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To be uneasy about Dh and his very friendly coworker

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Booklover12345 · 17/05/2025 22:29

Late last night my DH got an email ping from a coworker which woke me up. We were in bed. I asked what it was at that time, he clearly didn’t want to tell me but said it was E and she was just saying thanks for a laugh during their coffee break that day. I asked to look and it said what a really great friend he is and how he makes her day and the job such fun and she loves being in his team and working on this new project together. I knew they got on well but I was uneasy that she sent this email. It sparked a big row, he got cross, said it’s all above board and platonic and it was a nice thing for her to send him. If it hadn’t woken me then I would never have known which worries me too.
AIBU to think it is not on for her to send this and for him to be ok with it. Or am I being unfair to her and jealous, as he says?

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Endofyear · 17/05/2025 22:50

This would piss me off too and your DH is being disingenuous - would he really be ok with you getting a message like this from a male colleague late at night?

Createsusername · 17/05/2025 22:49

I’d be pissed off tbh

MissyB1 · 17/05/2025 22:36

Why was she thinking about him late at night? That's weird. I have colleagues whose company I enjoy, I don't email them late at night to tell them.

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