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School's punishment of all boys in year 6

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htdt · 16/05/2025 17:28

My son is in Year 6 and has done SATS this week, today was meant to be a fun day for them as they've finished all the papers.

But my son came back from school really upset as the teachers had separated the girls and boys and he says the girls got to do fun activities and given treats but the boys got told off and given a lesson on respect.

He's taken this badly and has said things like 'I must be bad because I'm a boy'.

It's such a shame because he's worked really hard and was otherwise enjoying SATS week, but now feels horrible about himself, the teachers who told them off and the girls getting rewarded when all the boys were punished.

I feel like I need to speak to the school next week and find out what's gone on and why. I also feel like making a complaint. But I'm not sure what they are going to do to make things better even if they did agree with me that it was not a great way to deal with some boy's bad behaviour and also very bad timing so should I just forget about it...?

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Bourbonversuscustardcream · 16/05/2025 17:36

Why are you jumping to concluding you need to make a complaint, without apparently knowing what the infraction was or the involvement of your son. I can’t imagine any teacher would take any joy at all in spoiling what should be a nice day, so my money is on bullying or damage to school property (boys toilets?)

Ddakji · 16/05/2025 17:36

You’ve missed out why this detention happened. An oversight, I’m sure.

MushMonster · 16/05/2025 17:35

It sounds like there has been some serious drama with some of the year 6 boys and nobody has owned up to it.
The blame is on those who have broken something on the toilets, or wrote something rude or nasty, or got a vape or were rude beyond the pale to someone on the corridors or playground or whatever, but said nothing.
Your son surely knows, because they should have been asked by the teachers.
Call the school and get the full version of this.

MonteStory · 16/05/2025 17:34

Nothing like enough information:
what happened for them to need a lesson?
were they separated for 10 minutes, an hour or the whole day?
Were all the boys genuinely involved in whatever happened?

I think you should speak to the school as the reward was for doing the sats, which he did therefore he should receive his award. Also whole group punishments are just a crap of dealing with stuff. They should have chosen a different day to deal with it. BUT my level of complaint would depend entirely on the answers to the above and my own sons involvement.

ClassySassyBonnieLassie · 16/05/2025 17:31

I think the first thing you need to do it understand why it was done, as there is no context as to why it happened. it is hard to know if a situation has been dealt with proportionally without knowing what the situation was/is