Not to go on holiday due to DH snoring

I find the silicone ear plugs not perfect but pretty good at blocking snoring. That said, he should be able to give up drinking for a week to support his pregnant wife (who can't drink for 9 months!) - very small concession on his part www.superdrug.com/health/first-aid/ear-plugs/superdrug-silicone-earplugs-x3/p/771494

You may be better seeing if you can change the twin for a double as if he does snore it’s easier to give him a dig and tell to turn on his side. If you have to get up to do that or shout to wake him up it’s going to disturb you more. My DP snores at some points of the night, usually when he’s really knackered, and I just prod him and say turn on your side and we all go back to sleep.

Agree.

A selfish inconsiderate boozer doesn’t sound like much of a catch.

I second this. DH also used to snore and has also now been diagnosed with sleep apnea. Having a cpap machine has given both of us better sleep!

I haven't read the whole thread, but this has been a significant issue during our 40 year marriage. My husband snores fit to wake the dead. In hotels we've even had people knocking on the door or adjoining wall to get him to shut the fuck up.
It wasn't just the snoring, it was when he stopped breathing because of his throat constriction and I felt like I had to stay awake to nudge him to make him wake up and breathe again. Putting on weight in middle age made it worse.
Eventually got him to go have a sleep study and he was diagnosed with sleep apnea. Got a cpap machine, which made a huge difference.

For a short time.

The bloody thing slips off his nose in the night and shoots off a blast of air that whistles past my ear and in my face. It's like a Jumbo Jet in reverse thrust and a massive hissing noise. He has one that just covers his nose so he has to keep his mouth shut or the air just shoots out of his mouth. So he got a chin strap but that's not very efficient. So I still find myself having to nudge him awake to shut his mouth. I've even offered to sellotape up his mouth so it stays closed. Bless him he suggested duct tape might be more efficient. Think that was a joke though :( The machine itself makes a constant humming noise too.

So cpap has been a revelation for him (even though some air escapes, there's still enough to keep his throat open so he sleeps) but not really much help for me.

We try to book holiday places where we can have separate rooms, failing that, ALWAYS twin beds in a hotel room. Just being 3 feet away from the prevailing wind can make it more ignorable. Also listening to Audible on headphones shuts out the hissing if I can relax into it enough.

I have friends who cannot understand how I/we could possibly be happy sleeping apart. One friend in particular says she has never slept apart from her husband in 30 years and finds our situation all very sad. In fact, when she had a hip operation and was in pain, they were so loathe to be apart that he slept on the floor beside their bed so she wasn't alone (despite there being 2 available empty beds in their 4 bedroom home.) Another friend with a similarly (but less chronic) snoring husband tolerates it because to sleep apart feels to her like failing him, and it not being a normal state of affairs, I mean, what would the neighbours think!? Do they think we have a shit marriage?

I've got past all that and so has dh. The secret to coping with the ups and downs of life is getting enough restful sleep. However you manage to do that is different for everyone. Not sleeping in the same bed does not mean that you don't have sex. It doesn't mean you don't love each other. It doesn't mean you've grown apart. It's simply the sensible answer for non compatible sleepers.

Nose stripes or nose plugs! Meanwhile ear plugs xxx

That's awful. You're pregnant. Shaping up to be a great father as well as an awesome husband with this attitude. Go without him.

He won’t drink less for his pregnant partner to get some rest?

Bin.

Yeah, on our 20th wedding anniversary I braved a night in a hotel with DH as I thought one night would be ok. I ended up 'sleeping' in the bathroom, in the (very small) bath with headphones on maximum volume - rainstorm. I finally forced him to swap at about 5.30am for 2 hours. He said, "We shared sleeping the bathroom." 🙄

Separate rooms or the snorer sleeps on a mattress in the bathroom

I second this. DH also used to snore and has also now been diagnosed with sleep apnea. Having a cpap machine has given both of us better sleep!

We book a two bed villa or Air B n B.

I wear foam earplugs and white noise sleep face mask/head band. Utter bliss

My husband was the same, keeping me awake for decades. Tried all kinds of nose strips, ear plugs, special pillows, elbow in the back etc. to no avail. I hated him drinking because I knew how bad his snoring would be that night. He eventually saw his GP and has been diagnosed with sleep apnoea. Now has a CPAP machine which he uses every night. He’s feeling less tired himself, and I find the noise of the machine doesn’t bother me at all. Sleep apnoea can be dangerous so worth getting checked out.

I feel your pain. We have separate rooms as my DH snores terribly. At present we are on holiday and he’s snoring on the lounger and I want to throttle him!!!

Mouth taping has been an absolute game changer for us! Respire strips in particular, he wears them every night without an issue and he’s silent now

Previously on bad nights I’d have to wear Happy Ears earplugs, play white noise (sometimes the volume of it would wake him up - and the noise wouldn’t even be drowning out the snoring so he knew it was bad), and I’d end feel really irritated and overstimulated.

Other mouth taping might work, but we tried it before with tape and that didn’t, so worth giving the proper stuff a go

Airbnb with two rooms is the way to go in the future

I use foam earplugs OP. They block out all of the sound for me if it’s light/moderate snoring. Some sound still gets through if it’s particularly loud, but I can usually still get off to sleep as it’s not so unbearably intrusive!

I’m the snorer and I feel terrible so I’m the one trying to sort it. Have bought mouth guards, sprays, nose strips etc. What is HE doing to try and help the situation?

Then THAT’S your problem

Photo not showing for some reason — they’re Boots soft disposable foam ear plugs

These are amazing . Well worth a try.
I use them all the time for snoring noise and sleep so much better now.

I would book 2 AirBnBs in 2 separate countries. That should do it

I have booked a suite and we took turns sleeping on the pull out sofa when we couldn’t afford two hotel rooms.

Next time book a 2 bedrooms Air BnB

Dp was the same until I told himI was leaving. I meant it too. I could hear him in a separate room and was sick of every holiday being ruined. He has sleep apnea and a cpap machine now. It is very important that sleep apnea is treated as it impacts life expectancy and general health.