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To have complained about today’s episode of Loose Women

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WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 20:44

My DH thinks IABU but I’m adamant this was inappropriate.

Loose Women had a ‘dummy’ of a man’s bottom on their show earlier and one of the presenters/guests inserted their finger where the sun doesn’t shine.

I was eating lunch at the time and found this extremely unbecoming for that time of the day.

I expect my complaint will fall on deaf ears, but it’s worth a go.

OP posts:
SilviaSnuffleBum · 15/05/2025 22:35

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 22:02

My complaint stands - it didn’t need a graphic demonstration!

You sound absolutely ridiculous.

JoyousEagle · 15/05/2025 22:35

GravyBoatWars · 15/05/2025 22:28

I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual purposes.

Goodness, OP. You see a clip with a doctor - wearing an exam glove - explaining a medical exam with a clear banner across the screen indicating that the segment is explaining what happens in a prostate exam as part of a health clinic topic and you start thinking of sex acts? This preoccupation seems like maybe something to discuss in therapy instead of trying to make it someone else's problem.

Exactly, it’s obvious what was happening.

Plus, how likely is it that ITV at lunchtime will have a mannequin to demonstrate a sexual act?? Does loose women normally cover sex tips with demonstrations?

God knows what OP assumes is going on if she’s channel hoping and stumbles across someone with a banana.

TheWickerHare · 15/05/2025 22:35

I wouldn't have thought people who use terms like 'extremely unbecoming' in a non ironic way would be the type to watch Loose Women.

TiggyTomCat · 15/05/2025 22:34

Haven't watched that coven since the Coleen Nolan v Kim Woodbury episode. Can't bear their self righteous pontificating.

Pricelessadvice · 15/05/2025 22:32

OP, how about you find out exactly what you’re complaining about in future, rather than making a rash decision to be outraged when you haven’t actually got a clue what it is you are seeing.

Good grief, these people walk among us!

PinkArt · 15/05/2025 22:32

JoyousEagle · 15/05/2025 22:24

I seem to remember This Morning (or good morning Britain maybe) doing a segment where they showed a dr checking the testicles of a man facing the camera, just holding his penis in his hand to the side so it couldn’t be seen, but testicles fully visible.

OP would’ve needed smelling salts.

They also showed Vanessa Feltz having a live mammogram recently. As someone who isn't at testing age yet, but lost my mum to breast cancer and so will definitely take up the invite, it was useful to see the process ahead of time.

Pippa12 · 15/05/2025 22:31

My DH has been very unwell recently which resulted in him needing a PR examination. This blind sided him, he didn’t know this examination was ‘a thing’ and was mortified.

I wish he’d of seen this this as I’m sure he’d of been more comfortable with the situation if he’d of had some prior knowledge!

nocoolnamesleft · 15/05/2025 22:30

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

So you are so sex obsessed that you interpreted a demonstration on a mannikin of an incredibly common medical examination technique as a sex act. Pretty sure the problem is with you.

TheFairyCaravan · 15/05/2025 22:29

How pathetic.

Even if you were channel hopping it was obvious what was going on. It was an important message for men. So many men put off going to the doctor to get their prostate checked because they don’t want a finger up the bum, but this showed them that it’s quick and easy. If it helps just one get to the doctors, it’s worth it imo.

And for balance, Vanessa Feltz had a mammogram live on This Morning a few months back. If that encouraged some women to go then that’s great too.

GravyBoatWars · 15/05/2025 22:28

I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual purposes.

Goodness, OP. You see a clip with a doctor - wearing an exam glove - explaining a medical exam with a clear banner across the screen indicating that the segment is explaining what happens in a prostate exam as part of a health clinic topic and you start thinking of sex acts? This preoccupation seems like maybe something to discuss in therapy instead of trying to make it someone else's problem.

To have complained about today’s episode of Loose Women
doodleschnoodle · 15/05/2025 22:28

OP is clearly on the wind up as it’s very clear from the clip that it’s showing a medical procedure. Even if you were channel hopping and joined halfway through it‘s obvious so the faux ‘Well I didn’t know that’s what it was’ is totally shite. It even has a banner at the bottom the whole time saying ‘prostate exam’. Come on.

Someone2025 · 15/05/2025 22:27

TY78910 · 15/05/2025 22:15

Also, any male I’ve ever encountered has said something along the lines of ‘Im NoT gETtiNg a FiNgEr pUt aNywhERe nEaR mY bUtThOlE’ which means there is a huge stigma around it. So the point of the demo is likely to say - it’s not that bad and lasts less than a minute.

Exactly, seeing a doctor doing a demo normalises it

doodleschnoodle · 15/05/2025 22:26

JoyousEagle · 15/05/2025 22:24

I seem to remember This Morning (or good morning Britain maybe) doing a segment where they showed a dr checking the testicles of a man facing the camera, just holding his penis in his hand to the side so it couldn’t be seen, but testicles fully visible.

OP would’ve needed smelling salts.

