AIBU to ask who you would report a potentially dangerous driver to?

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 2025-05-16T07:32:48+00:00

Ok, so long story kept relatively sort - there’s a woman who lives at the bottom of our cul-de-sac. Lives her entire life on Facebook, so is always posting on community pages. i’ve seen several posts from her asking if anyone could spare a couple of hours to sit in with her whilst she drives as she’s learning, talk about doing her theory etc. I’ve now seen her driving twice, alone. now, partly because my children play on the street, and partly because I’m a nosey cow, I clicked on her (public) Facebook profile and there is not a single post about her passing her test, being able to drive etc etc, which wouldn’t be a problem ordinarily, but she is the type of woman to post when she’s caught up with her housework, or to tell people what she’s had for tea, or to complain about the weather. There’s actually quite a few posts complaining about flashes and floaters in her eyes and her poor vision! is there anyone I can call to tell my concerns to (that she’s driving without a full licence)?

Clickjaw · 04/06/2025 21:12

Who buys a car second hand and doesn’t bother to do the 30 second DVLA online MOT check?!

Reliablesource · 04/06/2025 20:57

Multiple people saying to report anonymously to DVLA, but it’s not that simple! We have an old lady living in a nearby block who everyone knows has dementia; she regularly abandons her car in the middle of the turning road or overhanging a corner, and goes home, causing massive inconvenience to everyone else. Her car is covered in dents and scrapes and she has hit several other parked vehicles. It is bonkers!

We used the DVLA reporting portal and gave all these details, including her make, model & reg number. Got an email back from DVLA saying that they couldn’t do anything without her full name and address, which I do not know. I phoned DVLA and explained that school children use the close to cut through en route to school and this woman is going to knock someone down, but they reiterated that they can’t do anything without her full details. Even though DVLA know damn well who the registered keeper of the car is!

Several of us have reported multiple times to the police and the council when she has blocked the turning road or parked in a dangerous position, sometimes for up to 48 hours and absolutely no one has responded. The last time we reported to police they said they would ‘try’ to send a patrol car out but never did.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 04/06/2025 20:44

Clickjaw · 04/06/2025 19:00

Have you seen her driving around since then OP?

No - but the plot thickens!

A few days after I posted this (and filled an online crime stoppers form) I saw a post on our town community Facebook page (I know, can’t wait for all the posts suggesting I spend too much time scrolling!) from a woman basically shaming her for selling her a dodgy car - the car I’d seen her driving, saying that she’d sold it with a fake mot certificate.
there were loads of people commenting that they’d had run ins with her, and lots of people also saying that she was driving without a full licence after previously being banned.
the woman who bought the car said she’d reported her with all the relevant authorities, so I decided to leave it with her.

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Clickjaw · 04/06/2025 19:00

Have you seen her driving around since then OP?

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 17:34

Oh you have finally done it! Hallelujah!

enjoy your aperol

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 17:34

You too

after presumably you have reported her

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 17/05/2025 17:27

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 17:25

Absolutely report to dvla

baffling you have chosen to spend what clearly is quite a bit of time concluding she spend her life on SM rather than just, you know, google what to do if you suspect someone driving without a license.

answer: report to dvla

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Thanks for you input.

enjoy what remains of the day!

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Rumbley · 17/05/2025 17:25

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 17/05/2025 17:06

Jesus Christ.

i am not living my life through this woman - I wouldn’t have given her driving by a second thought if I hadn’t seen her posting so frequently on our community page about needing someone to sit with her so she can get some practice in.

it took me a total of 10 mins maximum to click on her profile and scroll down a few weeks to see that at no stage did she mention passing, however there were multiple posts about her dinner that night, her shopping being completed, bills paid and other such mundane things.

i don’t log in every hour, on the hour to check what she’s doing, so calm down.

would your preference be that I didn’t question it, and she ended up causing an accident or worse?

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Absolutely report to dvla

baffling you have chosen to spend what clearly is quite a bit of time concluding she spend her life on SM rather than just, you know, google what to do if you suspect someone driving without a license.

answer: report to dvla

Gemmawemma9 · 17/05/2025 17:13

No idea why you’re getting such a hard time here OP. If she has a driving license then no harm done. If she doesn’t, you’ve potentially avoided a serious accident. I totally get why you’re concerned.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 17/05/2025 17:06

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 16:59

Why are you following so religiously a woman in her 60s you don’t know?

Read back through your posts… you describe her as living her life through SM

But you’d have to also be living your life through watching SM if you have concluded this surely

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Jesus Christ.

i am not living my life through this woman - I wouldn’t have given her driving by a second thought if I hadn’t seen her posting so frequently on our community page about needing someone to sit with her so she can get some practice in.

it took me a total of 10 mins maximum to click on her profile and scroll down a few weeks to see that at no stage did she mention passing, however there were multiple posts about her dinner that night, her shopping being completed, bills paid and other such mundane things.

i don’t log in every hour, on the hour to check what she’s doing, so calm down.

would your preference be that I didn’t question it, and she ended up causing an accident or worse?

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Rumbley · 17/05/2025 16:59

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 17/05/2025 16:22

Mate, she’s in her 60’s and I am not. There is zero chance of there being any cross over men wise.
as I said up thread, this is purely out of concern for my children, and to a lesser extent my own vehicle.
I appreciate your previous concern re my mental health, but can assure you that it’s really not needed.

anyway, sat down last night once I saw her again so had her number plate, and filled out an online form on the crime stoppers website - couldn’t find a relevant form on the dvla website or local police website, but will give 101 a call on Monday in case crime stoppers was the wrong place.

will update if anything comes of it, or not.

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Why are you following so religiously a woman in her 60s you don’t know?

