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To have complained about today’s episode of Loose Women

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WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 20:44

My DH thinks IABU but I’m adamant this was inappropriate.

Loose Women had a ‘dummy’ of a man’s bottom on their show earlier and one of the presenters/guests inserted their finger where the sun doesn’t shine.

I was eating lunch at the time and found this extremely unbecoming for that time of the day.

I expect my complaint will fall on deaf ears, but it’s worth a go.

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ItGhoul · 15/05/2025 22:16

Why would you assume that?

Pearl-clutchers really do reveal so much about their own repressed obsessions sometimes.

I speak as someone who actually has put my finger up a man’s bum for sexual purposes, numerous times, when I say that before I’d even read the thread, I thought “Surely they must have just been raising awareness of prostate cancer screening? It’s fine, what’s the problem?” And yet it’s the Ban This Sick Filth brigade who apparently immediately thought of the male G-spot and ‘digital rape’.

user1473878824 · 15/05/2025 22:16

nomas · 15/05/2025 20:46

YANBU. Sounds like digital rape.

What

TY78910 · 15/05/2025 22:15

Someone2025 · 15/05/2025 22:13

A demonstration definitely gets more attention/ understanding than just words so there was a reason

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Also, any male I’ve ever encountered has said something along the lines of ‘Im NoT gETtiNg a FiNgEr pUt aNywhERe nEaR mY bUtThOlE’ which means there is a huge stigma around it. So the point of the demo is likely to say - it’s not that bad and lasts less than a minute.

doodleschnoodle · 15/05/2025 22:13

I remember having a crush on Craig Doyle 20+ years ago. He has aged like fine wine. 54!

HRC2020 · 15/05/2025 22:13

I always wonder how terminally offended people like the OP and a small amount of the posters on here get through life.

Someone2025 · 15/05/2025 22:13

Gloriia · 15/05/2025 21:39

They don't need to feature a fake rectal examination. Seriously, an explanation is sufficient.

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A demonstration definitely gets more attention/ understanding than just words so there was a reason

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 15/05/2025 22:10

You're embarrassing yourself @WithYou47 with this ridiculous thread.

It wasn't even Loose Women, it was Loose Men, and the show was about Mens health, and to try and encourage them to check things, like their testicles, their chest, and their tongue and mouth, and they are being encouraged to get prostate exams. The finger in the fake bum was demonstrating what happens with a prostate exam.

What a nonsensical and pointless thread, fussing and complaining about nothing. 🙄

HERE is what you saw.

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Banmooo · 15/05/2025 22:10

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 22:02

My complaint stands - it didn’t need a graphic demonstration!

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You have no idea what you were looking at, so how are you qualified to decide that?

DelectableMe · 15/05/2025 22:08

JoyousEagle · 15/05/2025 21:01

I think OP is being slightly disingenuous. I’ve just looked up loose women on YouTube to see if they have a clip from today’s episode, and it looks like it was all male presenters (is that what they do sometimes on LW?) and there was a dr demonstrating a prostate exam. So it wasn’t giggling women poking around for a joke, it was a medical segment talking about what the prostate is and how the exam works

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Thank you. A voice of reason and sanity.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 15/05/2025 22:06

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

Whoops 🤭 that was a huge assumption.
Did you glance at the TV and grab the phone?

brunettemic · 15/05/2025 22:06

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

So you complained about something but didn’t know what you were complaining about? Great work there.

KaToby · 15/05/2025 22:05

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 22:02

My complaint stands - it didn’t need a graphic demonstration!

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Would you have complained if it was showing women how to exam their breasts?

Seamond · 15/05/2025 22:05

So many posters so keen to make it clear they don't watch it😂😂

TY78910 · 15/05/2025 22:04

JoyousEagle · 15/05/2025 21:01

I think OP is being slightly disingenuous. I’ve just looked up loose women on YouTube to see if they have a clip from today’s episode, and it looks like it was all male presenters (is that what they do sometimes on LW?) and there was a dr demonstrating a prostate exam. So it wasn’t giggling women poking around for a joke, it was a medical segment talking about what the prostate is and how the exam works

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It was loose men - I didn’t watch but saw it on the TV guide bit of telly this morning and I remember thinking what on earth is loose men (never watched either)

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WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 22:02

feelingbleh · 15/05/2025 22:01

So you put in an actual complaint over an assumption, I suggest you contact them again to apologise and withdraw your complaint and next time you put in an official complaint about something or someone get your facts right before doing so as you have no idea what implications your complaint may cause to an innocent person

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My complaint stands - it didn’t need a graphic demonstration!

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feelingbleh · 15/05/2025 22:01

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

So you put in an actual complaint over an assumption, I suggest you contact them again to apologise and withdraw your complaint and next time you put in an official complaint about something or someone get your facts right before doing so as you have no idea what implications your complaint may cause to an innocent person

Seamond · 15/05/2025 22:00

Channel hopping, what between the news and LW,

Banmooo · 15/05/2025 21:59

Gloriia · 15/05/2025 21:42

Exactly. We're all adults and understand explanations there is no need for fake bums Confused

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I think you overestimate the intelligence of the Loose Women demographic

Banmooo · 15/05/2025 21:58

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

You made weird assumptions because you missed the start and then complained?

Are you for real?

feelingbleh · 15/05/2025 21:58

DelphiniumDoreen · 15/05/2025 21:53

I would have complained too. Standards are in the gutter. I’ve emailed the BBC twice to complain about Charlie and Naga’s incredibly rude and childish behaviour.

If you make an official complaint, it gets logged. I complain about poor customer service, rude staff, systems that don’t work because I am fed up to the back teeth of paying over the odds for sub standard service.

Don’t get me started on wheelie bins and the local council….

Why would you complain about a dr educating and reassuring everyone about prostate exams or do you want more people do die unnecessarily from cancer. Would you complain about a breast exam being shown on tv

ItGhoul · 15/05/2025 21:57

nomas · 15/05/2025 20:46

YANBU. Sounds like digital rape.

It really doesn’t.

Original poster
WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

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ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 15/05/2025 21:55

YABU for watching Loose Women

AdoraBell · 15/05/2025 21:55

YANBU

DelphiniumDoreen · 15/05/2025 21:53

I would have complained too. Standards are in the gutter. I’ve emailed the BBC twice to complain about Charlie and Naga’s incredibly rude and childish behaviour.

If you make an official complaint, it gets logged. I complain about poor customer service, rude staff, systems that don’t work because I am fed up to the back teeth of paying over the odds for sub standard service.

Don’t get me started on wheelie bins and the local council….