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Advice after upstairs neighbour arrested at 4am by 5 police officers

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Lulabelle25 · 17/05/2025 13:13

I'm worried about my security and safety after 5 police officers came to the house at 4am and arrested a man living in the flat of my upstairs neighbour . Before they took him away i heared them say it was for failing to attend court. My neighbour herself tried to assault me last year and I do not even know if the housing association know the man who was arrested yesterday is living there. My neighbour and i share a front door on a street property. What can I do to ensure my safety and security now?

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QuestionableMouse · 21/05/2025 19:48

IberianBlackout · 17/05/2025 13:45

@Lulabelle25 they won’t do anything but report every single antisocial incident to build up a file

In the meantime your only choice is trying to move. In my experience, unless they try to set the building on fire or something the HA won’t do anything.

And in my experience, the housing association sought a closure order and the people who had been making everyone's life a misery were evicted.

It's fucking scary being a lone woman and hearing violence, wondering if the next boot is going through your door or if someone is going to mix up your address with the druggie they're looking for and out your windows through.

Spinachpastapicker · 21/05/2025 19:43

Hwi · 17/05/2025 14:22

Buy a private well-secured property if you can afford it. If not, chill and enjoy your life.

And back in the real world ….

you really think OP wouldn’t have already done this if she could??

Catladywithoutacat · 17/05/2025 23:25

And the HA won't do anything, I have a nasty male who lives upstairs threatened to hit me on camera and police did nothing, the HA gave him a warning. I'm a woman living alone. The fact I complained made it worse.
I'm now looking to move I suggest you do as well especially as you share a front door that is horrible

Catladywithoutacat · 17/05/2025 23:20

This is nothing to do with you.
He could have not turned up to court over something minor. Police could have just tried their luck seeing if he was in and he opened the door.
Doesn't make him a serial killer

Panterusblackish · 17/05/2025 22:46

Hwi · 17/05/2025 14:22

Buy a private well-secured property if you can afford it. If not, chill and enjoy your life.

Do you not think she would have done that after the woman assaulted her is she could?

This is a support forum. Primarily for women. Why so nasty and dismissive?

MasterOfOne · 17/05/2025 22:35

I have lived in council and HA properties for most of my life.

Op - report everything. The HA has more powers than you think, but they can only work on you reporting what is going on.

My last home, the police were weekly visitors to a resident who CLEARLY needed additional support - the only way we got her to move was by reporting the impact of her behaviour on us was having. It took a long time, but in the end they got her out.

The HA needs evidence to go to court.

nebulae · 17/05/2025 19:11

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AzureOtter · 17/05/2025 18:51

neilyoungismyhero · 17/05/2025 18:02

What world are you living in? The op is in a housing association property sharing a front door with low life's. Pretty sure she's not in a financial situation to buy her own detached property. Words fail me.

Like hundreds of thousands of people living in flats, including me.

Living in a flat and sharing an entrance with other people doesn't mean we're automatically at risk from everyone else in the block since we have actual doors on our properties.

OP heard an upstairs neighbour be arrested. That's a good thing. That shows the Police and the criminal justice system is working.

It doesn't mean the OP needs some sort of extra security because she was never involved in it. it was just a neighbour upstairs. She was never at risk behind her door or at risk using the shared front door.

Hwi · 17/05/2025 18:18

neilyoungismyhero · 17/05/2025 18:02

What world are you living in? The op is in a housing association property sharing a front door with low life's. Pretty sure she's not in a financial situation to buy her own detached property. Words fail me.

I live in the world where I pay for my own stuff, which I can criticise. If I am gifted stuff or given stuff at a greatly reduced rate (HA) I am forever grateful. Only I was unable to get HA accommodation, had to live with parents and save to buy.

neilyoungismyhero · 17/05/2025 18:02

Hwi · 17/05/2025 14:22

Buy a private well-secured property if you can afford it. If not, chill and enjoy your life.

What world are you living in? The op is in a housing association property sharing a front door with low life's. Pretty sure she's not in a financial situation to buy her own detached property. Words fail me.

roundtable · 17/05/2025 17:24

Hwi · 17/05/2025 16:36

What a silly comment. Some HA - like in Gosfield Street Fitzrovia or in Covent Garden or in Euston (Datchet House) or the one in front of the British Museum shit on private residences, including mine.