I think that was Chris Hughes from Love Island/the latest CBB getting his checked! I remember that too.

DelectableMe · 15/05/2025 22:25

PinkArt · 15/05/2025 22:22

The point of the segment, that you didn't watch but felt the need to complain about, was to show how quick, easy and unembarrassing a men's health check is.
It covered things like checking chest tissue, looking at the tongue, a back to camera testicle check and the prostate check on the false bottom. The latter took about one minute, wasn't remotely sexual or inappropriate and was included to help encourage men to get over any embarrassment and go for a simple, potentially life saving test.
Don't miss the opportunity to pearl clutch about something you completely missed the point of though.

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TY78910 · 15/05/2025 22:24

And to add to your reply @PinkArt its reactions like these that contribute to that embarrassment.

DelectableMe · 15/05/2025 22:24

Lauralou19 · 15/05/2025 22:23

Interested to know if the OP has had a close, young male relative go through cancer treatment? I have and im so thankful they chose to ignore any feelings of embarrassment (which no one should ever have as we all have bodies) and go to the GP. They are here today because they made their appointment.

I imagine the staff at Loose Women agreed the tiny risk of putting off a few people (who can’t cope with a bum) was worth it to save lives and make an impact.

I hope someones booking an appointment today they put off because of this show…

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JoyousEagle · 15/05/2025 22:24

Gymnopedie · 15/05/2025 21:13

The programme was Loose Men's Health Clinic. The doctor was Amir Khan. Apparently he also gave Craig Doyle a testicle examination (with Craig's back to the camera).

The whole programme was based on asking why men are so reluctant to see a doctor.

I seem to remember This Morning (or good morning Britain maybe) doing a segment where they showed a dr checking the testicles of a man facing the camera, just holding his penis in his hand to the side so it couldn’t be seen, but testicles fully visible.

OP would’ve needed smelling salts.

Lauralou19 · 15/05/2025 22:23

Interested to know if the OP has had a close, young male relative go through cancer treatment? I have and im so thankful they chose to ignore any feelings of embarrassment (which no one should ever have as we all have bodies) and go to the GP. They are here today because they made their appointment.

I imagine the staff at Loose Women agreed the tiny risk of putting off a few people (who can’t cope with a bum) was worth it to save lives and make an impact.

I hope someones booking an appointment today they put off because of this show…

DelectableMe · 15/05/2025 22:22

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 15/05/2025 22:10

You're embarrassing yourself @WithYou47 with this ridiculous thread.

It wasn't even Loose Women, it was Loose Men, and the show was about Mens health, and to try and encourage them to check things, like their testicles, their chest, and their tongue and mouth, and they are being encouraged to get prostate exams. The finger in the fake bum was demonstrating what happens with a prostate exam.

What a nonsensical and pointless thread, fussing and complaining about nothing. 🙄

HERE is what you saw.

That sounds excellent. Educational and supportive.

PinkArt · 15/05/2025 22:22

The point of the segment, that you didn't watch but felt the need to complain about, was to show how quick, easy and unembarrassing a men's health check is.
It covered things like checking chest tissue, looking at the tongue, a back to camera testicle check and the prostate check on the false bottom. The latter took about one minute, wasn't remotely sexual or inappropriate and was included to help encourage men to get over any embarrassment and go for a simple, potentially life saving test.
Don't miss the opportunity to pearl clutch about something you completely missed the point of though.

ItGhoul · 15/05/2025 22:22

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 22:02

My complaint stands - it didn’t need a graphic demonstration!

It does, though. Loads of men are terrified of the examination and think it’s a much bigger deal than it is, when it’s actually a really quick and painless test. Describing it isn’t a substitute for actually seeing it and knowing exactly what to expect.

Breast exams have been demonstrated many times on day time shows for exactly the same reason. It is a good thing. Don’t let your prudery / squeamishness get in the way of a really useful awareness campaign that could potentially save lives. Jeez.

DelectableMe · 15/05/2025 22:22

OP, seriously, why not actually double check before the outrage?

PinkyFlamingo · 15/05/2025 22:19

tillyandmilly · 15/05/2025 21:04

How low can you go? Trash tv in my opinion

Yes it's an awful programme I don't think trying to educateen about prostrate cancer is "low" though.

GravyBoots · 15/05/2025 22:17

OP - Implies that Loose Woman sticks finger up arsehole of plastic dummy. It puts her off her lunch.
Visions formed of cackling, old yet immature women. Fair assumption.

Truth - Male medical episode outlining what happens during a prostate examination with regards to cancer.

How dull.

Complaint well received by anyone needing some light relief (not of the finger up arsehole kind).

hattie43 · 15/05/2025 22:16

doodleschnoodle · 15/05/2025 22:13

I remember having a crush on Craig Doyle 20+ years ago. He has aged like fine wine. 54!

He does look good doesn’t he . I thought Charles was less stuffy than I imagined aswell . Might be an act though , it’s not easy to have 3 divorces .