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Woman declared legally dead is being kept alive due to state’s abortion laws

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Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 18:02

Anyone see this story?
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/may/15/pregnant-georgia-woman-brain-dead-abortion-law

TLTR
US women is being kept alive on life support due to abortion laws. Woman was 9 weeks pregnant when she became brain dead. Family have no say in the matter and do not want this. The foetus if it survives may have life long health conditions and suffer from brain damage. Family are also having to pay for medical fees occurred and also for future birth fees.

I am being unreasonable to say WTF. Where is the outcry about this? This actually happened in an episode of The Handmaid’s tale.

YABU - this is the law, law needs to be upheld even after death
YANBU - WTF. Women are not safe even after death.

Pregnant US woman declared brain dead is being kept alive under state abortion law

Doctors are keeping Adriana Smith on life support months after medical emergency until baby is ready, family says

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/may/15/pregnant-georgia-woman-brain-dead-abortion-law

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Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 20:55

Jhhgh · 17/05/2025 20:35

Wait. What? Does the child she has, have a decent quality of life? Or are they riddled with health issues?

I honestly don’t know, The child looked maybe 3/4? I’m not good with ages, but certainly not a young baby. Think she was holding the kid and the kid was just watching quietly as she was talking… so assume the child knows her father is also her grandfather. Child looked fine but of course you can’t judge on looks but wasn’t in a wheelchair. Charlie Kirk I think the podcaster was or something like that.

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Baguettecat · 17/05/2025 20:51

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 17/05/2025 18:25

Your opinion and the popularity of it in certain countries is why this is happening. You're allowed your opinion, we're all allowed to point out the consequences of it.

'weakly anti-abortion' is not this horror show. Let her be.

Frankly I'm anti-abortion, especially the ease in which it is carried out in most countries and the lack of respect to life this entails, AND I am also pro-women's choice, which trumps the former so I would not dream of making my opinion into a legal reality.

It's not all black and white.
There is nuance imo.

literallyarabbit · 17/05/2025 20:50

Manxexile · 17/05/2025 20:47

Speaking as Devil's Advocate I wonder if the reaction would be different if the Guardian's headline said "Doctors battle to save life of unborn child by keeping mum alive".

No, I would feel exactly the same way and I say this as someone whose mother died when I was young. No child should bought into this world without a mother. (Am against surrogacy too).

Manxexile · 17/05/2025 20:47

Speaking as Devil's Advocate I wonder if the reaction would be different if the Guardian's headline said "Doctors battle to save life of unborn child by keeping mum alive".

literallyarabbit · 17/05/2025 20:46

It is absolutely grotesque. At nine weeks, the foetus would not survive if born, and when it comes to term, will be severely underdeveloped, particularly in terms of brain function.

Will the state be taking responsibility for all medical fees, not only in terms of while the foetus is developing, but once born? I suspect not. It never fails to astound me that the US pro-lifers give zero fucks once the birth occurs.

Babyboomtastic · 17/05/2025 20:46

TheWorminLabyrinth · 17/05/2025 20:33

You genuinely think it is preferable for a foetus to gestate in a dead body? To be subjected to all the medicines that are required to keep a corpse "alive"? Do you know that the body starts to rot after brain death, despite all the "life support"? You'd want that for a child? And you'd want that child to be born without a mother and potentially with devastating disabilities? That's the better option in your view?

It depends what you mean by 'dead' really. Brain death is a concept created out of advances in medical technology.

The baby isn't being gestated in a decomposing corpse, but in a body that is kept alive, with no awareness.

In the Czech case, the mum had lots of daily physio to help with blood flow etc, and the family would sit by her bedside and read fairy tales to the bump. Her dad was ready to raise her, and the family were in agreement.

In a society where most if us would agree that it would be fab if that mum could donate her organs whilst brain dead but being kept alive, to save lives, why is the idea of her giving the gift of time, to save her own child grotesque?

The point though is that both should be gifts freely given, not taken against the family's will.