Lucky you. Mine was in Westminster and a shithole. Op may have had a different experience to you, considering her post is about unruly neighbours not the joys of living in social housing in Covent Garden.

But nevermind, the answer to her problems is to buy a private, well secured property or just enjoy her life 😉 And you've the cheek to call another poster's comment silly!

Dontletthebedbugsbite2 · 17/05/2025 17:17

Scentedjasmin · 17/05/2025 14:50

Well that's very empathetic and helpful.

Well it is the most sensible and safest thing to do. Getting involved in criminal activity that doesn't involve you and hasn't threatened your safety in any way isnt going to end well. I've lived in shitty areas with shitty people, as long as you maintain a distance and be polite they generally don't want to bother you. It's also not healthy to obsess over this so OP should forget about it & carry on with her life.

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 17/05/2025 16:37

TheLimeQuail · 17/05/2025 15:25

I see what you’re saying he’s unpredictable and not in control of himself. I wouldn’t want to live like that

How do you know?

nowhere has op indicated that

Hwi · 17/05/2025 16:36

nebulae · 17/05/2025 14:55

That's a shitty thing to say. Do you think OP would be living in a HA flat with crappy neighbours if she could afford to "buy a private well-secured property"? You're basically saying HA tenants just have to put up and shut up.

What a silly comment. Some HA - like in Gosfield Street Fitzrovia or in Covent Garden or in Euston (Datchet House) or the one in front of the British Museum shit on private residences, including mine.

AzureOtter · 17/05/2025 16:32

ginasevern · 17/05/2025 16:22

Because she lives in an HA flat underneath scumbags. If you've ever been in the same position (I have), then you'll know that it very much is her fucking business.

I'm not saying it's not her 'fucking' business. I'm saying why would she need to consider her security and safety?

Since the 'fucking' scumbags have been 'fucking' arrested?

Why would OP be at risk at all even before they were arrested and especially now they've been arrested, why is she fretting about her safety and security?

ginasevern · 17/05/2025 16:22

AzureOtter · 17/05/2025 16:02

Why?

Because she lives in an HA flat underneath scumbags. If you've ever been in the same position (I have), then you'll know that it very much is her fucking business.

AzureOtter · 17/05/2025 16:02

Icantstandupforlyingdown · 17/05/2025 16:01

Definately contact the housing association on Monday morning and let them know what's happened.

I don't know why so many pps are telling you to mind your own business, I would be really shook by this happening too, especially as you have a shared entranceway.

Why?

AzureOtter · 17/05/2025 16:01

I don't think anyone is doubting the OPs account, they're asking why she thinks she thinks she needs to secure her safety and security because a neighbour was arrested?

Icantstandupforlyingdown · 17/05/2025 16:01

Definately contact the housing association on Monday morning and let them know what's happened.

I don't know why so many pps are telling you to mind your own business, I would be really shook by this happening too, especially as you have a shared entranceway.

londongirl12 · 17/05/2025 15:54

What makes you think you are now unsafe??

ilovesooty · 17/05/2025 15:53

MounjaroMounjaro · 17/05/2025 15:50

@mathanxiety You quote her there as though you don't believe her, yet you have no reason to disbelieve her. It's supposed to be a supportive place here, not one where we question women about whether they were actually assaulted.

She didn't imply that at all. She asked for some further information. They were questions I'd have asked too.

Missywelliot · 17/05/2025 15:51

Evaka · 17/05/2025 13:31

People are so fucking weird and mean on here.

OP shares a front door with a woman who tried to assault her and a man who was arrested in the wee hours by five cops.

They sound like scumbags and I'd be trying to move OP. In the meantime, make sure doors locked and yes get a ring doorbell.

Yes.
I'd get a ring doorbell and make sure it picks up everyone passing.
I'd report everything dodgy to housing association and local councillors.

I live in a shit hole estate and have zero tolerance for anything iffy these days.

MounjaroMounjaro · 17/05/2025 15:50

@mathanxiety You quote her there as though you don't believe her, yet you have no reason to disbelieve her. It's supposed to be a supportive place here, not one where we question women about whether they were actually assaulted.

mathanxiety · 17/05/2025 15:45

How did the upstairs woman 'attempt to assault' you?

Did you report the incident?

AzureOtter · 17/05/2025 15:35

There's no reason to suggest you'd be at risk so I wouldn't worry about it.

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