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AIBU to ask who you would report a potentially dangerous driver to?

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 08:32

Ok, so long story kept relatively sort -
there’s a woman who lives at the bottom of our cul-de-sac. Lives her entire life on Facebook, so is always posting on community pages.
i’ve seen several posts from her asking if anyone could spare a couple of hours to sit in with her whilst she drives as she’s learning, talk about doing her theory etc.
I’ve now seen her driving twice, alone.
now, partly because my children play on the street, and partly because I’m a nosey cow, I clicked on her (public) Facebook profile and there is not a single post about her passing her test, being able to drive etc etc, which wouldn’t be a problem ordinarily, but she is the type of woman to post when she’s caught up with her housework, or to tell people what she’s had for tea, or to complain about the weather.
There’s actually quite a few posts complaining about flashes and floaters in her eyes and her poor vision!
is there anyone I can call to tell my concerns to (that she’s driving without a full licence)?

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ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 09:22

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 09:20

Yup, no problem - happy to update.

Will be glad if I’m wrong.

So will I :)

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 09:20

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 09:16

Okay, so will you let us know on here if your suspicions (purely based on her not posting about passing her driving test on her public profile on facebook) were proven anyway correct?

Yup, no problem - happy to update.

Will be glad if I’m wrong.

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ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 09:16

Okay, so will you let us know on here if your suspicions (purely based on her not posting about passing her driving test on her public profile on facebook) were proven anyway correct?

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 09:04

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 08:50

So you are saying " potentially without a licence".

So to be clear on this, you're going to report your neighbour to the authorities because she didn't post the ( very likely) fact that she has got her licence, on her public profile on facebook!?

Jeez, some neighbour you are hey!!

P.s. if you're really concerned (& not just a nosey, total trouble making b) for starters, how about just asking your neighbour how her driving test went say? Or perhaps congratulating her that she's now got her licence, & then monitoring her reaction & response to this, leading on to a more intrusive chat if needs be, say?? Before jumping to ill conceived conclusions based on what evidence exactly.... oh just your suspicion, is it!?

Honestly, jeez...

Edited

well, if she had passed, it’s 99.9% certain that she would post about it - when I looked at her profile I was able to see how many hours she’d slept for the night before as she has literally posted everything that she does with her day.
she would have posted if she had passed.
plus, if she has and I’m wrong, she’s not going to be in any trouble, is she?
If she shouldn’t be driving, and she’s driving past my home multiple times a day then what? Yeah, maybe she’ll pass by without incident. Or maybe - best case scenario she damages my vehicle with no insurance, worse case she kills my kid.
this is only going to be an issue for her if I’m right.

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PositiveLife · 16/05/2025 08:53

My police force have a live chat you can contact them on. I would assume they'd be able to run checks on vehicle/driver.

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 08:50

So you are saying " potentially without a licence".

So to be clear on this, you're going to report your neighbour to the authorities because she didn't post the ( very likely) fact that she has got her licence, on her public profile on facebook!?

Jeez, some neighbour you are hey!!

P.s. if you're really concerned (& not just a nosey, total trouble making b) for starters, how about just asking your neighbour how her driving test went say? Or perhaps congratulating her that she's now got her licence, & then monitoring her reaction & response to this, leading on to a more intrusive chat if needs be, say?? Before jumping to ill conceived conclusions based on what evidence exactly.... oh just your suspicion, is it!?

Honestly, jeez...

Soyfinger · 16/05/2025 08:38

You seem to be on all these community pages a lot!

Yes report to dvla. Today.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 08:37

Soyfinger · 16/05/2025 08:34

Out of interest, do you or have you had any negative interactions with this neighbour?

Nope, no relationship at all - positive or negative.
only aware of her because of her Facebook presence.
to add though, even if I did have a positive relationship with her, I’d not ignore someone potentially driving without a full licence.

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Swiftie1878 · 16/05/2025 08:36

101

Gundogday · 16/05/2025 08:36

I’m guessing ring 101 or crimestoppers.

JoyousEagle · 16/05/2025 08:36

You can report anonymously to the DVLA online.

GrouachMacbeth · 16/05/2025 08:35

DVLA online anonymously if you know, suspect medical.
101 if you feel dangerous driving.

"Oh don't report her, she's old and will die soon and sooner without her car" - SPLAT as she runs over ds and DD.

Soyfinger · 16/05/2025 08:34

Out of interest, do you or have you had any negative interactions with this neighbour?

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