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To not tell work about pregnancy yet? (Teacher - timetabling)

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kmurray1 · 16/05/2025 07:12

Recently found out I’m pregnant (about 5 weeks) and ideally I’d wait until after the first scan to tell anyone. However, I’m a teacher and timetabling is being done now. Nothing is set in stone yet but I’ve been told I’ll likely have at least 2 exam classes next year (GCSE/A level). It’s a private school and we break up at the end of June, when I’ll be about 10 weeks.

WIBU to wait until 12 weeks to disclose my pregnancy? Or should I tell my line manager ASAP?

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kmurray1 · 16/05/2025 08:02

Thank you for all the responses. I am leaning towards telling HOD and line manager early as there are a few staffing question marks already and I think it would be the considerate thing to do. It’s a big school and timetabling must be a nightmare. I also don’t want to disrupt my classes any more than necessary.

It just feels strange to tell when I’m not even experiencing symptoms yet! I doubt I’ll get an early scan as with previous babies I could only arrange the booking appt once 10 weeks then nothing until the first scan at 12-14. I hope everything is ok.

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DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/05/2025 07:59

Do what you feel most comfortable with.

There is really no right or wrong.

I gess it depends a lot on how you are feeling with pregnancy symptoms and your relationship with your manager.

stichguru · 16/05/2025 07:55

I don't think you need to tell them, but I think it is the polite and right thing to do. Realistically there is a good chance you won't lose the baby, and so you will leave part way through next year. That will be disruptive for classes and so if they can load you towards less GCSE or A level classes, that's going to be better for the students.

RosesAndHellebores · 16/05/2025 07:44

I would not tell a soul at five weeks. I might consider it at 8/9 if an EPU scan indicated a healthy pregnancy.
Otherwise the earliest I would tell or expect to be told is after the 12 week scan.

The employer does not need to conduct a risk assessment if they don't know a member of staff is pregnant.

It won't help timetabling to be told now if you lose the baby and it won't particularly help you to know they know and now have to reverse accommodations and next year for you to be wondering if they are wondering whether it's worth offering you x, y or z because you might be pregnant.

Readytohealnow · 16/05/2025 07:34

My husband does the timetable at a private school. It takes him ages, even with all his geeky computer/algorithm/excel knowledge. Sitting on information like that only to screw up all that work and having to start again…it’s soul destroying. Don’t spread it about the whole world but tell the necessary people please.

Purpleturtle43 · 16/05/2025 07:34

I'm a teacher and I would tell the head. They should keep in confidential and they should know from a safety point of view anyway. You might have pregnancy related symptoms that you need adjustments/time off for and if heaven forbid, the worst was to happen, you would need time off anyway.

Renabrook · 16/05/2025 07:33

I told work as soon as I found out I didnt care what legally i had to I do what I thought was right and that was to give people as much notice so arrangements could be made and it helped colleagues with planning , although I was not in teaching

RhaenysRocks · 16/05/2025 07:31

I agree you should tell them. Depending on your subject they may want to reallocate the A level class in case they can't recruit a good mat cover person. They absolutely should not have an issue with keeping it quiet for a few weeks until everyone knows but it enables them to make the best decisions for the kids. Timetabling is horrendous and very difficult to unpick once it's in.

User79853257976 · 16/05/2025 07:31

I told mine early first time around because two people in my department handed in their notice and I knew they would need to recruit a replacement for me too.

mammabing · 16/05/2025 07:27

I would personally tell them. Not so much because of the timetabling but so they were aware if I had to run out of the room to throw up! In primary it’s not really ok to leave the class alone so if the head saw me run past she knew to run to my class and cover if my TA was on lunch. I told my TA too so she knew to step in when needed

Motherofacertainage · 16/05/2025 07:21

If you trust your HOD and head I'd say tell them in confidence. They will appreciate your candour and if you're close you would presumably tell them if, heaven forbid, anything went wrong with the pregnancy - in which case no harm done by saying something now.

The6thQueen · 16/05/2025 07:20

I would just let the Head know. They can direct the timetabler without needing to tell anyone else why. Job done.

jill5676 · 16/05/2025 07:19

You're not obliged to tell them this early so it's entirely up to you. I told my work about 7 weeks (also teacher but primary) because I was feeling really sick and needed to book time off for scans and needed cover for those appointments. I was glad my headteacher knew because I certainly wasn't firing on all cylinders for a few weeks! But if you're feeling good and want to wait to tell them, you absolutely can.

Agix · 16/05/2025 07:18

Ah that's tricky, but I'd say tell them. Discreetly of course and explain you wouldn't want to be telling them otherwise. But it's good of you to give them a heads up, they'll probably appreciate it.

Kaleidoscopic101 · 16/05/2025 07:17

It depends on what kind of relationship you have e with your line manager but you might experience significant symptoms between now and June like morning sickness, fatigue and will need to have a midwife appointment 6 to 8 weeks to confirm the pregnancy. It would probably be better to tell them in confidence even though it's hard at this stage. They also have a legal obligation to carry out a risk assessment at work for expectant mothers, even though it might be you're not doing risky activities, it still means they can support you better. Will it give you peace of mind to tell them?

AliBaliBee1234 · 16/05/2025 07:14

I myself wouldn't feel comfortable telling them before 12 weeks but I can understand why you're considering it.

Ultimately. tell them when you want. Anything could happen which would mean they need to redo the timetable and get cover (sickness, resignation etc)