Read back through your posts… you describe her as living her life through SM

But you’d have to also be living your life through watching SM if you have concluded this surely

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 17/05/2025 16:22

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 15:32

This will be about a man, I’d bet a lot on it! The Op seems inordinately peeved at this woman extensive SM usage, which the OP appears to share!

Mate, she’s in her 60’s and I am not. There is zero chance of there being any cross over men wise.
as I said up thread, this is purely out of concern for my children, and to a lesser extent my own vehicle.
I appreciate your previous concern re my mental health, but can assure you that it’s really not needed.

anyway, sat down last night once I saw her again so had her number plate, and filled out an online form on the crime stoppers website - couldn’t find a relevant form on the dvla website or local police website, but will give 101 a call on Monday in case crime stoppers was the wrong place.

will update if anything comes of it, or not.

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Rumbley · 17/05/2025 15:32

This will be about a man, I’d bet a lot on it! The Op seems inordinately peeved at this woman extensive SM usage, which the OP appears to share!

TopographicalTime · 17/05/2025 09:41

DVLA or 101. Definitely not unreasonable to report her - assuming she doesn't have a secret driving twin sister??

Hallywally · 17/05/2025 09:35

Of course you should report someone driving without a licence- it’s a serious offence. She’s a risk to herself, other drivers and pedestrians.

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 09:31

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 16:58

Right, ok - so up to 3 weeks ago she’s begging for people to sit with her so she can get some driving practice and mentioning a need to pass her theory.
this week she’s driving around solo with no learner stickers.
she practically shares every fart she does on social media, she shares that she needs to pass her theory on social media - but there’s no mention of her passing either her theory or her test.
That doesn’t concern you at all?
i wouldn’t think twice if it was someone who posted in a ‘normal’ way hadn’t mentioned it.

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I think for your own mental health op, it might be wise to hide this woman on your social media

Rumbley · 17/05/2025 09:30

Op you’re a bit weird about this woman
Clearly a backstory.
Either way… no way will you update the thread!

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 16:58

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 16:18

Ah yes, but it's not because of something the OP read on facebook is it?

It's because her neighbour didn't write up anything on Facebook about her passing her test that she's then reporting her to the authorities . I mean come on!?

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Right, ok - so up to 3 weeks ago she’s begging for people to sit with her so she can get some driving practice and mentioning a need to pass her theory.
this week she’s driving around solo with no learner stickers.
she practically shares every fart she does on social media, she shares that she needs to pass her theory on social media - but there’s no mention of her passing either her theory or her test.
That doesn’t concern you at all?
i wouldn’t think twice if it was someone who posted in a ‘normal’ way hadn’t mentioned it.

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TinyTempest · 16/05/2025 16:42

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 13:51

Not sure why you’ve got that idea that we are ‘both on the Facebook group so much’
do you not scroll through past posts when you are having a little browse?
it takes around 5 minutes of my day to have a little look - and when someone repeatedly posts the same thing, you notice it more and more.

as said above, some comments on here are odd.

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It wasn't a dig lol.

But it would be relevant to ask on her post.

Createausername1970 · 16/05/2025 16:41

I do take your point @ThatDaringEagle , just because someone hasn't posted it on Facebook that they passed their test, doesn't mean they haven't.

I dislike social media anyway, most of it is showing off, so nothing I do goes on-line, I don't have any SM accounts. So someone could theoretically report me for non-payment of my road tax because I haven't explicitly said on Facebook that I paid it. Which would be ridiculous.

But I also take the OPs point, that this person is a constant poster on FB, posts really mundane stuff on a frequent basis, so it appears to bit odd not to have posted that they passed their test.

I can see both sides, but on balance I would still err on the side of caution and report.

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 16:18

Createausername1970 · 16/05/2025 14:15

You are getting a lot of unpleasant responses. Personally, if I had cause to think someone was driving around with no licence (and it wouldn't matter if it was because of something I read on Facebook or overheard on a bus) then I would report it. If she hasn't passed her test she shouldn't be driving on her own.

She might be perfectly safe - and a better driver than some who have licences - but that's not the point. She is potentially uninsured and no-one wants their car hit by an uninsured driver.

Ah yes, but it's not because of something the OP read on facebook is it?

It's because her neighbour didn't write up anything on Facebook about her passing her test that she's then reporting her to the authorities . I mean come on!?

Createausername1970 · 16/05/2025 14:15

You are getting a lot of unpleasant responses. Personally, if I had cause to think someone was driving around with no licence (and it wouldn't matter if it was because of something I read on Facebook or overheard on a bus) then I would report it. If she hasn't passed her test she shouldn't be driving on her own.

She might be perfectly safe - and a better driver than some who have licences - but that's not the point. She is potentially uninsured and no-one wants their car hit by an uninsured driver.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/05/2025 13:51

TinyTempest · 16/05/2025 13:01

As you're both on the Facebook group so much, why not ask her on there why she's driving around alone?

Not sure why you’ve got that idea that we are ‘both on the Facebook group so much’
do you not scroll through past posts when you are having a little browse?
it takes around 5 minutes of my day to have a little look - and when someone repeatedly posts the same thing, you notice it more and more.

as said above, some comments on here are odd.

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TinyTempest · 16/05/2025 13:01

As you're both on the Facebook group so much, why not ask her on there why she's driving around alone?

JustAnInchident · 16/05/2025 12:56

Some of these replies are strange. It doesn’t really matter how or why the op thinks this lady doesn’t have a full licence surely, only that there is (reasonable, given the context!) doubt she does. If that’s the case, of course, report her. As has been said, it’ll only cause problems for this lady if the op is correct. It not, no harm, no foul.