Anon2536474 · 17/05/2025 20:45

Land of the free

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 20:45

LifeExperience · 17/05/2025 20:05

I question some of the family's statements because it is illegal under state and federal law to require the family of a deceased adult person to pay that person's final medical bills. The dead person's estate pays and if that money is exhausted the remaining bills are either written off or reimburse to the hospital by the federal government. I know this for a fact because after my brother died broke and intestate, the hospital tried to get my parents to pay his final bills. They refused, citing the law and the hospital had to admit that they were wrong to attempt collection.

I can't speak directly to this case, but if the family is saying they are being forced to pay the woman's bills, they are either misinformed, lying, or being taken advantage of.

She isn’t deceased though, she’s alive but braindead.

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TriesNotToBeCynical · 17/05/2025 20:43

blubberyboo · 17/05/2025 18:38

I'm not kow-towing to anyone dear!

I'm pointing out that where the left has failed women and allowed to fester then male supremacy ideologies creep in. This will always happen if left unchecked.

The left did that

You need to hold the left to account

Edited

There is no "left" in America - only various grades of radical and liberal right-wing capitalists and individualists.

Marble10 · 17/05/2025 20:41

In the best possible way, I hope the pregnancy isn’t viable and doesn’t continue. This is terribly sad for all involved.

Someone2025 · 17/05/2025 20:41

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 20:37

There are so many factors. Who is going to bring up the child? The woman was 9 weeks pregnant, we don’t know if she even knew she was pregnant at this point. What if the boyfriend didn’t want the child? is it fair that now a family member would be forced to raise the child that they would not have had to do? What happens if the child has servers health conditions, who is going to pay? The grandmother? An older lady who night not even work? How she going to pay for the child is she get’s sick or dies? I’m not saying that all this could happen but all these things could happen. It might be the mother’s wishes to have the baby but it is everyone else who is going to have to look after the child.

Agree, all those things are a possibility.

And aside from all of that the child could grow up and read about all these articles online

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 20:40

SapphireSeptember · 17/05/2025 20:02

Similar case has already happened in the USA. The woman's body was breaking down and poisoning the baby, who wasn't going to survive. Her husband was finally allowed to get the life support machines switched off after going through court. It's just horrendous.

Can you remember the name or what part of the country it was so I can have a look. Utterly horrendous

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outerspacepotato · 17/05/2025 20:40

Too bad every lawmaker who voted for that anti abortion garbage isn't responsible for paying all current and future medical bills raising from this grotesque travesty.

This is a woman as incubator.

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 20:37

GlidingSquirrels · 17/05/2025 20:04

I may be of the minority here I'm assuming, but if that was me and my pregnancy, or my sister and her pregnancy (especially having a toddler without a sibling who will already be losing their mum) then I would want them to try and make the pregnancy successful.
It's something that should be discussed in early pregnancy notes really so there is knowledge as to what the mum would want rather than doctors making the decision.

There are so many factors. Who is going to bring up the child? The woman was 9 weeks pregnant, we don’t know if she even knew she was pregnant at this point. What if the boyfriend didn’t want the child? is it fair that now a family member would be forced to raise the child that they would not have had to do? What happens if the child has servers health conditions, who is going to pay? The grandmother? An older lady who night not even work? How she going to pay for the child is she get’s sick or dies? I’m not saying that all this could happen but all these things could happen. It might be the mother’s wishes to have the baby but it is everyone else who is going to have to look after the child.

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SapphireSeptember · 17/05/2025 20:36

@ElizaMulvil Someone did some research and found out the Tories are more left leaning than the Democrats!
But yes, a lot of left wing people don't believe in gender woo woo nonsense. I'm a sodding Commie.
Keeping a woman alive with machines in order for her to give birth to a baby that may or may not survive is horrific no matter which way you slice it.

