struck me across the face with it.
Always putting me down.
He hates my family i hardly see them since we married.
Forces me to socialise with his family he has 2 grown children.
He goes to a pub every night.
When i stood up to him today he said i can move out he owns the house.
I think my name is on the deeds but not certain.
I have been diagnosed with depression he says im lying trying to get attention from my doctor.
What can i do.

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S0j0urn4r · 18/05/2025 01:40

Have you contacted Womens Aid or NDAH since your last post. They can help you.

Teddy1949 · 18/05/2025 01:35

https://www.gov.uk/government/organisations/land-registry

You can find out if your name is on the deeds via the official Land Registry website. It costs £7.

HM Land Registry

We register the ownership of land and property in England and Wales. HM Land Registry is a non-ministerial department.

https://www.gov.uk/government/organisations/land-registry

Cassieskinsismad · 18/05/2025 01:06

Regardless of whose name the house is in its a marital asset so he either buys you out or it's sold and you get a share of the proceeds.

What he did is illegal. You can't go slapping people round the face with dildos or anything else and you can't go sticking things up people without consent. You could make a police report about those.

Contact Women's Aid too, they can help you with deciding whether it's best to try get him removed from the house (because clearly you two living together whilst it's sold isn't going to work, it's not safe for you) or whether it's best for you to go elsewhere. The national helpline can get very busy, especially at night with people who have to wait for their partner to be asleep before they can call. So it might be easier to call during the day while he's at work (you can call in sick yourself if necessary to be around, it's warranted in these circumstances) or call your local branch, which might be less busy, instead of the national helpline.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 18/05/2025 01:01

I'm sorry to hear that your husband is still continuing to be abusive. You can contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline for advice
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

Homepage - National Domestic Abuse Helpline

Are you experiencing domestic abuse? You are not alone. Find out how the National Domestic Abuse helpline can support you.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Kiwi83 · 18/05/2025 01:00

Call women's aid tomorrow and they'll help you make plans to leave this awful man. Doesn't matter if you're on the deeds in the UK you should get half the assets 💐 reconnect with your family x

TimeForTeaAndG · 18/05/2025 01:00

You speak to a solicitor. Are you in the UK? The home would be a marital asset after such a long marriage.

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