(TW SA) Husband Said He Could Make Me Homeless

You've posted several times asking for help, you really need to take peoples advice.

Again, just listing the horrific things he has done on Mumsnet isn’t going to help you.

You need to take steps to leave and/or report his sexual abuse, rape and coercive control to the police. You have been given lots of good advice, so don’t keep ignoring it. You’re not helpless. He cannot make you homeless.

Have you called any helplines yet? When are you going to do that? Your abuser goes to the pub every night. Could you call the national domestic abuse hotline while he’s out?

You can contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline', it's open 24/7 or Refuge webchat Mon-Fri until 10pm or Sat-Sun until 6pm

Agree 100%

This. No use posting about it on MN - you have been raped, act on it.

If you are married, it doesn’t matter who bought the house and whose name is on the deeds - both partners have an equal right to live in the home. He cannot throw you out. You would also likely have a right to some property if you get a divorce. He is lying to you.

You’ve posted about this man and his violent sexual abuse and coercive control of you many times and I don’t think there’s any advice anyone can give you that you haven’t been given already.

Call Women’s Aid. You need to get away from this man. He is a violent abuser who repeatedly rapes and sexually assaults you and he ought to be in prison, and frankly I would be going straight to the police. But if you can’t bring yourself to do that, at least do what everyone has told you repeatedly to do already and get advice from Women’s Aid or another domestic violence charity and start making steps to get away.

Hitting you with anything is abuse.
Forcing objects inside you is not only abuse, it is also potentially rape.

You need some help and you need it now. Please seek assistance from a domestic violence crisis centre - be sure to make the phone call when you know your partner isn't going to see you making that call. If you are scared of potential repercussions then also make the phone call from a public phone or borrow a friend's phone (or by yourself a prepaid phone that you can just add minutes to - in fact this would be a good thing to have anyway).

Wishing you the best of luck. If he hits you again or forces you to have sex again please call the police and get somewhere safe.

Do this. Enough is enough.

You need to get out. Start by getting organised. Do you have access to any money? You can find somewhere to rent - and claim benefits if you aren’t working.

Sooner rather than later.

If you went to the police he would be arrested and temporarily removed from the home.
If you then made a statement about the abuse and gave evidence such as texts, recordings etc, the police should issue a domestic violence prevention order. Those means he cannot approach you or go to the family home where you are for 28 days.
They could also give bail conditions to keep him away pending prosecution which would take a lot longer.
You have more chance of making him homeless due to the abuse, than him you.

You need to go to the police. Your husband has physically and sexually assaulted you.

You’re not safe where you are, you need to leave. Do you have anyone to go to? You’ve been married a long time, so assuming you’re in the UK I’m pretty sure you have plenty of rights and he can’t turn you out with nothing.

You poor woman.
This is rape and you need to call Domestic abuse charities like Women's aid.

This is horrific domestic abuse.
They can help get you free legal aid if you report this to the police.
This is a sexual assault.

The house is a marital asset.
You need to seek help.
Go to your GP too.

We are here for you.

You can register your interest in the house, you need to see a solicitor. More importantly, you need to leave. Do you have anywhere to go? Any savings?

I think that’s actually a police matter.

He is not getting any better, you know that OP. Get your ducks in a row and leave. 1st stop, a good solicitor.

Do you have an income? Is the mortgage paid off, and how much is the house worth? You can work out how much you would be entitled to in a divorce. Don’t let him anywhere near you again sexually after that, he can’t be trusted not to hurt you again.

No he cannot make you homeless - the house is a marital asset and belongs to both of you. You really need to see a solicitor and get some proper legal advice. Please also contact Women's Aid, your husband is abusive and they will be able to offer you help and support. I would also try and reach out to your family, if you can.

OP. You've posted before. The advice hasn't changed.

Contact Womens Aid and see a solicitor.

1. see a solicitor 2) ring women’s aid 3) call your family and tell them what’s going on with your abusive Husband.

This sounds familiar, have you posted about him before op? If you have, you were given very helpful advice the first time round which you should act on.

If you're a new poster then it's bloody depressing to read another familiar tale concerning another poster.

You can:
Contact Womens Aid
Speak to a solicitor
File for divorce
Tell your family what's been happening
Call the police
Seek a women's shelter

Are you willing to do any of that though?

You have been given great advice numerous times on this topic. Consensus was to ltb and get some help for yourself. Did the tests from the dr come back? I hope you are ok.