Jhhgh · 17/05/2025 20:35

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 18:26

I agree. I hate that men are the ones making the laws and dictating what women should be allowed to do with their own bodies and I find it abhorrent that there are some women in power that support this. I seen a video of one of them MAGA podcast bros who opposes abortion and a women, who brought her child said she had been repeatedly raped by her father which resulted in pregnancy but choose to have the baby as she believed the foetus was a baby from conception or of words to similar effect. Everyone clapped and cheered

Wait. What? Does the child she has, have a decent quality of life? Or are they riddled with health issues?

CalleOcho · 17/05/2025 20:35

Horrific. That poor family.

All kinds of fucked up.

TheWorminLabyrinth · 17/05/2025 20:33

YankSplaining · 17/05/2025 18:52

I’m done having children, but if someone had raised this as a hypothetical when I was pregnant with either of mine, I would have said, “If the baby’s still alive, don’t you dare take me off life support until after either delivery or a natural miscarriage.” Is there any indication what Adriana herself might have wanted if she’d known she was going to end up in this situation?

You genuinely think it is preferable for a foetus to gestate in a dead body? To be subjected to all the medicines that are required to keep a corpse "alive"? Do you know that the body starts to rot after brain death, despite all the "life support"? You'd want that for a child? And you'd want that child to be born without a mother and potentially with devastating disabilities? That's the better option in your view?

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 17/05/2025 20:29

ThejoyofNC · 17/05/2025 20:26

Treating an ectopic pregnancy is not an abortion.

Depends which state you are in, as far as I can make out.

Allowing a woman to die, with the result that an unformed foetus in her uterus also dies, is not an abortion either; abortion is an intervention, and not keeping someone alive when they are brain-dead is not an intervention, it's the opposite of intervention.

SapphireSeptember · 17/05/2025 20:27

I think abortion is sad, I'm against it based on stupid reasons (like sex selection, see China) and think the legal cut off point being 24 weeks is pushing it a bit, although I think in the UK medically necessary ones are allowed up to 40 weeks, which is fair. Those babies are very much wanted, and that's just heartbreaking.

ThejoyofNC · 17/05/2025 20:26

hazelnutvanillalatte · 17/05/2025 20:21

So you'd kill my mum, my cousin, and my children's old babysitter - who would have died of ectopic pregnancy, haemorrhage, and extreme hyperemesis with complications.

Treating an ectopic pregnancy is not an abortion.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 17/05/2025 20:21

ThejoyofNC · 17/05/2025 19:19

As I said, I'm 100% anti-abortion.

So you'd kill my mum, my cousin, and my children's old babysitter - who would have died of ectopic pregnancy, haemorrhage, and extreme hyperemesis with complications.

Someone2025 · 17/05/2025 20:21

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 18:02

Anyone see this story?
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/may/15/pregnant-georgia-woman-brain-dead-abortion-law

TLTR
US women is being kept alive on life support due to abortion laws. Woman was 9 weeks pregnant when she became brain dead. Family have no say in the matter and do not want this. The foetus if it survives may have life long health conditions and suffer from brain damage. Family are also having to pay for medical fees occurred and also for future birth fees.

I am being unreasonable to say WTF. Where is the outcry about this? This actually happened in an episode of The Handmaid’s tale.

YABU - this is the law, law needs to be upheld even after death
YANBU - WTF. Women are not safe even after death.

If the government (law) insists on keeping her alive in order for the baby to survive and it’s against the families wishes then the government should be paying the hospital fees and any care for the child thereafter if he / she is disabled etc

StScholastica · 17/05/2025 20:20

BIossomtoes · 17/05/2025 19:23

At least she’s oblivious to it all. It’s the family I feel sorry for.

Yes of course, I feel for her family too. I cannot imagine what they are going through.

Mugcake · 17/05/2025 20:19

It's so awful. I watched her mother talking on the news the family weren't consulted. And the doctors don't know if the baby will be brain damaged or severely disabled, or even if he'll survive. It's horrific. She also said the medical bill is escalating and they're planning to keep her alive for another month at least. I actually can't believe this is happening in 2025