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Original poster

Can’t stop!

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Littlemissbubbles · 16/05/2025 17:54

Ok, so I’ve name changed for this.
im already slightly drunk. If anything happens with the kids, I’ll make an excuse and DH can go.
I’ve been like this for four years!
I hold down a professional job, got a big house etc…. But it’s all crap, I can’t stop
As soon as I know I’m not ‘needed’ to drive, I’m sneaking booze. I know it’s ridiculous, I’ve tried to stop, but a can’t!! Actually I like/hate feeling like this.
But I know I need to stop.

AIBU you’re fine, it’s only 2-3 a night!
URNBU, you know you need help( but that involves telling people, and I can’t!)

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Littlemissbubbles · 16/05/2025 18:01

No, I hide it well. Too drunk to drive or anything really responsible, but I function well. I can still cook dinner, help with homework. I’m just very relaxed and fun rather than cross and moody

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 16/05/2025 18:01

The brilliant thing, OP, is that you have recognised that your drinking is a problem. That's actually HUGE, and I really respect you for being honest with yourself. That's the first step.

I get that it will be hard to ask for help. But it sounds like things are hard now without the help, because you know that something needs to change.

Is there someone you trust that you could talk to? Your DH? A friend? Your GP?

I wouldn't judge if a friend told me what you've said here. I would admire them for having the courage to face up to it. And I would want to help.

I wish you all the best. Please do get some help.

TinyTempest · 16/05/2025 17:59

How can your husband not see that you're drunk?

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Littlemissbubbles · 16/05/2025 17:59

It’s about a third of a bottle of wine e every night.
i know i should tell him, but he has enough stress to deal with

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Stripeyanddotty · 16/05/2025 17:57

You should tell him.
Then seek professional help

GoodCharl · 16/05/2025 17:57

How much do you drink in a day/is it every day?

Summersunshinebliss · 16/05/2025 17:57

Do you drink every single night of the week? Also how much a day or week do you drink?

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Littlemissbubbles · 16/05/2025 17:56

I’m good at pretending

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Littlemissbubbles · 16/05/2025 17:56

No

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Stripeyanddotty · 16/05/2025 17:55

Does your husband know how much you are drinking?