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Being referred to as “that”

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TsunamiSurfer · 17/05/2025 21:04

Sent a photo edited to say of me to an opposite sex friend.
we are best buddies, or so I thought.
they responded with “I was with that earlier”

thoughts?

lost in written translation?

or disrespectful?

won’t ultimately effect our friendship but I figured enough to garner your thoughts

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TsunamiSurfer · 17/05/2025 21:13

Notsosure1 · 17/05/2025 21:10

The pic is of you? His comment sounded sexual as in he’d had sex with this person - but as it’s you… I’m guessing he hasn’t? Does he mean he was out with you? Maybe a weird compliment if you’ve sent a glamorous photo and you don’t normally glam up? What do you think they mean?

Thank you!

this is how I felt…good to have an outsider interpret it like this…

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TsunamiSurfer · 17/05/2025 21:12

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/05/2025 21:09

Were they with you earlier?

Whether it's a joke or not, only you can know. You know them. Is it the sort of thing they'd say? Have they said things that way in the past ? Is it their sense of humour to talk like that?

Excellent point.

Appreciate all the replies and insight, perhaps just clunkily worded (much like my post!)

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Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/05/2025 21:11

X post with you.

Well, if you're thinking he's being a twat you're probably right. You know him and you know he's got a history of being a bit of a twat at times.

If it was me I'd message him back saying don't be a cunt

Notsosure1 · 17/05/2025 21:10

The pic is of you? His comment sounded sexual as in he’d had sex with this person - but as it’s you… I’m guessing he hasn’t? Does he mean he was out with you? Maybe a weird compliment if you’ve sent a glamorous photo and you don’t normally glam up? What do you think they mean?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/05/2025 21:09

Were they with you earlier?

Whether it's a joke or not, only you can know. You know them. Is it the sort of thing they'd say? Have they said things that way in the past ? Is it their sense of humour to talk like that?

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TsunamiSurfer · 17/05/2025 21:09

Photo we’d usually send, glass of vino in hand toasting the weekend - he’s been drinking, sometimes acts out of character when he has (don’t we all sometimes!)

May gather, he’s been very offensive when had a drink previously, maybe it’s making me overly defensive!?

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PlanetOtter · 17/05/2025 21:09

It doesn’t make a tonne of sense, even with your edit. Unless they have form for illiterate twattery, I’d assume typo.

WetBandits · 17/05/2025 21:08

I’d assume an autocorrect fail. Why would they be telling you that they had been with you earlier? It wouldn’t be news to you…

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TsunamiSurfer · 17/05/2025 21:07

Notsosure1 · 17/05/2025 21:05

I thought photo was of you but guessing it’s another woman?

I’ve edited post -Thanks!

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Poopeepoopee · 17/05/2025 21:07

why are you sending pics of other women to your bestie and more importantly, why aren't you out with your bestie, on a saturday night?

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleTime · 17/05/2025 21:07

Is English their first language?

ChesterFoxE · 17/05/2025 21:07

A pic of what? You? Auto-correct maybe?

Neveranynamesleft · 17/05/2025 21:06

Cant say till I know what was in the pic ??

Notsosure1 · 17/05/2025 21:05

I thought photo was of you but guessing it’s another woman?